Interested in starting a new life

[elliot]

I don't want to bore anyone with the details. Here is the situation. I'm 25, have known someone online for over four years now, meeting him for the first time this weekend. We've talked over webcam, but it is always a lil different in person. I don't really dislike where I am living now, but at the same time a quarter century in the same house is a pretty long time. Cost of living is especially high and most of the jobs I've seen posted want someone with more experience. I have never been out on my own. I would be moving from Long Island to Richmond Virginia.

This looks like the natural progression of things...
1. Make sure we have chemistry
2. Send my resume everywhere I possibly can that I'm qualified for
3. Do phone interviews
4. Give current employer two week notice
5. Find apartment
6. Get moving van
7. Pack it up, pack it in let this begin.

Anyone else go through a similar experience? Thanks as usual my friends.

[funchy]

You have not met the guy in person yet, but you're asking for advice on moving. Suggestion - why don't you meet him a few times before you even consider moving?

Important question for you to consider: why are you moving to him and not to you? Did he offer to move up to be with you? If not, why not?

[Dan.Linehan]

I strongly agree with Funchy here.

People can be very different when you meet them in real life than your expectations of them might be from associating online, especially in the romantic sense.

[elliot]

Well, I'm not ready to move yet. However at some point there will come a time when I need to. I've spent considerable amounts of time being afraid of change or not being able to fully realize the opportunities before me.

I brought it up because I have serious doubts about Long Island being where I want to spend my future.

[rocksupreme]

While agree about not staking your future on a relationship with someone you've yet to meet in person, I think this could be a great excuse to get out of where you are now.

You say you want to move. Nothing wrong with Richmond. Go and see if you like it. Having someone to help you out and show you around can't hurt. If you decide it's not the place for you, you'll have experience relocating, and the second time will be easier if you decide to move somewhere else.

I would just make sure you are moving into your own apartment there, not a shared one - not right away at first. Relocate on your own terms on a trial basis. Give it six months.

I've done crazier stuff than that and come out OK (moving to a town I'd never heard of in a foreign country to do a job in which I had no experience and only a passing familiarity with the language). I can't comment on the relationship, but if you want to make a move, this sounds like a chance to do so.

[ken nubo]

Go for it. 4 years? Damn.

[SimonaRich]

Don't look at external circumstances and assess your possible success. Always think positively and you will create a perfect job and whatever you need.

[TiffyLove]

I think moving would be a great idea. I would just make sure it was for the right reasons.

As long as you are not moving to be closer to this guy and you are not moving as a way of thinking somewhere else will make you happier.

If you are considering movie as a natural step in your path and you think it will be good for you growth wise. It might be a good idea.

Only you know if it is good for you, just make sure it is coming from the right place.