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06-28-2008, 09:52 PM
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 30 Day Trial: Waking up at 5am everyday and following through on 8 major goals daily Creating a beautiful life filled with success, happpiness and enlightenment Ever felt stuck, as if life is passing you bye or you're just treading water..?! Hopefully my DAILY writing will assist you in deciding, committing and delivering on your key goals/actions every day. I know this forum will keep me accountable not only to myself but also to the people who read it daily. Some of my ideas/recommendations/experiments/goals might not sit well with or suit you at all, that's fine. Perhaps I could just provide some form of reference or experience when you decide to commit to a 30day trial that gets you fired up! My 8 goals and the actions I need to fulfill daily are grouped into the following 8 categories...I will place a 'yes' or 'no' next to the relevant category with an explanation of what/why was achieved of not. I'm human just like all of you, some days will be better/easier than others but most importantly I have a plan, I'm committed and I'm doing it! Health Spirit Wealth Career Relationships Learning Organisation 1 Other See you tomorrow for Day 1..! CA Last edited by chrisafrica : 06-28-2008 at 10:00 PM.      |
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06-29-2008, 10:37 PM
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| 30 Day Trial: Waking up at 5am everyday and following through on 8 major goals daily Day 1 (Sunday): woke up at 5am! Health - YES (light weights and cardio) Spirit - YES (took the time to walk in nature and stared at the stars) Wealth - YES (Organised financial statements and nett worth docs) Career - NO (no time to research data on internet due to dinner party finishing late) Relationships - YES (amazing party with friends) Learning - YES (reading for day done as well as Spanish cd) Organisation - YES (threw out 3 boxes of old stuff-crap!) 1 Other - NO (didn't have time watch dvd and write) |
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07-01-2008, 05:34 AM
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| 30 Day Trial: Waking up at 5am everyday and following through on 8 major goals daily Day 2 Woke up at 5am and went to gym! Health - YES (weights and light swim in the morning) Spirit - NO (couldn't get to a park or garden) Wealth - NO (did achieve some of my tasks but not all of them) Career - YES (made all the calls and read reports) Relationships - YES (phoned Mom overseas and young cousins starting school) Learning - YES (played guitar, finished reading) Organistion - YES (all the crap in my house has been thrown away!) 1 other - NO (agh, really should have followed through on this but fell asleep!) Day rating: 6/10  |
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07-01-2008, 06:29 AM
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 Good luck sticking with this trial, it seems like a really great way to keep your priorities in line and balanced. |
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07-01-2008, 09:05 AM
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| Loved it. Amazing. I think it's important to all to focus daily about all the areas of improvements not only about studying nor finance or even love. Area of improvement that is not daily focused is a time bomb. Pretty much means that, if you not focus about your finance, you will when the thing gonna be unbearably painfull and it will be. same thing about your health, friends, love life, enthusiasms of life. Such habits if you could hold on to will make you live on the edge. But, the thing is it's demanding a MASSIVE ACTION, a day is only 12 hours it's not enough to do things easily, so we all need to make a decision to get ahead with all of our areas of improvement daily. And do it with Massive Actions. I've started with this new method of life last week, struggle to maintain it due psychometry exam, but keep doing it and have a noticed changes. The advantage of living with Massive Actions, is especially a lot of clarity, because you know when you are doing something that not a massive action toward the improvement of yours that you need to change right now. so it's like a reality check for Winners. Because imagine yourself living the life of Constantly massive action toward improvements in all the areas. At the beginning - it's gonna be Reallly hard! the areas that you feel like you not intended to be good at, your weak area, now gonna demand focus, and not the misleading focus of "I'll focus a little bit about it and done" - but, if it's not massive action it's not good! it's not even took into account. After awhile - Imagine, you made it you only took massive actions about all of your areas of improvements Daily. You gonna be "the lord" aren't ya ?!  Allways Taking massive action, Is it logical? If you'r go for it, you are being natural and acting with your own intension, with your self, and not with your mind. (You'r not your mind, Your mind is the sum of all the other factors like: memory, believes, Social conditioning and more) The thing is you need to take a brake only for limited things that feed your brain enogh to keep on doing that: *Writing on papers what you want, your goals, your plan, and insights and clarifying stuff. * Build your mind set - when you feeling good. * or feeding your mind with learning of self development. The thing is sure it's gonna be tough at the beggining but after awhile you'll build that muscle and imagine how that will be. You gonna have strong reality, strong values, self amusing, Strong confidence, likeable, fun, wealthy Person. Such behaviour probably gonna make you scare a lot, keep doing all that, because it's not like "just sailing from point A to point B MAN" it's REQUIRE FAILURES AND STILL KEEP DOING THAT MASSIVE ACTION, that all what it is about, and if you can't do it, You'r not from those people who gonna live the life by their own terms. Last edited by netanel22 : 07-01-2008 at 09:14 AM. |
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07-02-2008, 01:30 PM
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| 30 Day Trial: Waking up at 5am everyday and following through on 8 major goals daily Day 3 Today was crap! No better way to explain it and I have a very big and potentially controversial question to ask you... Does a partner/relationship mean that you automatically become less productive/it's harder to achieve one's goals?! Let me explain... Health - YES (day started off well, up at 5am, went to gym and exercised) Spirit - YES (best idea, left office and took laptop to coffee shop in the park) Wealth - NO (couldn't even touch the assignments I had for the day) Career - NO (shocking) Relationships - YES (saw friends, spoke to family overseas) Learning - No (played guitar but no reading or spanish studies ) Organistion - YES (did finalise some admin tasks) 1 other - NO (agh) The reason why I didn't achieve most of what I had set out to do was because I met a woman after work for drinks. We've had a few dates before and after drinks we went to dinner, went back to my place, watched a movie etc - which means all of the tasks I had assigned for after hrs flew out the window! I'm lucky to be single but now more than ever I'm worried about one's ability to achieve real goals/work real hard/be extremely goal orientated and balance a meaningful relationship. Do people who are married achieve less? Do they neglect their relationships when focusing on work/goals? Do they think they have balance? Don't get me wrong I've been in a serious relationship (I actually think she is the one, the timing/situation was just unfortunate) and thinking back it was also a slightly unproductive period in my life but I was happier/more content...you see I'm a hopeless romantic and true love comes before all else and I would live on a little hill farming with cows (if I had to) if I was with my old girlfriend... this girl I'm dating now doesn't give me that same feeling so maybe that's why I'm so irritated. what do you think? can one really be super productive and manage a relationship? Side note, I know an olympic athlete who says it's impossible, his schedule and desire to win a medal will not allow it... |
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07-02-2008, 01:55 PM
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 Make her an object "Does a partner/relationship mean that you automatically become less productive/it's harder to achieve one's goals?! " Depends on what you are looking for... one suggestion would be to convince yourself that this woman is an object , and keep yourself from having any serious feelings toward her. Surprisingly, not only will this keep you in control of your life and the relationship, but it also tends to have this reverse-psychology type effect on women. It seems in alot of scenarios, the less attached you can keep yourself, the more she will want you. Then you can have complete control over the relationship  and she will be willing to do anything you want... including only seeing you during the times that YOU decide are unimportant enough to devote to fun with this "object".Treat her like a video game console. You decide when to play, and when to stop playing. Don't let your video game rule your life, or bother you while you are working.  Another added benefit to this technique is that keeping yourself distant will ensure that your feelings are not hurt when she turns out to be a slut.  |
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07-03-2008, 02:43 PM
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Who cares if she makes you feel good and happy? What achievements really matter if you're lonely and unhappy? Quality companionship is an incredibly important part of success and happiness. Balance is the key.
__________________ "Organizing is what you do before you do something, so that when you do it, it is not all mixed up.” http://www.smead.com/organomics Last edited by karinalynn : 07-03-2008 at 02:43 PM. Reason: grammar error |
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07-03-2008, 04:46 PM
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| Day 4 Thanks for your thoughts Karinalynn, I'm still debating this issue in my head, I see so many people invest so much of themselves into relationships that don't serve them, aren't the be all and end all in the long run and then when it ends, they look back with serious regrets... Today is a write off, had a breakfast meeting, got food poisoning and have been in bed all day...hope it only lasts 24hrs |
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07-03-2008, 04:56 PM
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| Bow chicka bow bow! Quote:
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07-03-2008, 05:55 PM
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| It's great the way you've set up your goals and then go to work in some form on each aspect of your life every day!!! Congrats on an awesome start! I hope you feel better soon. As for the girl you went out with ... during the 30 days you're 'restructuring' your self... may not be the ideal time to date. But if you are going to do it anyway during this thirty days, maybe you could try to schedule a date around and after completing your goals for the day. This way you won't feel guilty afterwards and you might have a better time on your date knowing you took care of what you wanted and needed to for the day. The reason I suggest you wait until this month is over is because then you'll incorporate a relationship into a structure instead of adding to the juggling act and you'll also have something of yourself to give. |
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07-05-2008, 09:14 AM
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| Day 5 Still sick |
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07-08-2008, 05:34 AM
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| DAY 7 - I survived! after getting food poisoning and being bed ridden for a few days I'm finally back in the land of the living! I achieved about 50% of what I had set out to do based on the same goal categories I've outlined in previous posts, tomorrow should be 100% back to normal..! |
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07-09-2008, 03:52 AM
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| The point of a thirty day trial is to create a habit. You're supposed to do the action every single day. If you fail on the first day, and every single day, there's clearly a problem. Your problem is you're taking on way too much at a time. Try just waking up at 5 AM for 30 days, and then work on those eight categories over another 8 months. |
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07-09-2008, 08:05 AM
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| daily improvement... I hear what you're saying but if I wanted to be a successful 10km athlete I wouldn't run 10kms every day to build the 'habit' of running 10km... daily improvement encourages ongoing participation, whereas many people give up on goals/themselves because they missed a day/cheated and then believe they don't have the self discipline to follow through and then give up on a lot of things.... instead of taking baby steps and then being able to 'run 10kms every day' after 30days of training At this point I'm happy with daily progress and 'habitually' following through or attempting to follow through on all actions assigned to my goal categories. Come 30 days, well actually much sooner, I'm going to be fulfilling every one of my 'daily to do' items. Hating myself for missing one day/item and starting over is also a bit silly. But consciously choosing to follow through on all my items and building that habit is not. |
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07-12-2008, 04:29 PM
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| 10k run training, that's a great example. it's also one focus in one area, so all of the training is about that area, not about family time, friends relationships, guitar practice or anything else. it's putting all aside to focus on one goal and train to achieve one purpose. that seems to be the point 'ticktockclock' was making as well. maybe you'll be the first person to achieve all in one shot. but each goal takes time and focus and complete new direction away from the previous one. maybe it won't take you eight months like 'ticktockclock' mentioned, but each time you achieve control in one area, on one goal, you can work on a new one and over time achieve them all. the way you are going now, at the end of the 30 days you might have achieved at best - time management, but not actual mastery of any area of your listed goals. |
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07-15-2008, 06:51 AM
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| Day 13 - Back from holiday (had no internet) well well, thanks for the comments, I'll take some of them with a barrel of salt... I'm back from a holiday out in the bush where I've had a lot of time to clear my mind, take long hikes, read, write and spend time with friends. There were days where I didn't get through all of my tasks but that was mainly due to a lack of cellphone/internet reception. What I can say is that over the past two weeks I've become a changed man in so many areas of my life and I'm super grateful and excited about it. That's why I chose to focus on more than one area, I would rather see gradual change in every area in my life than achieve fully in one and still neglect others, it would be a contradiction in terms, a contradiction in living. I've demanded higher/more from myself across the board which really boosts one's self esteem and self worth. My strategy of 8 key areas/goals will be staying thank you very much!  Looking forward to a full post tomorrow! |
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07-21-2008, 07:39 AM
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| positive/negative influences haven't posted in a while even though things have been going well with the goals/categories... Think I look at reading/posting here as a motivator and if I read negative comments whether on this thread or others I get a bit irritated and log off. It's all about surrounding yourself with positive influences and if I don't get it here I'll phone a mentor or friend and give them an update instead... Going to try and use this week (and this forum) as a diary/done/measurement tool of my newly developed effectiveness habits...and read other inspiring/motivating people who think like me, the rest of you, well, have a nice day! |