|07-23-2009, 09:19 AM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2009
my past is....
I feel my past is haunting me, I am not able to forget my past on move on ,
my past anger, my past hatred, my past failures, my past bad lucks, my past set backs r
haunting me , I want to detoxify my mind , I want to start new life ,but how ? plz help
|09-25-2009, 09:28 AM||#5 (permalink)|
Join Date: Sep 2009
There will always be failures along the road to success. That road is never smooth. It is full of potholes and there are times when it becomes seemingly impossible. Remember, when we "scew up", we should only see this as a temporary setback - perhaps even a new opportunity.
"Anybody could do well when times are easy, but it is the hard times that separate the men from the boys." Don't let your mistakes let you down because it WILL bring you down.
|09-25-2009, 04:35 PM||#7 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2008
trust me I know how hard that is !!
but ask yourself one simple question
is rehashing these memories over and over again going to help you move forward
the answer is no right ?
well think of this quote -
I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better."
— Maya Angelou
beating yourself up will not help you develop into the person you were meant to be
and also I like this book -
A New Earth (Audiobook) by Eckhart Tolle
|09-25-2009, 05:14 PM||#8 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2007
You have a problem with your feelings right now. Your problem is that you're making them problematic. Your making your stupid irrational behaviors into problems, when they are nothing of the sort. They are just stupid irrational behaviors. You have no control over them, you have no responsibility for them. They aren't a part of you, and you aren't a part of them; they exist only as themselves. I suppose that you can suppress their overt external expression, but that does nothing to alter their existence internally and probably just ensures that they exhibit themselves more subtly in your other behaviors.
You think you can control them, but doesn't past experience disprove that over and over? If you really could control them, then you would. If they were yours to fix, then they would be fixed. You can't control them, so you can't be responsible for them. You have no responsibility, so you need have no shame at what those feelings do. Nobody else can control them, either, so you need not blame yourself or others for your stupider, more irrational feelings and actions. There's no blame because there's no one in control. It's nobody's fault.
|09-26-2009, 09:32 AM||#9 (permalink)|
Join Date: Sep 2009
You will not be able to forget your past. The past is the past, and it will be stuck with us until the remainder of our lives.
We all have had bad pasts. I too remember having things that happened in the years of elementary school that still haunts me today.
The best thing I can advice to do is not to try to get rid of the past, but accept the past for what it is. The more you fight with those memories, the more you will feel pain internally.
However, when you accept those memories as is, there will be a lesser amount of discord in your emotions. You want to try to set your thinking process and and align them in harmony.
Right now you are trying to get rid of something that you can't. These are like two different roads. However, when you start to accept that your past is what it is, the roads will start to become one road, and you may start to feel a little pain leaving from your body.
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