Help! Too many goals. How to choose??

[Holistic Star]

Hi Rose.

Is 100% raw the real goal. Or is it to do the best for your health that you can.

There's so many variations on the goal. You could aim for 70 - 100% raw. You could aim for 20 out of 21 meals a week to be raw. You could aim to be raw up to 5pm each day. You could aim to be 100% vegan and raw when possible. You could aim to eat simply the best and most healthy available option at any given meal.

i find the whole 100% thing a bit arbitrary anyway. Are the seeds I'm eating definitely raw? Not sure - they could have been heated higher than 105 F (or is it 115 F?) Is agave really raw, is cacao really raw - there seems to be a lot of arguments in the raw community about what is and what isn't truely raw!

So maybe the goal is about aligning with health and vitality rather than raw. I do think the 100% gives it a measurable goal, but if that isn't resonating with you then I think you are right to question it.

[bbdream8]

One thing at a time will be the best approach. How about picking one goal for each area of your life and try to tackle it? It might work

Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by bbdream8

One thing at a time will be the best approach. How about picking one goal for each area of your life and try to tackle it? It might work

One goal for each area of my life is way too much! How could I juggle with 4-7 goals? One thing at a time is a bit difficult too. Imagine if I set the goal to become muscular and do nothing else till I am, I'd tackle my other goals in five years from now...

[Rose of Cairo]

Oh my... I'm really confused now!

If I focus on {blog, website, eBook} and on finding inner peace (I suspect this has to do with living electricity-free), what about my diet? What about the driving license? Should I do it along the way without setting it as a goal - or not at all??

I'm having such a hard time making a clear choice. And just three days left!!

Originally Posted by Holistic Star

Is 100% raw the real goal. Or is it to do the best for your health that you can.

What a great point! I don't even know what the real goal is.

Sometimes I think the goal is simply to have enough energy to realize my ideas. In the past I often failed to do what I wanted to do because my health was so bad that I lacked the energy to work on my projects! I want to be healthy enough to be able to do everything I want, be it 100% raw or not.

But other times I think 100% raw is important to me in itself. I have noticed that there is a huge difference between 100% raw and not 100% raw and it would piss me off to have made this experience and then to settle for less. In those moments I think that I want more than just be healthy enough for something else, I want to achieve top perfect health and fitness for its own sake. Not only 100% raw, I also want to grow big muscles, improve my stamina, etc. I don't know if it's just my ego, but I'd love to be a really athletic person (don't laugh at me )

So... I don't know. But I know that investing lots of energy in my diet would collide with investing lots of energy in my work. Unlike Steve, I haven't succeeded in establishing eating raw as a habit on auto-pilot in 2008. I've made lots of progress but I'm not there yet. Maybe it's just a limiting belief of mine that I'll need to put lots of energy into my diet now? Hmmmm

i find the whole 100% thing a bit arbitrary anyway. Are the seeds I'm eating definitely raw? Not sure - they could have been heated higher than 105 F (or is it 115 F?) Is agave really raw, is cacao really raw - there seems to be a lot of arguments in the raw community about what is and what isn't truely raw!

That's true, but all this doesn't apply to me. I eat neither agave nor cacao. I eat no complicated dishes and I consider everything that has been heated (even just a little bit) as not raw. This way it's really simple, I know very well whether the whole fruit or veggies in my hand are raw or not. Only with nuts is it a bit difficult to know for sure, but I'm not that fanatic either, I won't die if I happen to eat a few non-raw nuts from time to time.

So maybe the goal is about aligning with health and vitality rather than raw.

If I just want to be healthy enough to work, then yeah, some rice from time to time (or even some chocolate from time to time) won't kill me. If I want to achieve maximal physical performance though, then raw is important. 2008 has shown to me what a HUGE difference it makes. I just don't know what I want!

Edit: question to the advanced goal setters out there: when you don't set something as a goal, do you do it along the way, and if you fail, it's not that important? Or do you consider it a distraction and just plain evil and don't do it at all?

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Oh my... I'm really confused now!

If I focus on {blog, website, eBook} and on finding inner peace (I suspect this has to do with living electricity-free), what about my diet? What about the driving license? Should I do it along the way without setting it as a goal - or not at all??

I'm having such a hard time making a clear choice. And just three days left!!

Hello, Rose, my darling, and Happy Almost New Year!

I hope you are having lots of fun with this goal-setting thing, because your posts sound very full of stress, and I wonder if you you've forgotten that this is all YOUR game, you make all the rules, and you can't make a mistake -- please don't forget that who you are is infinite joy, love, and abundance, ok? It's all about how you feel.

You are so inspiring and entertaining, and I love you.

[lifetimelearner]

this is morbid and I apologize up front

but today I asked myself which goal would I regret the most if
I died tommorrow

and I came up with my first goal for the new year

well actually 2
a personal one
and a professional one
just like Steve suggests


would that work for you if you did that ?


I am sorry you are having such a tough time
peace

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by Angela

Hello, Rose, my darling, and Happy Almost New Year!

I hope you are having lots of fun with this goal-setting thing, because your posts sound very full of stress, and I wonder if you you've forgotten that this is all YOUR game, you make all the rules, and you can't make a mistake -- please don't forget that who you are is infinite joy, love, and abundance, ok? It's all about how you feel.

Angela, you wet blanket!!!

I'm here bravely battling a hideous cave troll and you remind me I'm not really this handsome warrior with his big sword, and the cave troll isn't real, either! How disappointing!

I'm sorry if my posts sound full of stress. I don't feel really stressed out. I'm just playing my game very seriously and I'm eager to have my goals together on December 31st, midnight! Or else they will transform into a pumpkin and I'll spend the year doing nothing (just kidding)

You are so inspiring and entertaining, and I love you.

Hmmmm.... I'm entertaining? Maybe I should feel offended?

Love you too, so much! Thanks for reminding me to take it easy. I very much appreciate it.

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by lifetimelearner

this is morbid and I apologize up front

but today I asked myself which goal would I regret the most if
I died tommorrow

Hey! I'm very happy to hear this worked for you and that you now have two nice goals Congratulations and I wish you lots of success in reaching them!

I asked myself something similar, I asked myself "What would really piss me off if I did not do it in 2009?" But then I came up with so many things that the results weren't relevant.

I am sorry you are having such a tough time

Hey. I'm not having a tough time at all. I'm sorry if my posts sound that desperate! That's not how I mean it. Raging around a little is normal for me. It's a sign that I'm in a good mood

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

I'm here bravely battling a hideous cave troll and you remind me I'm not really this handsome warrior with his big sword, and the cave troll isn't real, either! How disappointing!

Just to be clear, I didn't say the warrior and the troll are not real. They are every bit as real as the power you infuse them with -- at least they are as real as anything else is! I am 100% in your corner for playing your game, and yours is an amazing one. I understand that you play very seriously, and that's part of why it's so entertaining -- I'm not laughing at you, I'm engaged in the action.

Anyway, the hideous cave troll might turn out to be a beautiful joy elf that is patiently waiting to be released by your wise and courageous action.

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by Angela

Anyway, the hideous cave troll might turn out to be a beautiful joy elf that is patiently waiting to be released by your wise and courageous action.

No way! The cave troll is nothing but a cave troll - and it gets butchered down, period.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

No way! The cave troll is nothing but a cave troll - and it gets butchered down, period.

Whoa!!! Get out of Rose's way, Troll! Or suffer the consequences!!

[Brutha]

Exercise and daily meditation add extra energy to your life if you actually do them, so they don't really interfere with other projects.

At least that's my personal experience. Daily meditation gives me the energy to accomplish more during the day when I get around to do it.

Since you financially don't have money for a car at the moment I don't see the added benefit from accomplishing that task in 2009 instead of 2010 when you have the money from your self employed business.

They first asked for a driving license, and when I said no, it obviously made a bad impression. Like, almost 30 and never managed to get her license... I felt very embarrassed and not-independent when I told them I've always been scared of driving!

If you are a raw foodist that thinks about living without electricity I don't think you would have the problem with explaining your lack of driving license with ecological concern.
Cars do have electricity in them, you know.

[Cultivate]

I like the idea of creating actionable goals and breaking them down into steps. The way you have written your goals is very vague and you can't really tell whether or not you have completed many of them.
"
- eat 100% raw vegan
- become officially self-employed
- develop my blog (technique + content)
- build website #2 (in English only)
- write eBook #1
- get my driver's license
"
The first two are alright, except, i feel like the first one is a bit limiting. I really liked the post that already dealt with this issue.
Becoming self employed seems like a larger goal with developing your blog, building your website and writing your eBook all as sub goals.
Getting your driver's license seems like more of a utility goal. It is a tool that will be able to help you a lot in the future.

So now we have 3 goals.
1. Raw Vegan
2. Self employment
----a. develop blog
----b. build website
----c. write eBook
3. Get driver's license

Now, you said that you were vegan during 2008, so the first goal seems pretty easy to me. If you maintain what you've been doing you will accomplish this goal, right?
For goal #2 the next step would be to break down your sub goals into goals that can be done on a daily basis. So, maybe to develop your blog you want to add 20 new articles? For building your website you could first design a site layout. Then you could proceed by actually ordering the pages and simply going through each one and creating them. For your eBook you could decide the theme for your eBook. List the different topics you want to touch upon. Do some research for your eBook. Write a full outline for your eBook. Then actually write each part of the eBook following your outline.
1. Raw vegan
2. Self Employed
----a. develop blog
--------1. brainstorm 20 new topics
--------2. write 20 articles and add them to blog
----b. build website
--------1. design website on paper
--------2. prioritize pages
--------3. create each page 1 by 1
----c. write eBook
--------1. decide theme
--------2. refine theme by listing topics to be touched upon
--------3. do research for each topic
--------4. write outline for actual eBook
--------5. write actual eBook following your outline.
3. Driver's License
----a. Go online and write down what you need to do to get license.
----b. whatever you write down

Breaking down the driver's license is the easiest. I'm sure you can easily find online the steps you need to follow to get your driver's license.

To me this process makes the goals I want to achieve much more concrete. These steps I have listed may not be the way that you want to go about completing these goals, but they may help you cement some of your own ideas. This may allow you to see how long each of your goals will realistically take, so that you can now create a master plan for completing all of your goals. I hope this helped.

[Rose of Cairo]

Cultivate, my problem is not to plan how I will reach my goals, it's to figure out what I set as a goal in the first place.

I need no brainstorming or researching or breaking down in steps. I know exactly how I will do all this, I already have all of the ideas and plans exactly in my head (and on paper). I know very well how I will build the websites, write the eBook or get my license. That's not the point.

My problem is focus. What will I focus on and make it happen no matter what?

I'm not the kind of person who works a few hours on her website, goes for a driving lesson, then writes one chapter of her eBook, and does ten push-ups. That's impossible for me. I'm not able to multitask and to juggle with different goals in different areas of my life. I know myself well enough, now, to know that this has never worked for me. I need one goal. One.

Unfortunately I have so many goals and every one of them is so awesome and I don't know what I want to do first (or as Steve would say, I know it very well but don't accept it)

As I see it now, after getting majorly confused by this thread my choice basically is:
1. focus on career no matter what
or
2. focus on fitness no matter what

[Brutha]

As I see it now, after getting majorly confused by this thread my choice basically is:
1. focus on career no matter what
or
2. focus on fitness no matter what

I don't really see your problem.

If you think that taking up a particular activity is good for your fitness, it should add extra energy to your life.
Extra energy in turn helps you to work on your career or other projects.

If your fitness efforts don't give you a net positive energy level over a period of a year I would really think about them and ask myself why I think that the particular activity produces fitness.

When I do halve an hour of meditation before going to bed, I have more energy the next day to do whatever goal I want to pursue during that day and I get back the required time because I need less sleep that night (note to myself: do more meditation, there no rational reason to not meditate).

The driving license program seems to be neither career or fitness to me where do you add it in your mind?

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by Brutha

If you are a raw foodist that thinks about living without electricity I don't think you would have the problem with explaining your lack of driving license with ecological concern.

?!! But Brutha! This would be lying!

Ecological concern is not the reason I have no driving license. I simply never managed to get one because of my fear of driving, so that's what I say when asked.

I do have some ecological concern about cars indeed. But I see the driver's license as a separate issue. It's just a paper saying that I'm able and allowed to drive in case I want/need to. Having one doesn't imply that I'll be driving a big dirty wasteful car, or even that I'll own a car at all.

The driving license program seems to be neither career or fitness to me where do you add it in your mind?

Nowhere Knight successfully reassured me. I believe I can find a job without the license now, so that's not a goal I'll explicitely set for 2009. I'll either do it along the way or squeeze it in at some point, but without consciously focusing on it. And if it doesn't happen, so be it.

Originally Posted by Brutha

I don't really see your problem.

I feel that focusing on fitness and focusing on career are mutually exclusive and that I have to choose one for 2009.

Holistic Star's question made me realize that what I want in the health area is much more than just being fit enough to work and feel good. What I want is to achieve an outstanding level of health and fitness. It's not only about eating raw or exercising as part of my daily routine. It's a goal in itself. I want to grow really big muscles and to become athletic. I also want to adopt a completely different lifestyle, centered around living healthily, being close to nature, and getting physically performant.

Every time I see one of those very muscular guys, I feel such a longing to have the same impressive shoulders. I don't know why! But I always think "Awwww, wanna be like him!!". I don't mean those who grow muscles by lifting weights at the gym, I mean those who do some meaningful things with them, like training with kettlebells, martial arts, or acrobatics.

I don't think I can ever be like them, I've always been an intellectual kind of person, and I've spent my whole adult life overweight and unable to do even one push-up... This goal scares the hell out of me.

Muscles need rest and time to grow. If I focus on fitness, it's not like I'd be exercising twelve hours a day. In my free time, I would of course develop my blog, build my website, write my eBook and do all those things I'd do anyway if I focused on career. If I focus on career, in my free time I'd exercise, eat raw, build muscle etc as well. So there's no big difference in the actions I'd take, I would basically do the same either way, maybe just a little more work vs. a little more workout.

I think there's not even a difference in my intention, long term that is.

But the focus will be completely different. My focus is what keeps me going, what pushes me out of bed in the morning, what I think of all the time, what I really want. I cannot focus on two things simultaneously. I have to choose, and the choice is a total shift in consciousness, or in personality. I don't know how to explain it, but it's a completely different way of being, you know? There's such a huge difference, short term, between pursuing the goal of helping others through online work, and pursuing the goal of becoming a muscle machine.

The latter feels selfish to me and I don't really see the value of it. But after reading Steve's last blog post, I think when I'm being really honest, that's what I want to do deep down.

Is it clearer now?

Thanks for listening, it's getting much, much clearer for me now that I write about it!

[Victor Vikingr]

If you're sort of doing both anyway, I think your career should be your main focus this year. If you manage to get income from your online work, you'll definitely have more freedom to do other things later, like working on your health, get a driver's license, learn Russian, etc.

Do you need a job? If you don't really have to get a job, I suggest working on your career, and not getting your license yet. By the way, where are you getting money from at the moment?

You could stay raw even if health isn't your main focus, right? You say it's not become a habit yet, but I think that's a good reason to keep at it. You don't need to make daily meditation and workout a goal. You can do it anyway. Like Brutha suggests, you can meditate for half an hour before bedtime. Then, when you wake up, you can exercise. Then you work on your main goal.

I think that once you get your career going, it will be easier to work on other goals, and you won't have to get a job. Liberté!

I think you're entertaining too. I feel like I know you, even though we've never met.

[ashok]

Number of goals are just like the number of kids in a family. The more you have, the less you can concentrate on each. So follow the pareto principle of 80/20. According to this principle, 80% of results in each area of our life actually comes from only 20% of our work.

So pick three or five goals that:
1, is out of your comfort zone.
2, makes a huge impact leading to the life of your dreams
3, cause a sense of excitement.

[Cultivate]

I understand a little bit better after your last post what you're talking about. I think that since you have already made a plan you are now saying that you need a certain perspective to look at your goals. You want to have a fundamental paradigm shift. I disagree, however, in the idea that you must look at either one in isolation. An alright example may be someone in the military, who is required to perform lots of physical exercise, while also being very disciplined in their paper work and other responsibilities. Seeing as you want big muscles, would looking at yourself from the perspective of a warrior work for you? Being a warrior(a knight? or maybe something more raw and close to nature?) isn't just about being athletic and fit, its also about having a fighting mindset and an appreciation for your morals and world view. This could include the perspective that your website and ebook are you fighting to provide the world with value (the pen is mightier than the sword!). To me this idea encompasses the focus you are looking for: a strong respect for your body, while also being a guardian and helper of the public.

To me this perspective could be very nature focused and helping focused, where you look at your body as a tool that must be kept razor sharp to help you in your endeavors to be a lightworker. Do not look at it as selfish to want a sound body. Is it selfish to spend time making a raw meal or sleeping? No, these are necessary for you to be able to provide all you can to the world. I dunno if this is exactly the mindset you are looking for, but maybe it can help give you an idea of what you may be able to do to combine both of your goals into a more general and functional perspective.

[Brutha]

?!! But Brutha! This would be lying!

No, it's self acceptance and trusting your body with the intuition that provokes your fear.

You somehow believe that the expectations of other people mean that you should change your life and fight your own fear in that context.

What is the basis of your fear against cars?
Maybe that there is somehow something wrong about them.

That might be the same unconscious reason that leads you to reach the conclusion that electricity is unhealthy after experiencing an energy blackout and feeling better.

But the focus will be completely different. My focus is what keeps me going, what pushes me out of bed in the morning, what I think of all the time, what I really want. I cannot focus on two things simultaneously.

I get the point.
Having one main goal and one secondary goal that isn't as important as the main goal might be the way to go.

[Rose of Cairo]

Alea jacta est.

I have decided: I'll focus on fitness in 2009.

Today I went to buy a few things: dumbell, barbell, weights, a jump rope and a few other items. Geez! Carrying all this stuff all the way through the city already gave me a hell of a workout!

Aside from growing muscle I'll focus on getting fit, on my diet of course, on sleeping with open windows and respecting my natural sleep pattern (which means going to bed and waking up very early), on using as little electricity as possible, and on washing myself only with cold water.

The reason I'm making this choice is I cannot deny it's what I really want deep down, no matter how much I feel compelled to help others and contribute.

Today I had an image of my future self in my head all day. She has awesome muscles and looks damn fit and healthy. She's with her back to me and looks at me over her shoulder with a little half-smile. There is lots of love in her glance, and a touch of tenderness, and an ironic spark, too. As if she was waiting for me I love this image. I just have to follow her.

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by Victor Vikingr

If you're sort of doing both anyway, I think your career should be your main focus this year. If you manage to get income from your online work, you'll definitely have more freedom to do other things later, like working on your health, get a driver's license, learn Russian, etc.

You're right Victor. It would definitely be the smartest and most sensible thing to do now. But I'm going the stupid path because it's the one I feel is mine.

Do you need a job? If you don't really have to get a job, I suggest working on your career, and not getting your license yet. By the way, where are you getting money from at the moment?

From jobbing a little every time I run out of money and living with as little money as possible to ensure this happens as seldom as possible

I think you're entertaining too.

I think you are entertaining too! I like reading about your goals and your experiments. I'm looking forward to seeing how you'll be doing on raw! If you need help or support or encouragement or advice, please feel free to ask.

I feel like I know you, even though we've never met.

This is mutual

[{aspiring_to_clarity}]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

I love this image. I just have to follow her.

Yay! I can hear the inspiration. It sounds like an awesome task and I have no doubt it will come to pass.

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by Brutha

You somehow believe that the expectations of other people mean that you should change your life and fight your own fear in that context.

Hmm, really? It's not about other people's expectations, I want to overcome my fear of driving because I always want to overcome or transcend all of my fears. I have decided to live a life free of any fear, so when I notice one, I get rid of it. It's a pain in the ass to always depend on someone else to drive me somewhere just because I'm scared!

But yes, you're right that I shouldn't listen to the expectations of those unemployment office people.

What is the basis of your fear against cars?
Maybe that there is somehow something wrong about them.

Well... I do think that cars aren't the healthiest invention ever but I'm not afraid of cars, I'm afraid of driving.

I'm afraid of driving because I have only a 2D vision which makes it a bit difficult to know how far away things are exactly or how fast they move, especially when I'm moving too. Sometimes I happen to bump into something (like furniture) because of not seeing where exactly it is. If I "happen to bump into something" while driving, it'll cause more than a few bruises, you know. I don't want to be a danger for others. But other people with only one eye drive very well too, so I'll manage.

That might be the same unconscious reason that leads you to reach the conclusion that electricity is unhealthy after experiencing an energy blackout and feeling better.

Hmmmmm..... interesting. I'll think about that, thanks Brutha

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

Alea jacta est.

I have decided: I'll focus on fitness in 2009.

Today I went to buy a few things: dumbell, barbell, weights, a jump rope and a few other items. Geez! Carrying all this stuff all the way through the city already gave me a hell of a workout!

Aside from growing muscle I'll focus on getting fit, on my diet of course, on sleeping with open windows and respecting my natural sleep pattern (which means going to bed and waking up very early), on using as little electricity as possible, and on washing myself only with cold water.

The reason I'm making this choice is I cannot deny it's what I really want deep down, no matter how much I feel compelled to help others and contribute.

Today I had an image of my future self in my head all day. She has awesome muscles and looks damn fit and healthy. She's with her back to me and looks at me over her shoulder with a little half-smile. There is lots of love in her glance, and a touch of tenderness, and an ironic spark, too. As if she was waiting for me I love this image. I just have to follow her.

wow rose this is great



I look forward to your future posts

[Victor Vikingr]

I think the choice you made is the smart one. It's what you feel strongest about, so it will be easier to stick with. Also, you'll end up with a great health that you will only have to maintain, so the business thing will be easier, too.

Your post burst with confidence; the only thing missing was the background music. It's clear now that you're on the right way - and you made your decision in time, too! Congratulations!

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by Cultivate

I think that since you have already made a plan you are now saying that you need a certain perspective to look at your goals.

Yes!

It's not so much about what to do, it's about what to become.

I disagree, however, in the idea that you must look at either one in isolation.

Well... I can have both of course, being a muscle beast and being an online entrepreneur. But I still believe that I cannot initially learn both at the same time. Every time I've tried to learn several things simultaneously in the past, I got bad results.

would looking at yourself from the perspective of a warrior work for you?

Absolutely! I already see myself as a Warrior.

Being a warrior(a knight? or maybe something more raw and close to nature?) isn't just about being athletic and fit, its also about having a fighting mindset and an appreciation for your morals and world view.

Yup. I love to fight, I'm always battling something.

This could include the perspective that your website and ebook are you fighting to provide the world with value (the pen is mightier than the sword!).

Absolutely! That's how I see it, that's why I want to create these websites and eBooks. They are weapons in my fight for Harmony.

To me this perspective could be very nature focused and helping focused, where you look at your body as a tool that must be kept razor sharp to help you in your endeavors to be a lightworker. Do not look at it as selfish to want a sound body. Is it selfish to spend time making a raw meal or sleeping? No, these are necessary for you to be able to provide all you can to the world.

I understand how being healthy isn't selfish and helps me contribute. I just thought that developing SO MUCH fitness and muscle isn't just a support for my lightworker work. What I want is way more than required, you know? And I thought it was selfish of me, given the choice between helping people online and something as frivolous as growing big muscles, to choose the latter!

Now I think that maybe my body can be a weapon just like a website can be. Maybe it would be inspiring, for people interested in fitness or in raw foods, to see someone grow that muscular on a raw vegan diet?

Thank you for your words!

[Rose of Cairo]

Originally Posted by lifetimelearner

wow rose this is great

Thanks for your help, lifetimelearner!

Originally Posted by Victor Vikingr

Your post burst with confidence; the only thing missing was the background music. It's clear now that you're on the right way - and you made your decision in time, too! Congratulations!

Haha True, just in time... Thanks so much Victor!

Note to myself: look for motivating, heroic music.

Originally Posted by {aspiring_to_clarity}

Yay! I can hear the inspiration. It sounds like an awesome task and I have no doubt it will come to pass.

Thanks for your confidence Aspiring.

Thank you very, very much, from the bottom of my heart, to all those who read this thread or posted in it. Thank you so much. You're all sweethearts!

[Brutha]

It's a pain in the ass to always depend on someone else to drive me somewhere just because I'm scared!

I'm probably to used to the luxury of living in a city where you can go from place A to B with public transport without any problems.

I'm afraid of driving because I have only a 2D vision which makes it a bit difficult to know how far away things are exactly or how fast they move, especially when I'm moving too.

So you do have a real explanation why you don't have a driving license, that you can tell an employer that thinks that the lack of a driving license is a sign of being to lazy to get one.

[lifetimelearner]

Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo

.

The reason I'm making this choice is I cannot deny it's what I really want deep down, no matter how much I feel compelled to help others and contribute.

and by doing this you will gain more energy and mental clarity

keep in mind the more personal your purpose the more universal it is to the experience of others -and the more it will speak to others