my past is....

[fionamydear]

hi everybody,

I feel my past is haunting me, I am not able to forget my past on move on ,
my past anger, my past hatred, my past failures, my past bad lucks, my past set backs r
haunting me , I want to detoxify my mind , I want to start new life ,but how ? plz help

[Andyee]

1) Go to a specialist( do not recommend)
2) See all your failures not as failures, but as a step towards better life. You learned from your mistakes

[KtotheB]

You may want to read a book about present moment awareness - it will help you release the past. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle is a good one

[fionamydear]

thanks both of u Andyee ,KtotheB
@ Andyee is that required to consult a specialist .......I wanted to solve it myself

[DeborahM]

There will always be failures along the road to success. That road is never smooth. It is full of potholes and there are times when it becomes seemingly impossible. Remember, when we "scew up", we should only see this as a temporary setback - perhaps even a new opportunity.

"Anybody could do well when times are easy, but it is the hard times that separate the men from the boys." Don't let your mistakes let you down because it WILL bring you down.

[Remiel]

Why not forgive yourself?

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by fionamydear

hi everybody,

I feel my past is haunting me, I am not able to forget my past on move on ,
my past anger, my past hatred, my past failures, my past bad lucks, my past set backs r
haunting me , I want to detoxify my mind , I want to start new life ,but how ? plz help

trust me I know how hard that is !!
but ask yourself one simple question

is rehashing these memories over and over again going to help you move forward
the answer is no right ?

well think of this quote -

I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better."
— Maya Angelou


beating yourself up will not help you develop into the person you were meant to be

and also I like this book -
A New Earth (Audiobook) by Eckhart Tolle

[The Cloud]

Originally Posted by fionamydear

I wanted to solve it myself

You're always going to be stuck with your past if you keep trying to fix it. The past is in the untouchable past; your problem is not that it happened, but that you drag that past into the future so it can be fixed.

You have a problem with your feelings right now. Your problem is that you're making them problematic. Your making your stupid irrational behaviors into problems, when they are nothing of the sort. They are just stupid irrational behaviors. You have no control over them, you have no responsibility for them. They aren't a part of you, and you aren't a part of them; they exist only as themselves. I suppose that you can suppress their overt external expression, but that does nothing to alter their existence internally and probably just ensures that they exhibit themselves more subtly in your other behaviors.

You think you can control them, but doesn't past experience disprove that over and over? If you really could control them, then you would. If they were yours to fix, then they would be fixed. You can't control them, so you can't be responsible for them. You have no responsibility, so you need have no shame at what those feelings do. Nobody else can control them, either, so you need not blame yourself or others for your stupider, more irrational feelings and actions. There's no blame because there's no one in control. It's nobody's fault.

[Tristan Lee]

You will not be able to forget your past. The past is the past, and it will be stuck with us until the remainder of our lives.

We all have had bad pasts. I too remember having things that happened in the years of elementary school that still haunts me today.

The best thing I can advice to do is not to try to get rid of the past, but accept the past for what it is. The more you fight with those memories, the more you will feel pain internally.

However, when you accept those memories as is, there will be a lesser amount of discord in your emotions. You want to try to set your thinking process and and align them in harmony.

Right now you are trying to get rid of something that you can't. These are like two different roads. However, when you start to accept that your past is what it is, the roads will start to become one road, and you may start to feel a little pain leaving from your body.

[brendannz]

The past does not equal the future!