How to develop communication skills?

[machoman]

Well, my case is somewhat strange. Please suggest any advice for me. Iam in real need for help.

To tell me about myself, People tell me that Iam a shy person and I feel Iam. But I am trying to overcome shyness now. But the real problem is I have lack of communication skills. Communication skills, I mean, to communicate with other people(like talking). I find myself blank when I try to speak with my friends. And another thing is that Iam always very silent..... What I mean by this is that I find myself most of the time not talking with anyone.Even my friends tell me that Iam ask me why I am not talking. But sincerely, I could not tell them any reason because I do not have one! But I do want to talk with them and have a nice conversation, but in reality,I find myself uncomfortable. And another thing is that whenever I try to talk, I mispronounce some words during my conversation and feel stupid before them. Also, another thing is that,as said before, When I start to talk to someone, I stumble and speak some words but, after sometime, My mind immediately went blank and forgot what I wanted to say. I felt very embarrassed at that time.

I read a lot of books but I could not integrate what I learn and apply to specific thing that I want. Is there any possible way that I could overcome this problem? Can you suggest any method or a strategy to overcome this? And even though I read books, I felt really pumped up and excited about the possibilities but that kind of motivation lasts only for 2-3 days. And, after that I find myself to my old form again. What do I want to follow?

[pkeod]

Join ToastMasters.

OR

Find a community college in your area, and enroll in a speech 101 class. Meet with one of the teachers, tell that person of your intentions (that you want to better yourself by learning how to be yourself in front of people) and they may be willing to let you take their classes for free. If you can get into a night class you may have a better chance of doing this, also shop around if one teacher says no! If your goal may be to better your communication skills, then you will just have to practice communicating as long as it takes for good communication skills to bloom in you. Reading books does nothing if you don't actively practice, and a speech 101 class is a great place to practice even more skills!

[hearfromnowhere]

Originally Posted by machoman

Well, my case is somewhat strange. Please suggest any advice for me. Iam in real need for help.

To tell me about myself, People tell me that Iam a shy person and I feel Iam. But I am trying to overcome shyness now. But the real problem is I have lack of communication skills. Communication skills, I mean, to communicate with other people(like talking). I find myself blank when I try to speak with my friends. And another thing is that Iam always very silent..... What I mean by this is that I find myself most of the time not talking with anyone.Even my friends tell me that Iam ask me why I am not talking. But sincerely, I could not tell them any reason because I do not have one! But I do want to talk with them and have a nice conversation, but in reality,I find myself uncomfortable. And another thing is that whenever I try to talk, I mispronounce some words during my conversation and feel stupid before them. Also, another thing is that,as said before, When I start to talk to someone, I stumble and speak some words but, after sometime, My mind immediately went blank and forgot what I wanted to say. I felt very embarrassed at that time.

I read a lot of books but I could not integrate what I learn and apply to specific thing that I want. Is there any possible way that I could overcome this problem? Can you suggest any method or a strategy to overcome this? And even though I read books, I felt really pumped up and excited about the possibilities but that kind of motivation lasts only for 2-3 days. And, after that I find myself to my old form again. What do I want to follow?

Please be aware that your self affirmations are present in your writing.

Try this:

Please reply back to this thread giving us a remedy to your problem.

Example:

I know that I have been shy around people, but now, I am going to turn that around and my tongue shall confess that which I wish to communicate all the time and everytime!

Try it.

[machoman]

Originally Posted by hearfromnowhere

Please be aware that your self affirmations are present in your writing.

Try this:

Please reply back to this thread giving us a remedy to your problem.

Example:

I know that I have been shy around people, but now, I am going to turn that around and my tongue shall confess that which I wish to communicate all the time and every time!

Try it.

Well, I agree that I am like this for a couple of years now and I want to change this once and for all. I will improve upon my situation eachday