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04-20-2009, 12:10 AM
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 |  30 day challenge - No complaining part 2
Yep, I need to purify my mind again from all the negative weeds that have been growing there for quite some time. I want to to develop the habit/skill of no complaining because my negativity has been affecting my ability to perform at the level that I want to. I need to develop this ASAP, so I'm starting now! Challenge starts: April 19, 2009 - May 18, 2009 Rules: Do not complain. If I do complain - I record how many times I did it, and what I've complained about. Then I try to replace it with 3 positive things (heard it from Pickuppodcast). Prize: New kicks!! -Franciz |
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04-20-2009, 12:19 AM
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I think this is a great challenge. I may try this myself. Have you seen Tim Ferris's article on this? Real Mind Control: The 21-Day No-Complaint Experiment |
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04-20-2009, 06:37 AM
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April 19, 2009 I think I only complained once today. My friend kept bugging me and I told him to shut the hell up. I'm not even sure if thats a legitimate complaint because I told him about the no complaining challenge and he was taking advantage of the situation. Anyways, I apologized to him quickly and just told him to go blow a cow in a polite manner. Lol. I didn't specify what kinds of things falls under complaint. For this challenge, anything that is negative I'll consider a complaint just to make it more simplier. Also, thanks a lot Dan. I read the article and I took one of my sisters bracelets as my nocomplaint band. I need to get another one though because I just lost it. Man, it looked expensive too. daym! -Franciz |
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04-20-2009, 07:17 AM
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Franciz: Awesome idea for a challenge! I wish you the best time in it. Complaining is really just whining about something with no hope of any change occuring. Telling somene to shut up, or stop doing something, or even swearing at them is completely valid, if it's going to have the impact you wanted.  The other good rule is: a complaint is a complaint when you are complaining to someone not involved in the initial problem. Ie: your mum gets all up in your business so you whine to a friend is a complaint. Telling your mum the same thing would not be a complaint though, because she's involved, and action might happen. (But we know what parents are like.  )Do these help clarify a complaint? |
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04-21-2009, 07:10 AM
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April 20, 2009 To Parthon: Thanks a lot for the support and information. They really help! I complained several times today. I was complaining at the train station because I had to wait for my buddy's friend for half an hour when I could have focus on how good the weather was. I also complained that we missed the dance class that I wanted to take. I also complained after I took this other dance lesson. Anyways, waiting for my buddy's friend, missing the class that I wanted, and taking another class wasn't that bad because I still had an excellent day. And for that Thanks! I'll bring a mini notepad next time so I can record more specifically how many times I complain. -Franciz |
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04-22-2009, 04:42 AM
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April 21, 2009 I didn't use a notepad today. From what I remember, I only complained once today. It was about when me and my friend were discussing about planning parties and how some of the peeps that were suppose to go don't show up. Anyways, I'll make sure to stay away from negative topics next time because my buddy started complaining too after I brought it up. That is all for today folks! Oh yeah, and I'll just put my small notepad beside my pillow so I don't forget to use it tomorrow. P'z -Franciz |
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04-23-2009, 02:31 PM
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April 22, 2009 I went to this place called Swan Lake. This lake didn't even have any swans so I had a rant about it. My bad! To myself: I just happen to be there at the wrong time. Its okay though since I still had a fun day. -Franciz |
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04-25-2009, 02:12 AM
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April 23, 2009 I had a rough day and I let my situation get a hold of me. I complained about the people who decided not not go to this event that I was promoting. I was complaining about this girl's behaviour. I was complaining about how such of a loser I am. Man, I forgot to look at the other sixteen people who showed up for my event. I forgot to see how awesome, beautiful, and talented this girl is. I forgot to see how determined I am to improve myself. I'm sorry for being so harsh. I have so much blessings around me and I hope thats what I always look at. Thanks! P'z -Franciz |
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04-28-2009, 08:22 AM
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I like this idea. I'm assuming you've read Steve Pavlina's blog post on how to stop complaining? August 20th, 2007: How to Stop Complaining On the other hand, I don't think it's complaining if you're just pointing out something you want to change. It's possible to be completely honest without complaining. |
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04-29-2009, 01:57 PM
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This one is for April 28, 2009 Thanks a lot for the support guys and I'll be sure to check out the link. I'm not sure if I've read that article yet. What I accomplished: I don't think I complained today again. I tried focusing on others today so I didn't have to think much about myself or my problems and I think it worked. I also ready my old "no complaining journal." It is really interesting to see how my behaviour changed gradually from a complainer to being a positively sarcastic person. I remember the point when I actually just say positive things even though I didn't really mean it. I mean I don't even think about it, I just say it for the heck of it. Heres an example: A slightly overweight girl walks in the room. Me to my buddy: Yo, she's hot! My Friend: WTF! Me: Look at the way she fits on them jeans. This girl she got me shook (singing Shawn Desman's song) Friend: (joins in) I'd tap that. The funny thing about it too, remembering it back now, is that everyone that I talked with actually became positive too and sarcastic. I became a complimenter everyone liked it especially the boys. LOL. I kind of have an idea where this behaviour of mine is heading to, so I need to work on developing a more genuine approach to my problems and people as well. I've already discussed with my friends and brother about the negative effects of fake compliments back then, so I'll stick to giving genuine compliments. I also want to note that at the time when I was super positive and giving out lots of compliments, I was also doing a social experiment with my brother. We were testing how we could influence people. Does giving value by complimenting people and asking how they're doing really influence people work? From what I've experienced, I think it does. I've gotten deep conversations in the street, number closes (phone numbers, I never called though), and free stuff or with a discount. However, at the end of the day I still felt that all my giving value to others were superficial because I was just doing it in order to elicit a response that I wanted. To summarize this, I think my behaviour by doing this challenge would look and progress like this. complainer->not-a-complainer->mute->complimenter->sarcastically-positive->genuinely positive (I think... if the challenge is long enough and a lot of reviewing of the direction that I want this behaviour to go to) Man, writing this in the morning when everyone is still asleep feels really good. P'z -Franciz |
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05-01-2009, 04:02 AM
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April 30, 2009 I had a couple of complaints about someone's behaviour. It was a really minor issue too. I can't believe I allowed myself to even be bothered by it. Anyways, I'll try harder tomorrow. P'z -Franciz |
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05-04-2009, 06:11 AM
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May 3, 2009 My heart was broken today. I was complaining about my situation for several minutes with my buddies. I'm still thankful that this still happened because this moment was really an eye openner for some of my bad behaviours. I'm not going to let this situation get ahead of me. I'm moving on from this point. P'z -Franciz |
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05-05-2009, 06:52 AM
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May 4, 2009 I failed horribly today. I complained a lot this morning and later on in the evening. I'm letting my situation win over me. This is such a hard struggle. I'll add more details tomorrow because I don't really fell well right now. P'z -Franciz |
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05-08-2009, 03:55 AM
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May 6-7, 2009 I made several complaints. I can't remember what they were though! I think I'll change my approach in tackling this problem. Instead of focusing on trying not to complain, I'll focus on improving the situation. For this to work, I need to start of the day by reminding myself that my task is to give value, and not drop it. In combination with my "wake up at 6 challenge," I'll type this affirmations in the morning, "I am a 10. Lets see... I wonder what I should do to make this person's day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C'mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can!" I think typing this affirmation 30 times everymorning would suffice to getting the message into my memory. P'z -Franciz |
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05-08-2009, 02:06 PM
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May 8, 2009 Pre-no complaining Assignment: Affirmantions I am a 10. Lets see... I wonder what I should do to make this person's day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C'mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 1. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 2. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 3. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 4. I am a 10 Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 5. I am a 10 Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 6. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 7. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 8. I am 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 9. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 10. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 11. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problem I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 12. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 13. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 14. I am a 10.Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 15. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 16. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 17. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 18. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 19. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 20. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 21. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 22. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 23. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you 24. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 25. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 26. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 27. I am a 10. Let’s see. I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 28. I am a 10. Let’s see. I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 29. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 30. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! Comments: This took forever to type! Whew, but now I'm done so it's all good. -Franciz |
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05-09-2009, 06:13 AM
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May 8, 2009 What I accomplished: I didn't complain. I had several complaints running through my head but never bothered myself to say it. Also, I'll reduce to just typing my affirmations to ten times because writing it 30 times takes too much time. P'z -Franciz |
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05-09-2009, 01:30 PM
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May 9, 2009 Pre-no complaining Assignment: Affirmations I am a 10. Lets see... I wonder what I should do to make this person's day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C'mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 1. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 2. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 3. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 4. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 5. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 6. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 7. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 8. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 9. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 10. I am a 10. Let’s see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! -Franciz |
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05-10-2009, 06:51 PM
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May 10, 2009 Pre-no complaining Assignment: Affirmations I am a 10. Lets see... I wonder what I should do to make this person's day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C'mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 1. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 2. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 3. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 4. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 5. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 6. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 7. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 8. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 9. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 10. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! -Franciz |
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05-11-2009, 02:39 PM
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May 11, 2009 Pre-no complaining Assignment: Affirmations I am a 10. Lets see... I wonder what I should do to make this person's day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C'mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 1. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 2. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 3. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 4. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 5. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 6. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 7. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 8. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 9. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! 10. I am a 10. Lets see… I wonder what I should do to make this person’s day awesome? How would a 10 respond to this situation? C’mon problems I dare thee to try and ruin my day, that is, if you can! -Franciz |
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