Did you turn ur failure into success?

[thenzengineer]

Hi Everyone,
Basically 2009 has been a bad year for me, failure after failure with incredible amount of stress on me. I had to analyse a lot of my goals and change few of my plans in life because of that.

It would be inspirational for me if people could post their personal experience with failure and success. Would be a great way to motivate someone who is feeling down because of their failures.

Regards,

[MartinP]

Hey, great idea for a post!

My own experience is that the best way to deal with failure is to never give up. I have had my share of failures in life, sometimes I have had to change course radically, and sometimes I feel like Im losing hope, but I always come back and keep going.

I love the line in Napoleon Hills THINK AND GROW RICH (if you havent read that book, then you should!) where he talks about not giving up i.e. persistence. he says without persistence you can't win, but with persistence you can't lose.

Its so true!

[Talkofthatown919]

I've failed many times with many different things. With affiliate marketing, blogging and etc. At first i did not learn from my mistakes but now i look at them from a different perspective. With what i did wrong i make sure i do not do the same thing again. Also keep going hard even when i feel like giving up. So as of now i'm turning my whole life into a success. In the meantime i'm working hard and preparing myself for one success comes in a even bigger amount.

[SimonaRich]

When you quit because you experienced some failure then you have missed the entire point. Everyone epxperiences failure and only those that refuse to quit succeed.

I see every failure as a lesson and as a step closer to success.

I had many failures in life but I see of them as lessons and I even get excited after the failure because I know that the success is near.

[nhaasch]

"There is no such thing as failure, only feedback."

[thenzengineer]

2009 has so far for me been labelled with failures. The issue all started with the thought of turning 20, which I do next month. From then everything down hill. Job situation has been crap, education is in the gutter, financial situation is not too bad but would love extra money.

I have been told I have to re-start my work from the bottom, that means going in with possibly younger people, annoys me to hell as I have bit more education and experience then them but have to do the same job as them.

[Swede]

When you're down the gutter my best advice is to take small but largely important steps.

Say you need a new education, but everything is pressing upon you. It might be devastating to work 90 hours per week to attain a full degree within a very short time. But it might be higly rewarding taking a small but important course. If you are irritated on the younger ones getting better positions, why not take a short university course in management, or psychology?

Never count the small steps out. Everything matters. Build your career, brick by brick.

[MrSuccess]

My friend, let us not even talk about how many times I've failed this year...god out of the 20 odd years of my life I'd have to say that 2009, so far, has been a failure!
But I will not give up, hell I refuse to give up!
And neither should you, you are too good to give up and every failure is only more experience for you to work with.

Keep it up my friend, life is great once you start enjoying your failures as much as you do your successes!

[HulkLogan]

For a long time, I considered most of my life a failure.

It has only been the past year that I have come to learn that my past does not define who I am now. It was all simply experiences that have led me to this point. I am actually thankful for those experiences now. I just had to change my perception.

I went into some details of my past experiences in my article Perception Is Reality. Hopefully you can find some inspiration in there.

Cheers!

[loic]

Hey, isn't your biggest success to have realized that you failed?
Failure is interesting when you learn of it. And btw, the only that don't try don't fail.

Unfortunately, most people don't realize they are failing, they are content with mediocrity. You already stand above the pack.

[LVGeneration]

"Failure" is nothing but outside perception of your actions, you think you are failing but are you failing by your standards or someone else's standards? If you were not to think at all about what the outside world expects of you, would you consider that things not turning out the way you planned them to is a failure or just an opportunity to learn and evolve?

Not pursuing a medical career like my family wanted was considered a failure by them, never by me. It was just not my interest.
Pursuing a foreign language college was a great achievement for my spirit, but considered a failure by my math teacher who was convinced that my vivid interest in mathematics would naturally lead to a long term career in the field.
Dropping out of college and leaving behind a scholarship in France to pursue the American dream was considered a failure by many people that knew me, including my family, but never by me.

The list of "failures" could go on and on, believe me...
But I do feel that nobody knows my spirit the way I know it, nobody knows what my spirit rejoices in, nobody knows my whole truth, just pieces of it, nobody knows what makes my soul vibrate... I know I am on the right path and it's all that matters. I know there will be bumps down the road, there will be many more so called "failures", but I chose never to think in that term about myself, "failure". That's the worse thing I could do to my spirit. Minor setbacks that you learn from will only enrich your experience. What you consider a setback now could prove to have been the best thing that ever happened to you.

You say you're only 20. I'm 24, and when I came to America at 21 I was a lot worse than you are right now. Had absolutely no money, a crapy job that paid less than McDonalds, had to get a second job, was overworked and exhausted and broke all the time, lived in the worse dumps you could imagine, had no family or friends, etc.
Well, 3 years later, my life now is a far cry from where it was at 21. But you know what? I don't remember one instant to have thought about myself as a failure. In other people's eyes, I probably was, but I always knew something they didn't: I knew where I came from and where I was going. And I was enjoying every moment of the journey. I still am.

Please don't live your life thinking about what other people will think of you. And don't think in terms of "failures", but setbacks, change of course, nothing irreparable, experiences.
Good luck and I hope this helps!

[fionamydear]

I just turned my failure to success....................

cheers

[Orecle]

According to success mag, Most millionaires fail in average 17 businesses before they hit gold. Dude you are 20, try being 30 - 40 and sitting in a uni with people wh were not born, when you first learnt to drive. or kids as young as your own kids

Sitting in a class with kids a couple years younger aint nothing. If an 11 yr old offered you a job on 200k per yr, doing wat you love, would it bother you he/she was younger?

If you retire at 70, you have another 50 yrs working and learning life ahead. Being behind a couple yrs is a drop in the ocean. I would tell yu the exact same thing at 30, 40, even 50. There are kids being born today who will surpass all our acheivements and invent the next best thing. Bill gates made more money in his 1st 15 yrs in business than people who were older than him in every country. this is just the way life goes.

As long as you give life your best that is what counts.

[MrSuccess]

Originally Posted by LVGeneration

"Failure" is nothing but outside perception of your actions, you think you are failing but are you failing by your standards or someone else's standards? If you were not to think at all about what the outside world expects of you, would you consider that things not turning out the way you planned them to is a failure or just an opportunity to learn and evolve?

Not pursuing a medical career like my family wanted was considered a failure by them, never by me. It was just not my interest.
Pursuing a foreign language college was a great achievement for my spirit, but considered a failure by my math teacher who was convinced that my vivid interest in mathematics would naturally lead to a long term career in the field.
Dropping out of college and leaving behind a scholarship in France to pursue the American dream was considered a failure by many people that knew me, including my family, but never by me.

The list of "failures" could go on and on, believe me...
But I do feel that nobody knows my spirit the way I know it, nobody knows what my spirit rejoices in, nobody knows my whole truth, just pieces of it, nobody knows what makes my soul vibrate... I know I am on the right path and it's all that matters. I know there will be bumps down the road, there will be many more so called "failures", but I chose never to think in that term about myself, "failure". That's the worse thing I could do to my spirit. Minor setbacks that you learn from will only enrich your experience. What you consider a setback now could prove to have been the best thing that ever happened to you.

You say you're only 20. I'm 24, and when I came to America at 21 I was a lot worse than you are right now. Had absolutely no money, a crapy job that paid less than McDonalds, had to get a second job, was overworked and exhausted and broke all the time, lived in the worse dumps you could imagine, had no family or friends, etc.
Well, 3 years later, my life now is a far cry from where it was at 21. But you know what? I don't remember one instant to have thought about myself as a failure. In other people's eyes, I probably was, but I always knew something they didn't: I knew where I came from and where I was going. And I was enjoying every moment of the journey. I still am.

Please don't live your life thinking about what other people will think of you. And don't think in terms of "failures", but setbacks, change of course, nothing irreparable, experiences.
Good luck and I hope this helps!

LVGeneration, thank you so much for sharing you experience, I felt moved to tears by your story and how you rejected the life others wanted for you to pursue your own dreams.
Your example is extremely motivating, especially to me (I'm 20 right now) and you've experienced so much at 24.
Could you share more about your life and experiences? I am hooked.

[LVGeneration]

MrSuccess, that's so kind of you!
I never thought my "life experiences" could actually be considered interesting. I feel like I have so much more to live (like the interesting part is ahead, didn't happen yet).
But I love sharing with people of value like all of you, maybe we can help each other succeed. I am sure every one of your stories is inspiring.
I am sure you have a great story too, even if you're only 20, right?

[brendannz]

You've had a better year than me, because I haven't failed enough this year.

Here's another quote from Napolean Hill; "A winner never quits and a quiter never wins"

[brendannz]

Here's a youtube video about Michael Jordan's failures. Adding to that, he failed to make his high school basketball team..

YouTube - Michael Jordan "Failure" Nike Commercial