The KeY to CONFIDENCE

[teenphenom]

You've probably read articles and books about confidence.

You may have applied some of the advice, yet failed due to the inability to be authentic.

How do you define confidence? That's a very subjective question. My definition is subconsciously knowing that you CAN excel in anything and performing any action with ease. Confidence is basically the absence of negative emotions. It allows you to do anything you want. It is present in your thinking and visible in your actions.

We as humans can instantly sense a person's confidence level the second we meet them. There are people who look you in the eye when you meet them, shake your hand firmly, smile, and can carry a conversation with a sense of humor and interest. Then there are those look away as fast as they can, easily get offended, and seem to be obsessed with getting as much intention as possible.

Confidence brings happiness and success. It draws loving and other confident people towards you because like attracts like.

The question is, how does one attain it?

Some say it comes from testosterone.

Others say it's all about ACTING confident.

Some even say money gives you confidence.

Here's a hint. These things may give the illusion of real confidence, but real confidence is within YOU. So what's the secret?

The secret to confidence is to love yourself. Yep, that's it. Just love yourself. People may be saying, "that's not true! I like myself, but I'm just shy."

Confident people love every aspects about themselves. They love their talents, their appearance, their personalities, everything.

Hey, wait - isn't this crossing the line of cockiness, though?

Believe it or not, cocky people do not like themselves. When you love yourself, you already internally know that you are respectable and lovable. You do not need anyone to tell you that. You don't even need to share it or brag about it. You simply know that people enjoy being around you and that you are talented, and it comes through in your words and actions.

SO HOW DO I LEARN TO LOVE MYSELF?
Many authors would find it sufficient enough to simply say, "just love yourself." Yet, not everyone can just do that. Adapting to changes in your thinking is harder than adapting to changes around you.

Here's a list of ways to like yourself. They may seem familiar, mainly because they are what all self-help authors preach. Yet, think about it. The reason they preach it this is because these ideas work. Once you learn to love yourself, you'll do everything better and learn to trust yourself, which in turn will give you better results in life. Now, without any more interruptions:

1. Fix Your Insecurities - This is simple. Find a list of things you don't like about yourself. Fix them. Got sweaty palms? Seek a prescription to cure it. Feel fat? Head to the gym and eat healthier. Hate your clothes? Donate them and go shopping. Keep fixing your insecurities until you feel satisfied with the way you present yourself to the world.
2. Affirmations - Yes, they do work. The keys are repetition, tense, and emotion. Say them with feeling. Say them hundreds and thousands of times. Say them as if they were true already. You already know this stuff.
3. Make the Right Choices - Your conscience always knows the RIGHT thing to do in ANY situation. There's always a morally RIGHT and morally WRONG decision. The more often you choose the RIGHT thing to do, the more you'll respect yourself. You'll say to yourself, "Hey, I exercised pretty good self-discipline yesterday when I went home early and spent time with my family instead of heading to that party. I rock." See what I mean?

Confidence is about liking and loving yourself. Enjoy your day and enjoy yourselves please!

[Jarrod]

Hmmm... I think that is a rather round about way to go about it.

I would say the key to confidence is eliminating fear.

No matter how many nice clothes you buy and/or how many plastic surgery operations you have the fear may lessen, but if your change is external then external events(such as someone ridiculing you) can bring the fear back strong.

Affirmations and trusting your consciousness/intuition build up willpower a little bit which helps to overcome fear.

Directly tackling fear is more effective in my opinion.

[hkalchemy]

Try using meditation and visualization. It's worked wonders for me. Check out the Silva Mind Control Method (some info at my blog). Everything starts in the mind, so that's where you need to be!

[vimoh]

Key to confidence = Self Respect.

[clementc82]

Fake it till you make it