Technique to find the route of my problems?

[dwixi]

are there any exercises you can do that make clear the route of your problems more?
Thanks.

[Jarrod]

Asking why a lot.

Pick an outcome or effect that you want to find the cause of and then ask why this happened. List any ideas that come to mind. Then for every item in the list ask why did each of those happen.

Continue until you feel like you have some clarity to move forward.

[BML]

do you want to know so you can use them to find your so called problems?

I like to work with peoples overall structure. eg I had a person who wanted help to write a letter to their boss to get some respect. After asking that person a few questions I realised that I could have helped her and she would have got what she wanted. BUT there was an underlying problem she could not see. we worked on that and it has changed a lot for her and said it is what she had always done in other situations.

people IMO tend to lie, not because they want to, just because they are not aware of their "problems" or why they are going in the direction they want. People have certain patterns and by figuring out those patterns, you can easily change the smallest thing to affect the rest of the same patterns they might run in a different situations.

another example. person wants to stop smoking. Does it succesful and then starts eating or drinking or doing drugs. didnt fix the real problem.

so yes I have techniques. though there is a lot of factors to take into consideration.

[magi13]

Sometimes you already know the problem but you just don't want to accept that it is.

Example:

If you think playing online games or rpg before studying gets you distracted in studies etc. Minimize it or make a schedule.

When you know you have a problem, fix it asap. It's like a virus, it'll keep on destroying you until you've fixed it.

[bajesh]

Q: One of my coworkers reads the documents on my desk. She also tries to look at my computer screen over my shoulder. This really drives me crazy. How do I get her to stop?



A: Coworkers can only invade your privacy if you allow it. To stop the snooper, you must immediately thwart her annoying behavior. Do not try to be subtle.



When she attempts to examine your papers, simply turn them over or put them in a drawer. If she picks them up, hold out your hand and say "I need those back, please".



Always keep a fake document open on your computer. When the curious colleague starts to scrutinize your screen, obscure your work by clicking over to the “dummy”.



If she asks why you are being so secretive, smile and say "It just bothers me when people try to look over my work." Then drop the subject.



Busybodies can be quite persistent. But if you continue to foil her efforts, eventually she’ll get the message.

[joelyle]

is it a problem of the body or mind. Neither of these is truly YOU. The ego (all that is false about us--our false identification with our body and our thinking) is the root of all problems. Nothing that can change is you. You are the experiencer/observer/the one aware of the problems, the problems are not you. Consider self inquiry...

Realization.org: Self-Inquiry (Vicara)

[The Cloud]

Imagine how you would feel if you had a genie that could provide you with the answers free of effort. If you wouldn't gladly accept the solution, then you don't really have a problem; you just want to pretend like you do. Don't expect to ever find the solution to a problem that you don't want the solution for.

[Dharma]

Originally Posted by dwixi

are there any exercises you can do that make clear the route of your problems more?
Thanks.

Read Byron Katie

Amazon.com: Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life: Byron Katie, Stephen Mitchell: Books

Also on scribd:
Byron Katie - Loving What Is