I hate my job and I'm paralyzed by that realization

[freedomclub]

Title says it all. I hate my job and I'm completely paralyzed by it. I dread going to work every single day. But I'm paralyzed with so many different thoughts.

1.) It's my first real job. I've only been there for 3 weeks. Am I just a ***** shit? I don't think I am. I think I hate my job.
2.) Do I have the stones to quit?
3.) Can I do it without some kind of support from friends/family which I won't get? Cause "at least it's money"?
4.) Can I even trust my judgment? Do I hate my job?
5.) Do I know what I want? Do I even have a clue where to go next?
6.) Should I tough it out and find a new job before I quit my current one?
7.) Am I only thinking this way because I still live with my parents and have the option to think this way? If I had actually signed a lease I might be thinking differently.
8.) Will I ever make a decision?

Help me before I end up in tears =(

[Jim11]

many of us have been there.

You didn't provide any detail on the job and situation, so it's harder to provide advice.

What do you hate about it? If you don't see it drastically improving in a reasonable time frame just quit now.
"I QUIT, SEE YA"

That is, if you don't have any kids to feed and any real reason to stick it out. Just work hard to formulate a plan on what you'd like to do next, and execute it

[Derik]

Hi Freedomclub

Like jim mentioned, a lot of us has been there...me too. To start of with, no, you are not a ****. It seems like you are in asituation where you don't want to be in. It also sounds like your family are putting pressure on you to do something, because they feel you have to earn money.

I have three pieces of advice for you:

1. Set yourself some powerfull goals for the next three months. I know it sounds corny, but it will give you hope. It will give you something to work towards. I also know that you don't know how to set them, because you've mentioned that you don't know what you want. I have written a very practical article on how to do this. Try it. The link is Friday Feeling - Discover your energy and zest for life

2. In the meantime, don't resist your current situation. The moment you resist, it puts you in the worst possible space to get out of it. The moment your accept the situation, you will be able to think more clearly about how to get out of it. Here are two more articles on this topic: Friday Feeling - Discover your energy and zest for life and Friday Feeling - Discover your energy and zest for life

3. We are all in different situations. The moment we move backwards, it seems to depress and paralyze us. It doesn't matter in what situation you are, if you can just move forward one step at a time, you will get that energy and zest back. In my experience as a life coach I have seen that change more often than not happens in small chunks. So small that you only notice the difference when you look back in three months. Most of us want big changes, but it happens one steps at a time.

I hope this help. You can find my contact details in the above-mentioned site. Do not hesitate to contact me. I would love to help.

Derik

[munish]

Originally Posted by freedomclub

Title says it all. I hate my job and I'm completely paralyzed by it. I dread going to work every single day. But I'm paralyzed with so many different thoughts.

1.) It's my first real job. I've only been there for 3 weeks. Am I just a ***** shit? I don't think I am. I think I hate my job.
2.) Do I have the stones to quit?
3.) Can I do it without some kind of support from friends/family which I won't get? Cause "at least it's money"?
4.) Can I even trust my judgment? Do I hate my job?
5.) Do I know what I want? Do I even have a clue where to go next?
6.) Should I tough it out and find a new job before I quit my current one?
7.) Am I only thinking this way because I still live with my parents and have the option to think this way? If I had actually signed a lease I might be thinking differently.
8.) Will I ever make a decision?

Help me before I end up in tears =(

Hi,

Your judgement is right, as your job is giving you tears.It is better you quit this job.

Don't worry about your parents ,or about getting a new job.

Read these article by Steve pavlina.

Quitting to Win

Love Your Work or Don’t Work at All

[Acting Like Godot]

Originally Posted by freedomclub

Title says it all. I hate my job and I'm completely paralyzed by it. I dread going to work every single day. But I'm paralyzed with so many different thoughts.

Maybe you need to ask yourself, "Why do I hate my job?"

Wanting to quit after just three weeks suggests that you exercised very bad judgment in taking the job, in the first place.

On the other hand, if you really have such poor judgment, it's probably advisable to also think twice, and harder, before you quit.

You say that you're "completely paralyzed" by your job and you "dread" going to work every single day. I could be wrong, but it sounds like you have lots of fears and anxieties about your job.

It could just be due to the fact that you haven't adjusted to the new environment or aren't confident about dealing with the work, or the people at work.

If so, it may not be a good idea to run away from your fears.