30 day challenge - No Complaining

[Franciz]

Start November 14 - End December 13

My main goal is to stopped complaining or if I do complain,to quickly replace it with something positive. I want to developed this habit by December 13, 2008.
My goal for each day is too focus on being proactive and respond positively to any challenges that I face. Also, I will post the end result of my day on this thread.

I've been complaining too much and I feel like its wasting too much of my time and its not helping me or the people around me. I believe that by developing this habit I will have more inner peace and be more useful to others.

-Franciz

[Franciz]

November 14, 2008 (well technically November 15)

I complained once about my friend but replaced it quickly with 5 positive things.
Everthing else was good.

-Franciz

[Ralph]

That's an awesome trial, keep at it

After a month you'll surely develop a habit of positive thinking. Even if you'll feel like complaining, your brain will automatically switch into something positive.

[Dev]

Yes Franciz, Ralph is right. Just keep on reminding yourself about your challenge. Even if you falter sommeday-sometime, don't feel bad about it. Your trial period is lengthy enough to make your brain adapt to this challenge.
Just keep your efforts posted so that we also get inspired. Also try and list other challenges you can take up immediately after finishing this one. You can use your positve experiences to create the list. For the next challenge you can raise the bar slightly higher.
This is what I too have done. I am a a newbie like you. You can read my previous posts.

[Franciz]

Thanks alot guys. Your words are encouraging.

Today, I sweoreared for getting lost while driving. I became aware of the situation after and quickly replaced it with positive things and found my way back. Other than that, everything else was good. I think I only complained once today that I'm aware of so thats good.

Yeah, Dev I'll go check out your posts. Also, thanks a lot Ralph. I'll be sure to keep it up.

-Franciz

[Franciz]

November 16, 2008

I complained twice today. First one was when my bro called me something, I reacted quickly to it by saying something offensive to him. I became aware of what i did so I apologized to him and I reminded myself about my goal. Secondly, my mom was lecturing me and i felt heated up, and i said something defensive to protect my ego. Those were my only complaints for today and other than that I did a great job controlling myself.

-Franciz

[Dev]

Good you are improving. Now I suggest that to improve further you make a habit of keeping a diary/journal & note these incidents- your immediate reactions,your awareness and anything related to it. By doing so, you will get more clarity & help you in your challenge.

[MariaG]

Hello Franciz & welcome to the forums. I recently completed a weekend no complaining trial based on the rules from A Complaint Free World. It was definitely challenging, even for a couple of days, but it showed me a lot about how my mind works and how complaining affects me.

If you're interested you can listen to my before and after results at my blog.

[funchy]

This is an EXCELLENT trial. It will train your mind to be more optimistic, and odds are you'll start feeling better about life in general.

Instead of just not complaining, when I shifted to a more positive life, I made it a point to give out compliments to those around me. Compliments are free, so why not give them away? People love to be given sincere compliments on their appearance or something good they just did.

I also made it a habit of just talking less about myself. When someone approaches, I'd instead ask them about themselves, their day, or their weekend rather than vent my own frustrations at them.

The world becomes a more interesting place when I focus more on those around me and less on my own feelings.


Good luck to you on your trial. I think you came up with a great trial.

[Franciz]

Thanks for the advices. I'd be sure to use it!

November 17, 2008

I reacted to my sisters comment to me. I became aware of it after the incident and quickly apoligize to her. Also, I was procrastinating about my school work.

From what I've observe I have a conditioned negative response when a family member says something bad about me. I will try to slow things down so next time I will be able to consciously thing about a better response to negative situation.

Hey, thanks a lot guys for the wise advices I really appreciate it. I'll be sure to check out the recommended threads as well.

[Franciz]

November 18, 2008

No complains about anything for today.

[Matt Willard]

Originally Posted by Franciz

November 18, 2008

No complains about anything for today.

What? That's ridiculous, I was expecting you to complain about something at least once. That's not fair.

(Clearly I need to work on my complaining as well )

[Franciz]

November 19, 2008

I was so close! It was about ten minutes ago when I saw a clip of MTV cribs in Youtube. They had G-Unit on and they were showing off their cars. I know I'm doing a 30 day No Complaining challenge, but it was the most retardest I've everseen. Anyway's, I'll just leave it at that.

-Franciz

[Franciz]

November 20, 2008

No complains today. I felt pretty positive and happy the entire day.

-Franciz

[Matt Willard]

You've been doing good so far. Keep it up!

[Franciz]

November 21, 2008

I made fun of someone. I guess I was complaining about his attire and stuff. I became aware of what I said 30 minutes later. It was pretty funny but I still complained.

-Franciz

[Franciz]

November 22, 2008

I didn't criticize anyone and I didn't complain.

-Franciz

[Matt Willard]

I would encourage cutting down on criticism as well. People tend to criticize others for what is, quite frankly, stupid and minor reasons. Everyone could use a little bit more respect and tolerance.

[Franciz]

November 23, 2008

Thanks for the suggestion Matt. I'll avoid criticizing people and or I will just talk about the positive things instead.
For this challenge, I'm also going to add "no procrastination." I need to be more efficient with my time because my school work + unproductive stuff is consuming my sleeping time.

-Franciz

[Bud921]

Franciz, I admire your courage for taking on such a great challenge. I recommend you visiting the website a Acomplaintfreeworld.org I happened to stumble upon the website when they gave out COMPLETELY free bracelets and have used it to complain less in my life. I believe the bracelets are relatively cheap still so I suggest you check it out Good luck!

[Matt Willard]

Originally Posted by Franciz

For this challenge, I'm also going to add "no procrastination." I need to be more efficient with my time because my school work + unproductive stuff is consuming my sleeping time.

Mmmm, I'd back up on this for now. No complaining is already a big task, don't make it worse just yet. Better to save "no procrastination" for another trial.

[Franciz]

November 24, 2008

Thanks a lot for the encouragement and suggestions. Okay, I'll do the "no procrastination" challenge once I'm done with this. I'll check out the website as well. Thanks guys.

No complains today, however, I had difficulties focusing on my school work. I allowed myself to get distracted many times. I think its probably because of my lack of sleep. I'll be sure to get a lot of sleep though once I'm done with tests. Peace!

-Franciz

[Franciz]

November 25, 2008

No complains for today.

-Franciz

[Franciz]

November 26, 2008

I made no complaints for today. My mind was just blank. I was in the moment pretty much the whole time, so it was pretty cool day.

-Franciz

[Matt Willard]

Sounds like you're getting along well, so I must bestow kudos! Being in the moment is definitely a subject of a future 30 day trial for me-it sounds fan-freaking-tastic, from how it's praised on the forum.

[PetraPortland]

Hi Franciz - Very inspiring post! Complaining & blaming do nothing to help us. Just being aware will help you out a lot & having a month to actively develop a new habit is commendable. I heard it takes at least 21 days to form a new habit so you've given yourself plenty of time....

[Franciz]

November 27, 2008

Hey, thanks a lot for the comments. Your comments are very helpful and motivating.

I made no complaints for today. I feel more comfortable now about not complaining. I can stop myself before I complain. If I do want to complain though (I don't know how else to word this), I say it in positive manner. When I say "in a positive manner" I should also include sarcasm. I often to this...

Girl: Hey, that girl is really annoying. She interrupts people so much.
Me: Mmm... I find it sexy.
Girl: Eew!
Me: It turns me on everytime she does that...ROAR! (with my hand in claw-like position)

I actually replace my complains by being sarcastic. I got a question for you guys, what is your opinion about replacing complaints with sarcasm? is it a good or a bad way to respond to things and why?

Peace!

-Franciz

[Matt Willard]

Well, sarcasm is usually a form of negative feedback. I wouldn't say that comment was sarcastic. As long as you keep your humor positive, it's a good way to replace complaining.

[Ttrimm]

What habit?

Hey Franciz, we could be buddies! :O :P

[Franciz]

November 28, 2008

Sup, guys. Well, the sarcastic remarks that I always make are usually funny. And sure thing Ttrimm, we could be buddies and to answer your question I'm trying to change my complaining habits.

No complaints today. WEEWEE oops that made me pee!

-Franciz