Want To Be Successful? Do This and You Can Be

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Be Proactive

Had you ever said these sentences before?

1. My teacher stinks, that is why my results are failing.

2. My parents always made me mad.

3. My boss is a miser, he is paying me too little.

Have you notice the similarity of the above examples? They are said in a reactive point of view. Everything that is happening to them is not their mistake and they are blaming everybody for it instead.

If you ever want to be successful in life, you must be proactive and take responsibility of your own life. Nobody care about how you fare in life and you must take your own life into your own hand and this is the only way you can be successful.

"Whether I fail or succeed shall be no man's doing but my own. I am the force"
Elaine Maxwell

The Choice Is Yours

Everyday we have hundreds or thousands of opportunity to choose to be reactive or be proactive. People cutting your queue, weather is bad for your soccer game or your sister borrowed your blouse without asking for your permission. There are so many scenarios which you can just react to them which most people do.

Is it really necessary to react to it? Not really. We have the choice to choose. Reactive people will react to every single events and waste their energy on it. They made the choices without any effort put into thinking.

Proactive people think before they act. They are clear and concise about what they want and they are always in control.

Benefits Of Being Proactive

Some benefits of being proactive...

1.Responsible
2.Not easily offended
3.Think before they act
4.In control of themselves
5.Focus on things that they can control

Proactive people only worry about things they can control and this is a very important trait to have in order to be successful. They don't worry about who will win the Premier League or the NBA finals. No matter who won, their life goes on and it is not in their circle of control.

They control things such as their work attitude, their mindset and habits. These are the things they spend most of their effort on and also reap the highest benefits.

Example: Oprah Winfrey had a really bad childhood but she does not focus on the negative side of her story. Instead she focus on inspiring others with her stories.

How To Be Proactive

Take Responsibility for Your Own Life

For now, decide that you will take the responsibility for your own life. Believe that everything that happen to you is because of your own action and stop blaming others.

Can Do Attitude

Having a can do attitude will help you to take the initiative to make things happen. This mean taking actions and the ability to take action will help you to accomplish more things in life.

Go for your dream job, find your dream date and just take action to accomplish whatever you want to achieve. Let no self doubt hold you back.

Control Your Emotions

Whenever people cut in front of your car in the high way, do you have the power to resist cursing and swearing back at them? Designate a pause button to help you control your emotion to resist. Whenever someone offend you and you have the urge to react, push your pause button and make the smarter decision.

Vincent
Personal Development Blogger

**P.S**Are you in control of your life? Do you react to almost everything that is not important?

[The NorthStar of Hope]

Honestly, you have written some words of wisdom in there..
Yet, I gotta add "after your permission".
That people listen, when we say these things about controlling one own emotions, it does NOT mean we are saying it's easy . No, it's not, & it's so hard to control your emotions, especially powerful ones such as : Anger, hatred, or even love or lust. However, when you do control them. You will feel so much better about yourself & also your self-esteem is going to higher in a noticeable manner ..

Bottom line :
People, do NOT give in for your negative emotions & start freeing yourselves of all of them ..

Regards,

[Anichels]

There is no emotion, there is peace.
There is no ignorance, there is knowledge.
There is no passion, there is serenity.
There is no chaos, there is harmony.
There is no death, there is the Force.

- Star Wars =P

[bbdream8]

Originally Posted by The NorthStar of Hope

Honestly, you have written some words of wisdom in there..
Yet, I gotta add "after your permission".
That people listen, when we say these things about controlling one own emotions, it does NOT mean we are saying it's easy . No, it's not, & it's so hard to control your emotions, especially powerful ones such as : Anger, hatred, or even love or lust. However, when you do control them. You will feel so much better about yourself & also your self-esteem is going to higher in a noticeable manner ..

Bottom line :
People, do NOT give in for your negative emotions & start freeing yourselves of all of them ..

Regards,

Hi The NorthStar of Hope,

Thanks for the added point. I agree controlling our emotions is definitely not easy and if we do master the art of controlling it, it will definitely aid us in our personal growth.

Even if we fail 8 time out of 10, if we keep on trying, we can only get better and better in controlling our emotions. As the saying, practice make perfect.

Cheers
Vincent
Personal Development Blogger