Help! Too many goals. How to choose??

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Thanks Parthon. I did some honest journaling about why I want to reach all those goals. I came up with many great reasons but none of them made me want to sing, dance, cry and laugh all at the same time. I connect with the reasons intellectually, but not really emotionally.

The goals I most strongly connect with emotionally, I have just no reason at all for wanting to do them! I couldn't come up with one good reason. It was more like "I just want to do it, period."

Intellect vs Emotion
I know that battle !


so which goals did you connect to emotionally ?

[cinnabar]

Maybe having a goal for the entire year of 2009 is too broad and confining at the same time. What about making 2009 about exploring yourself and the world, and just make monthly goals... one month at a time? So this month, you could try being Passion, and not decide what to concentrate on next month until it comes.

What do you think?

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by cinnabar

Maybe having a goal for the entire year of 2009 is too broad and confining at the same time. What about making 2009 about exploring yourself and the world, and just make monthly goals... one month at a time? So this month, you could try being Passion, and not decide what to concentrate on next month until it comes.

What do you think?

I think this is an EXCELLENT idea! That's what I'm going to do. Even if I focus on only one area, there are still too many goals to tackle at the same time, and I don't know where to begin. So I'll just set one goal a month and juggle. Thanks

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by MasterD

Self-discipline is WAY overrated by the way.

Thank you, thank you, thank you.

The trick is to create one new ritual a month in order to make something a habit. (...) If you decide to do such a thing there is NO other habit you can adapt that month, you will fail.

So you mean I can learn only ONE new habit a month? No matter how small it is??

If I were you, I would aim to create a structure in the day for 2009 in which you can achieve well. If that is set up you can achieve many of your other goals MUCH faster WITHIN the structure of achievement that is now completely habitual.

One part of me thinks "Sounds good! I'd have some structure in my day and would be free to be creative within that frame. Nice!" Another part of me thinks "Grrrrr! I hate routine. I don't want to do something the same way every day."

Right now you are focussing all your willpower on a 100 different things and nothing gets done.

Well, that's not entirely true. I do make some progress. Just in a very unpredictable way.

Anyway, I recognize your dilemma as a dilemma I have very much myself. And this is the way I am going to deal with it. Join me and you cannot fail .

OK! I'm joining you in learning one new habit a month! I don't know yet which one first, and I don't know yet if I'll aim to structure my day or simply commit to doing what I want to learn every day at random times. But I'm with you in this. I think it's an excellent idea, since many of my goals are about building habits.

Maybe we could find some more people interested in such a challenge?

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by Angela

So what I hear you saying, I think is: Being an artist equals Being Play.

Yes, but not only Play. It also means just being myself, simply expressing what I truly am. And it means feeling free and safe and loved and loving.

Does Being Play inspire you, or would you rather Be a Reporter?

I don't know... both.

I always want to report what I experience and share it with others, especially when it's something beautiful. Recently I saved a darling little rabbit baby, four days old, and I soooo would have loved to film it to publish the movie on my blog. I even thought about posting a series of video posts on my blog about this rabbit at all stages of his life, to show how it grows and lives, plays with his siblings, etc. I was so touched by it, I wanted to share.

When I think about travelling, I always think about how I would make videos and write about it to share what I learn about foreign cultures, etc. So being a reporter is some kind of reflex for me.

On the other hand, a big part of this "I'm not an artist, I'm (just) a reporter" also stems from my belief that I'm talented for nothing in particular. I'm no scientist, no artist, no healer, no teacher, no psychic, no athlete, no businessman, no craftsman... neither particularly left-brained nor particularly right-brained, I'm the kind of person who is nothing in particular and those generally end up as journalists.

[Parthon]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

On the other hand, a big part of this "I'm not an artist, I'm (just) a reporter" also stems from my belief that I'm talented for nothing in particular. I'm no scientist, no artist, no healer, no teacher, no psychic, no athlete, no businessman, no craftsman... neither particularly left-brained nor particularly right-brained, I'm the kind of person who is nothing in particular and those generally end up as journalists.

I don't hear this when I think of you Rose. I hear that you are all those things, being a seeker. But you are spot on when you say it's all about the experience and the sharing of it.

Perhaps try this: For each month, be a different person. For a month, be an artist, then a craftsman, then an athelete, then whatever you want. Share it in a journal and invite others to read what it's like from the inside. Don't just pick up a habit, be a completely different type of person. Does this feel like a possible expression of who you really are?

[sk8joyful]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Hey all,
problem: my goals for 2009, and well, there are way too many of them.
I'm an optimist, but even this way I know I cannot reach all of them in one year.
Help!!!
I'm so bad at organizing myself, self-discipline and all those practical things of life.
Thanks

Hi Rose!

Follow any S.M.A.R.T.-models for successfully enjoying your goals:
Specific -
State your goal in sensory-specific/rich terms.
Have your goal be like an instruction telling you what... to do.

Measurable -
and Praise yourself (and others, in theirs),
when you noticed any small, or large progress...

Attainable - Don't let others, own your goals.
Your own goals are much more meaningful to you.
The goal should be inspiring... enough, that it motivates... you to success.
Obstacles are easier to overcome, when you continue determined...

Realistic -
Choose a goal that you are confident you can reach, but that will stretch yourself also.
Break large goals into smaller goals. Create a plan with all the steps... you need.

Timebased -
When will you finish your goal? - choose a time, in smaller attainable increments, the sooner the better!

Now really think, concentrate, focus on & INTENT your goal.
Finish the following sentence, write it down and put it somewhere you can see it.
"I will [your goal here] by [how you will do the goal].
I will know I am making progress because [how you will measure the goal] [time goes here]."

Be successful!

[Angela]

Rose, you are the bunny.

[{aspiring_to_clarity}]

Reporters are artists. It takes the soul of an artist to take an experience and make it real for everyone who reads it.

[Foo]

Hi Rose, did you read my PM?

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by Foo

Hi Rose, did you read my PM?

Yes Foo, I did. Thank you Sorry, I'm a bit late at answering PMs and emails. No, that was a lie, I'm very much behind at processing my inbox. But I will reply!

[Gazzali]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Hey all,

I'm having the problem that I'm thinking about my goals for 2009, and well, there are way too many of them. I'm an optimist, but even this way I know I cannot reach all of them in one year.

How do you pick your goals? Is it smarter to pick one goal in each area of your life, or to pick several related goals?

I'm more the kind of person who focuses on ONE thing at a time, so it'd be more natural for me to focus only on one area - but at the same time every one of my goals is sooo interesting, and I absolutely need to work on health and career and money and creativity, so...

Help!!!

I'm so bad at organizing myself, self-discipline and all those practical things of life. I'd really need some help here.

Thanks

It is OK to have multi goals provided if it is manageable I do not know whether the article herecan be of help

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

When I think about travelling, I always think about how I would make videos and write about it to share what I learn about foreign cultures, etc. So being a reporter is some kind of reflex for me.

On the other hand, a big part of this "I'm not an artist, I'm (just) a reporter" also stems from my belief that I'm talented for nothing in particular. I'm no scientist, no artist, no healer, no teacher, no psychic, no athlete, no businessman, no craftsman... neither particularly left-brained nor particularly right-brained, I'm the kind of person who is nothing in particular and those generally end up as journalists.

you are a silly rose


Malcolm S. Forbes:
"Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are."

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by lifetimelearner

you are a silly rose


Malcolm S. Forbes:
"Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are."

lifetimelearner, I love it when you call me silly.

I just designed a T-Shirt and wrote half of my children's book, so maybe I'm more of an artist than I'd like to believe it.

[lifetimelearner]

"The rose is fairest when 'tis budding new,And hope is brightest when it dawns from fears"- Sir Walter Scott

[cnwoods]

Rose, having been where you are, there are 2 pieces of advice I'd give myself if I went back.

First: "He who chases two hares catches neither" (chinese proverb) My own add-on: there's nothing stopping you catching one, then the next, then the next, etc

Second: The sheer variety of your goals shows that you as a person have an incredible range of interests, but interests and goals shouldn't be confused.
A goal is something that will extend you as a person, and move you further along your life-path. Not all of these 'goals' are going to do that. If you spend some time thinking about where you want to be this time next year, and who you want to have become, you'll know which ones are necessary to get there.

Then put them in order. I'd suggest putting the one that seems biggest first, because if you work to get that one done it gives you an incredible energy rush to get started on the next one. If you're dividing them personal/ professional you could alternate goals for one then the other. I use the process from “Your Best Year Yet” and posted about it on my blog: "2008 Review, 2009 Goals"
It has you work out the main roles you have and create a goal for each, then pick and order your main focus role for the year, and your top 10 goals. I love that book. This year I decided to focus on only one goal at a time, going full on at it, and the results have been AMAZING! I finished my first (and probably biggest) goal by mid January... now I'm close to finishing the second.

In any case, I wish you all the best for getting clarity around this.

PS Learning new habits works really well with Steve's "30 day trial" concept too...

[Rose of Cairo]

Hey, thanks.

The problem with tackling "one goal, then another, then another" is that there are goals that are never "done".

For example, one of my goals is to develop my blog. Fine. But I can work on my blog for ten hours every day for months and months, and I still won't be "done" with developing my blog. I have 33 drafts I'm working on at the moment and a hundred ideas on paper for new posts, and I keep getting ideas every day. So how can I know I'm done and can pick another goal??

Same with several other goals of mine. When am I done with them? When am I done with dancing tango? Even professional tango dancers keep learning, so when will I be allowed to call this goal reached? When am I done with learning energy healing? When I'm Jesus-like, going around and healing people miraculously?

It's really difficult to tackle one goal after another when they're more a lifestyle than a measurable goal, you know.

[lifetimelearner]

and when you are dead the inbox will still be full


getting there has to be just as sweet as the process sweet ROSE



"The only thing that has to be finished by next Tuesday is next Monday. "~Jennifer Yane

[stayfly]

without reading the whole thread

ten main goals is a good amount to have for a year

I highly recommend Tony Robbins "Time Of Your Life/RPM/OPA" system to help create, plan and schedule your goals but to give you a couple of things to think about and do right now

1. write done your goals in a blog or in a folder
2. review your goals weekly and ask yourself "what is the next action/s I need to take to make progress in this goal"
3. schedule and take the necessary actions
4. repeat this process until the goal is achieved

all the best

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by lifetimelearner

and when you are dead the inbox will still be full

Oh my. Don't talk about it!

"The only thing that has to be finished by next Tuesday is next Monday. "~Jennifer Yane

I'm not stressing myself out you know. I'm just saying that sometimes it's not possible to tackle one goal after the other. When it's goals like dancing tango, learning energy healing or blogging, you're just never done with them.

It's even difficult with more clearly measurable goals, like writing an eBook or getting a driver's license. I cannot do nothing but write the eBook until it's finished. Not me. First, at some point I just feel exhausted and cannot write one single word anymore, and then I need to wait at least one day. It's all of myself that I put into it! And second, especially I, as a scanner, need to do other things too. Doing only one thing drives me insane.

It'll also take a few months to get my driving license, I will certainly not find a driving school where I'm allowed to drive all day long. And studying the theory of driving all day long would drive me crazy.

So, I cannot put my whole life on hold until one of my goals is reached and do nothing else in the meantime. I just need to juggle with several goals. The point is, how many of them, and which ones?

I'm still unclear about that.

For now I'm working on a dozen things at the same time and doing very well.

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by stayfly

I highly recommend Tony Robbins "Time Of Your Life/RPM/OPA" system

Okay. I definitely will read Tony Robbins, he keeps showing up in my world! Thank you.

1. write done your goals in a blog or in a folder
2. review your goals weekly and ask yourself "what is the next action/s I need to take to make progress in this goal"
3. schedule and take the necessary actions
4. repeat this process until the goal is achieved

That's basically what I do, except that I review my goals more often than weekly, and that I don't schedule anything.

I usually review my goals every day and ask myself what I could do right now to move closer to my goal. Then I take the right next action that I feel inspired to take, without scheduling anything. I HATE schedules. Scheduling is a sure recipe to make me not do something.

[lifetimelearner]

sorry about the dead thing

I just wanted to point out that there will always be something that needs to get done

[stayfly]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Okay. I definitely will read Tony Robbins, he keeps showing up in my world! Thank you.


That's basically what I do, except that I review my goals more often than weekly, and that I don't schedule anything.

I usually review my goals every day and ask myself what I could do right now to move closer to my goal. Then I take the right next action that I feel inspired to take, without scheduling anything. I HATE schedules. Scheduling is a sure recipe to make me not do something.

excellent

scheduling can be powerful if used correctly. by scheduling I don't mean having every minute or every hour planned, more that I will commit to doing some particular thing on a particular day (at any time on that day). i.e. if your goal was to exercise you might schedule swimming on Tuesday and Thursday. something simple like that. do whatever works best for you though.

also, I saw your goals on Page 1 as the following;

- align with Power, Authority and Abundance
- find my inner peace
- journal three pages every morning (I already do that and want to continue)
- get my driver's license
- eat 100% low-fat raw vegan.
- go to bed early
- exercise much more or more intensively than now (what exactly is still unclear)
- become officially self-employed
- develop my blog (technique + content)
- build websites 1, 2, 3 and 4
- write eBooks 1, 2 and 3
- learn about internet marketing and SEO
- learn webdesign, php, maybe ruby
- learn latex
- learn to speak fluent English
- recover my rusty Spanish till it's fluent
- learn Russian
- create a Toastmasters club where I live (I wanted to join but there is none)
- create a local Personal Development club where I live
- write novels 1, 2 and 3
- write screenplays 1 and 2
- write my children's book
- improve my connection with the Universe / my spirit guides / my higher self
- develop my claircognizance
- meditate daily
- daily chakra cleansing
- daily kinesiology exercises
- learn energy healing
- learn massage
- meet my perfect dance partner and dance the most harmonious tango argentino
- take a bellydancing class
- take a streetfighting class
- make clay sculptures
- travel to Serbia
- travel to Estonia

I can see how these would be overwhelming. I would recommend that you group similar goals together so they don't overwhelm you and so that you are clear on the real purpose of the goal is and give yourself many ways to achieve this purpose. This is something Tony Robbins teaches exceptionally well in "Time Of Your Life".

For example, I see you have a LOT of learning goals, some travel goals, some language goals, some writing goals etc. Here's an example how you can group these goals together successfully;

WRITING GOALS

transform

- write eBooks 1, 2 and 3
- write novels 1, 2 and 3
- write screenplays 1 and 2
- write my children's book

into

OUTCOME: be an excellent writer and make $xxx from my writing (NOTE: you can word and measure this however is most empowering to you. this is only an example)

and then make it more powerful by adding a purpose and action plan as seen below

PURPOSE:
- writing is something I enjoy very much
- to entertain and inspire many people through my writing
- to create an excellent income stream from something I enjoy doing
ACTIONS
1. write for an hour or more everyday, 6 days a week (with one day to rest and revive)
2. find excellent publishers to help make my writing available to people who will enjoy it and to provide me with income

the great thing about this is that you can achieve your outcome in many ways. for example you may become captivated by writing just one book that you feel has great potential and this book becomes very popular and successful and provide you with all the things you wanted in this area of your life. now, instead of looking at your goals for the year and saying "I failed in my writing in 2009 because I only wrote one novel and did complete the other eight books and screenplays" you can say "I did some great writing and achieved my goal in 2009 by writing and releasing an excellent book and making $xxx" (or however you wish to measure it).

you can do that with each area of your goals and you'll find you can reduce 30 or 40 goals down to maybe 5 or 6 key areas/outcomes.

I hope this advice helps you, please let me know your feedback.

Also do check out "Time Of Your Life" by Anthony Robbins (it's an audio program) to gain more details and more distinctions on how you can set your life up to be a winner.

All the best!

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by stayfly

I would recommend that you group similar goals together so they don't overwhelm you and so that you are clear on the real purpose of the goal is and give yourself many ways to achieve this purpose. This is something Tony Robbins teaches exceptionally well in "Time Of Your Life".

Well... I think you are absolutely right. However, I already did that. That's why I wrote "Aside from my "big" goals, ... this is what I specifically want to do in 2009".

What I meant is that I already know what the "big" goals are and what the real purpose behind it is. Then I thought about a concrete, specific implementation of those big goals. My list of goals in this thread IS this concrete, specific implementation. So, going back to grouping them in bigger areas would be going back to the starting point!

It seems backwards to me to have a top-down approach (even though I didn't share the top part of it here) and then go back to where I started with a bottom-up approach. Er, does this make sense?

For example I know that I want to express myself creatively and generate Harmony for me and others, and I think writing is a good medium for that. Fine. But now I need some concrete writing projects. So that's what I'm dealing with in this thread, the concrete stuff. Writing my eBooks and developing my blog etc. Going back to "I want to generate Harmony through writing" is correct of course, that's the real goal, but it won't bring me any further. I already know that.

I'm already clear about the bigger picture and about why I want to do what I want to do. I need help in organizing how to do it.

But you are right of course. Thank you.

[Rose of Cairo]

In fact I think that asking for help here was stupid. Nobody can help me organize. I'm allergic to all kinds of self-discipline or scheduling, so I believe nobody can help me anyway!

And I also believe that non-scanners cannot understand how I work, to begin with.

So now I'm just working on everything at the same time in a very messy and spontaneous way, and doing quite well.

[stayfly]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Well... I think you are absolutely right. However, I already did that. That's why I wrote "Aside from my "big" goals, ... this is what I specifically want to do in 2009".

What I meant is that I already know what the "big" goals are and what the real purpose behind it is. Then I thought about a concrete, specific implementation of those big goals. My list of goals in this thread IS this concrete, specific implementation. So, going back to grouping them in bigger areas would be going back to the starting point!

It seems backwards to me to have a top-down approach (even though I didn't share the top part of it here) and then go back to where I started with a bottom-up approach. Er, does this make sense?

For example I know that I want to express myself creatively and generate Harmony for me and others, and I think writing is a good medium for that. Fine. But now I need some concrete writing projects. So that's what I'm dealing with in this thread, the concrete stuff. Writing my eBooks and developing my blog etc. Going back to "I want to generate Harmony through writing" is correct of course, that's the real goal, but it won't bring me any further. I already know that.

I'm already clear about the bigger picture and about why I want to do what I want to do. I need help in organizing how to do it.

But you are right of course. Thank you.

I understand what you're saying but I think you might be slightly missing the point or the process.

the goals you listed on page one are not your real goals, they are potential parts of your real goals and that's it. They are a wishlist and that's all. You don't HAVE to write 3 ebooks, 3 novels, 3 screenplays and children book to fulfill your writing goal. you could write 1 amazing ebook, 1 amazing screenplay, 1 amazing novel and be totally fulfilled in this area and achieve all you wanted in this area of your life. you might even just write one children's book and nothing else for the whole year and still be fulfilled if the book was excellent and did well for you financially. Imagine if JK Rowling felt she had to write 9 other projects AND Harry Potter in one year, how much less quality do you think Harry Potter would have been? would it have even been finished? would it have ever been published? your goal is, as you say, "to generate Harmony through writing" so do that! one word at a time and see where it leads you.

what you need to do is focus on the larger goals, and within those goals have a project planning section with a lot of ideas you have to achieve the larger goal (i.e. the 3 ebooks, 3 novels etc.). each week you review your larger goals and projects and decide what you will do that week to move that larger goal forward. again, using the writing example, you're not going to be writing 3 ebooks, 3 novels, 3 screenplays and 1 children book at the same time are you? so have your writing goal that you review each week and each week you decide what writing project you are going to work on. for the first 3 weeks it might be an ebook, for the next 5 weeks it might be a children's book etc. whatever you choose for the week, focus on that and that only.

please buy, download, borrow "Time Of Your Life" by Tony Robbins and you will learn how to make an empowering life plan to achieve all your goals and enjoy the process. it's 10 cds, a dvd and workbook of exactly the information you need in your life and you would benefit greatly from it.

I've studied every worthwhile time/project/life management system and this is the best system to achieve your REAL goals and to also keep track of your many potential subgoals within your main goals.

all the best

[stayfly]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

In fact I think that asking for help here was stupid. Nobody can help me organize. I'm allergic to all kinds of self-discipline or scheduling, so I believe nobody can help me anyway!

And I also believe that non-scanners cannot understand how I work, to begin with.

So now I'm just working on everything at the same time in a very messy and spontaneous way, and doing quite well.

can I ask you a quick question?

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by stayfly

I understand what you're saying but I think you might be slightly missing the point or the process.

And I understand what you're saying but I think you might be slightly failing to acknowledge the way I tick.

the goals you listed on page one are not your real goals, they are potential parts of your real goals and that's it. They are a wishlist and that's all.

Of course they're just a wishlist! What else are goals, if not a wishlist?

They're just concrete ideas that I have to implement my theoretical goals. I'd love to realize those ideas of course, so I set them as goals and work towards them. But it's just my wish now, and maybe something completely different will happen. That's fine!

You don't HAVE to write 3 ebooks, 3 novels, 3 screenplays and children book to fulfill your writing goal.

Of course not! I just happen to have ideas for 3 eBooks, 3 novels, 2 screenplays and a children's book. So of course I'd love to see them implemented. But I won't die if it doesn't happen.

you could write 1 amazing ebook, 1 amazing screenplay, 1 amazing novel and be totally fulfilled in this area and achieve all you wanted in this area of your life.

Of course. The point of having those goals is to know where I'm going. The direction is more important than to really reach the goals I set, if that makes sense?

your goal is, as you say, "to generate Harmony through writing" so do that! one word at a time and see where it leads you.

Duh! That's what I'm already doing!

what you need to do is focus on the larger goals,

I do that. I never forget about them!

and within those goals have a project planning section with a lot of ideas you have to achieve the larger goal (i.e. the 3 ebooks, 3 novels etc.).

"Project planning" is exactly what I wanted help with. But as I said, now I think I'm better off without any planning at all.

each week you review your larger goals and projects and decide what you will do that week to move that larger goal forward.

I don't need that. I'm permanently checking where I am and what I want to do next.

again, using the writing example, you're not going to be writing 3 ebooks, 3 novels, 3 screenplays and 1 children book at the same time are you?

Yes I am.

It's simple, for each project I have a notebook on paper and/or online, and when I have ideas, I write them down in the right place. Sometimes I get an idea for novel 1, so I write it down. Then I take two hours to work on the outline for eBook1. Yesterday I spent the afternoon writing half of my children's book. Today I wrote a new draft for my blog. And so on.

Doing everything simultaneously is not a problem for me. On the contrary, I need it. I thrive this way. When I do only one thing, I die inside. This is what I meant when I mentioned "how I tick".

so have your writing goal that you review each week and each week you decide what writing project you are going to work on. for the first 3 weeks it might be an ebook, for the next 5 weeks it might be a children's book etc. whatever you choose for the week, focus on that and that only.

As I already said, that's impossible for me. if I focus on only one project, I get bored, bored, BORED, and end up procrastinating. On the other hand, when I let myself freely do whatever I spontaneously feel drawn to do and work on five projects in one week, then I'm productive.

You know, sometimes I get very inspired, I suddenly have an idea, and I absolutely need to write about it! If I don't do it, the inspiration goes away and I end up writing nothing. In those moments, I cannot say to myself "no, no, girl, this week something else is on your plate...". That's just not realistic, knowing me.

Plus, some writing projects, like a blog, are not something that's "done" after x weeks.

please buy, download, borrow "Time Of Your Life" by Tony Robbins and you will learn how to make an empowering life plan to achieve all your goals and enjoy the process. it's 10 cds, a dvd and workbook of exactly the information you need in your life and you would benefit greatly from it.

I'll read Tony Robbins, but I doubt I can apply such a plan. Look, I just hate planning.

What works for you might not work for me. Especially what works for specialists does not work for scanners.

I've studied every worthwhile time/project/life management system and this is the best system to achieve your REAL goals and to also keep track of your many potential subgoals within your main goals.

What's the "best" system is highly subjective. I don't doubt it's the best system for you. But you are not me.

Thanks though.

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by stayfly

can I ask you a quick question?

Of course! Please do.

[stayfly]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Of course! Please do.

cool

my question is do you celebrate your birthday and your friends and family members birthdays? and how about Christmas as well?

please let me know