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srinrao · 05-20-2009, 03:32 PM

I was thinking the other day about all these things that we get taught growing up and how they have actually become ingrained into us on a subconscious level, but they no longer serve any practical purpose. So I decided it was time for a new set of rules for adult life which are the opposite of what you’ve learned growing up.

1. Talk to Strangers: If there’s one piece of advice that holds you back in adult life that you learned as a child, it’s the notion of not talking to strangers. When you’re a child it’s a safety mechanism. When you’re an adult, it’s like a restraint. If you think about it, almost every friend you have was once a stranger. Every business contact you have was once a stranger. But, yet we go out to social situations and we are often scared to death to talk to strangers, especially those of the opposite sex. So, maybe it’s time we unlearned the old rule and started just talking to strangers to see where it will lead us.

2. Color outside the lines: Conformity is overrated. Coloring inside the lines metaphorically speaking is a way to hold back whatever natural urges and instinct you have. Natural urges and instinct are good things. If your pencil or crayons take you outside of the lines, let them. They will probably lead you where you are supposed to go. Don’t fight something you feel naturally drawn towards doing.

3. Play with Fire (metaphorically of course): They always tell you don’t play with fire. Fire could be a metaphor for anything, relationships, passions, interests, and hobbies. Get out a can of gasoline and let that fire burn as big as it can possibly get. That’s what it’s supposed to do. If you are passionate about something, and you want to take a big risk, do it. There’s no point in having an attachment to something you don’t have in the first place. Don’t fear losing the thing you don’t even have.

4. Be carefree instead of careful: I’ve been trying to figure out how to detach from outcomes. I realized being careful is really not helpful in this case. When you are carefree, you tend to flow. When you are careful, you tend to slow.

5. Make your own rules: In a classroom there always a set of rules when you are growing up. But if you were to go back and look at them, I would guess most of them don’t empower you in adult life. So create your own set of rules.

6. Imagine: This is one of my favorite things to do. Maybe it is the one thing they do right when you are growing up and in school. When you are kid your imagination is so vivid, that a world of flying cars, flying monkeys, and kangaroos in boxing matches, seems completely normal. By the time you are an adult, you’ve been given all this wonderful advice like “be practice, be realistic, don’t be silly,” and other things that have put and end to the one thing that gets you everything in your life, the limitless power imagination.

marinik · 05-20-2009, 03:41 PM

Agree with you but would then sum it up in one, single rule:

Live life ti the fullest.

Dimond · 05-21-2009, 03:15 AM

I do all of those, but #5 is the most important one that rarely anyone does. Everybody seems to think you're suppose to do things a certain way and so they do, rather than try to find their own way. The more I live, the more I find I'd rather do things independently and differently. It works better that way too. No rules, no structure, whenever necessary and only with positive intentions.

Making your own rules is part of all the other rules.

MartinP · 05-21-2009, 10:53 AM

Great List!

I was at a seminar over the weekend, where it was all adults, but there were two kids there aged 8 and 10. And it was funny how much fun the kids were having compared to the boring old adults.

Kids will try and find a way to play ANYWHERE.

I think that's one thing I would add to your list.

cacheborn · 05-21-2009, 11:09 AM

Great list. thanks for sharing.

UnleashReality · 05-21-2009, 01:03 PM

really cool list.

you can sum it up but then you lose the detail - though if i had to sum it up, my favourite way of putting it would be "this is it"

respect
alex

tintin · 05-21-2009, 05:14 PM

ho ! just got back from browsing an indigo children site..synch happening here!
love it. laughed out loud at the 'play with fire' bit.

05-20-2009, 03:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
srinrao Banned Join Date: May 2009 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 25	6 simple rules for adult life I was thinking the other day about all these things that we get taught growing up and how they have actually become ingrained into us on a subconscious level, but they no longer serve any practical purpose. So I decided it was time for a new set of rules for adult life which are the opposite of what you’ve learned growing up. 1. Talk to Strangers: If there’s one piece of advice that holds you back in adult life that you learned as a child, it’s the notion of not talking to strangers. When you’re a child it’s a safety mechanism. When you’re an adult, it’s like a restraint. If you think about it, almost every friend you have was once a stranger. Every business contact you have was once a stranger. But, yet we go out to social situations and we are often scared to death to talk to strangers, especially those of the opposite sex. So, maybe it’s time we unlearned the old rule and started just talking to strangers to see where it will lead us. 2. Color outside the lines: Conformity is overrated. Coloring inside the lines metaphorically speaking is a way to hold back whatever natural urges and instinct you have. Natural urges and instinct are good things. If your pencil or crayons take you outside of the lines, let them. They will probably lead you where you are supposed to go. Don’t fight something you feel naturally drawn towards doing. 3. Play with Fire (metaphorically of course): They always tell you don’t play with fire. Fire could be a metaphor for anything, relationships, passions, interests, and hobbies. Get out a can of gasoline and let that fire burn as big as it can possibly get. That’s what it’s supposed to do. If you are passionate about something, and you want to take a big risk, do it. There’s no point in having an attachment to something you don’t have in the first place. Don’t fear losing the thing you don’t even have. 4. Be carefree instead of careful: I’ve been trying to figure out how to detach from outcomes. I realized being careful is really not helpful in this case. When you are carefree, you tend to flow. When you are careful, you tend to slow. 5. Make your own rules: In a classroom there always a set of rules when you are growing up. But if you were to go back and look at them, I would guess most of them don’t empower you in adult life. So create your own set of rules. 6. Imagine: This is one of my favorite things to do. Maybe it is the one thing they do right when you are growing up and in school. When you are kid your imagination is so vivid, that a world of flying cars, flying monkeys, and kangaroos in boxing matches, seems completely normal. By the time you are an adult, you’ve been given all this wonderful advice like “be practice, be realistic, don’t be silly,” and other things that have put and end to the one thing that gets you everything in your life, the limitless power imagination.

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05-20-2009, 03:41 PM	#2 (permalink)
marinik Legendary Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Where Living and Loving and Laughing are written into the Constitution Posts: 14,240	Agree with you but would then sum it up in one, single rule: Live life ti the fullest.

05-21-2009, 03:15 AM	#3 (permalink)
Dimond Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Posts: 568	I do all of those, but #5 is the most important one that rarely anyone does. Everybody seems to think you're suppose to do things a certain way and so they do, rather than try to find their own way. The more I live, the more I find I'd rather do things independently and differently. It works better that way too. No rules, no structure, whenever necessary and only with positive intentions. Making your own rules is part of all the other rules.

05-21-2009, 10:53 AM	#4 (permalink)
MartinP Banned Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 84	Great List! I was at a seminar over the weekend, where it was all adults, but there were two kids there aged 8 and 10. And it was funny how much fun the kids were having compared to the boring old adults. Kids will try and find a way to play ANYWHERE. I think that's one thing I would add to your list.

05-21-2009, 11:09 AM	#5 (permalink)
cacheborn Family Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 6,439	Great list. thanks for sharing.

05-21-2009, 01:03 PM	#6 (permalink)
UnleashReality Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 67	really cool list. you can sum it up but then you lose the detail - though if i had to sum it up, my favourite way of putting it would be "this is it" respect alex

05-21-2009, 05:14 PM	#7 (permalink)
tintin Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 288	ho ! just got back from browsing an indigo children site..synch happening here! love it. laughed out loud at the 'play with fire' bit.

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