What is laziness ?

[prats]

I am a working woman with 9 AM to 6 PM job ...

By the time you come from work..feeling a bit lazy to do house hold chores,is that lazy? waking up late on a saturday morning is that lazy ?

My husband helps with chores,but it comes with a tag that I am lazy and thats why he is doing things...Basically I get tired and I dont have stamina to do all the work,and at the core may be I get lazy because I saw my mom whining to do things and may be I am following..How do I change myself ?How do I improve my stamina to be able to do things? How to drive away laziness ?

[Dannyboy1]

Originally Posted by prats

I am a working woman with 9 AM to 6 PM job ...

By the time you come from work..feeling a bit lazy to do house hold chores,is that lazy? waking up late on a saturday morning is that lazy ?

My husband helps with chores,but it comes with a tag that I am lazy and thats why he is doing things...Basically I get tired and I dont have stamina to do all the work,and at the core may be I get lazy because I saw my mom whining to do things and may be I am following..How do I change myself ?How do I improve my stamina to be able to do things? How to drive away laziness ?

Motion creates energy. First put on some comfortable clothes. Throw a bunch of fruit in a blender and drink it. I do this every morning. Take a brisk walk and listen to music that you really like and forget about the day. Exercise is key. You need to get the blood flowing. Listen and participate in positive affirmations. You can buy CD's online or record them yourself. You have to develop a pattern or ritual to get yourself juiced. Come up with a list of things to wash away the worry and stress like taking a shower with music blasting. Once you repeat a pattern enough, you'll be able to psych yourself up anytime you want.

[z1freeride]

My mother was recently diagnosed with sleep apnea. She never knew that she had it. Now that she's receiving treatment, she has a lot more energy after she gets home from work (7th grade teacher).

You could drop by a sleeping clinic (whatever they're called) and see if your sleep habits are what's causing your lack of energy.

[Syr]

Laziness is pretty natural I think, humans want to achieve a lot, without spending to much energy in it. It becomes a problem if it starts to bug you, then Dannyboy1's reply might give some pointers.

[Kaspian]

Originally Posted by prats

My husband helps with chores,but it comes with a tag that I am lazy and thats why he is doing things...

Have you considered the possibility that his judgment of you (and your judgment of yourself) is draining your energy and making you tired? How would you feel if he were able to split the chores with you with an attitude of love, support, and acknowledgment of the work you do?

Originally Posted by prats

may be I get lazy because I saw my mom whining to do things and may be I am following..

Perhaps. We often repeat the patterns that we learned from our parents. Whether or not that is the case, it's more useful to address the question than it is to vaguely blame yourself and feel guilty in this way. Can you ask inside, confirm one way or the other, acknowledge whatever comes up, and release the feelings that might cause this pattern?

[prats]

Yes I guess,my core problem is I feel that cooking and cleaning is waste of my precious time which I can utilize in book reading or spending time with my family.But I guess what I have to realize is Cooking is the very core that reflects family health and is infact a very important factor for all of us.My mother for some reason always use to whine about doing house hold work,she used to throw tantrums around others including me while doing stuff,which I guess effected me in a way that if she doenst have to do then she doesnt have to get angry.May be thats the reason I am lazy towards it. Where as my husbands mom is stay at home mom and she loves cooking and experiment on different stuff.So I guess he unconsiously try to compare me with her.where I unconsiously try to defend my actions.

Now that I know the reasons, I have to slowly work towards my goals.