can any one advice me?

[edris]

first i should introduce my self .my name is edris and i 'm 20 years old .i am currently living in Finland also studying in university.let me come to my question well my problem is that i couldn't concentrate and do things which are right at the moment .for example i say to my self that 2008 is the year that i should change do what could take me to be the person i want to be .but you know what i start the year with a lot of motivation and after 1 month it is always the same . i know that every thing that you guys are telling me is gone help me to be a better person but with out my act on it .there isn't goinn to be any change .
thank you

[edris]

i also want some advice on how to control my self and not mind if some says something bad to me .for example if some one says i am lazy then i couldn't stop thinking about it and every time when i do some thing which i was doing when the person is insluting me i remember what he said to me and be angry at my self ?thanks again

[Kika]

Hi Edris,
introducing me: 31 y.o. - living in Norway - bodymind awareness consultant.

It´s great that you have dedicated this year to become more of who you truly are and want to be! most people don´t - congratulation!

Any change requires study and repetition over time.

Use this forum as a great place to get answers to questions that pops up during your process(adwises people gives here are mostly really good!), but you might want to seek a place to study more profoundly topics like:

- how our mind operates
- discovering your true purpose in life and expressing more of who you are
- overcome your greatest obstacles (all related to your mind = things you actually can change)

Let´s face it; our mind did not come with an instruction manual, and most of us never got any guidance towards discovering what we love to do and why...

To control ourself and our thoughts we need order in our mind. We need to see the whole picture - how our thoughts, feelings, actions and results are linked together. When we have a crystal clear picture of this we are in control and never our circumstances.

I´m part of a community in Scandinavia (mostly Finnish and Norwegian at the moment) who all study these things to make 2008 a year for change. Send me an e-mail if you want to know more.

[maxdof]

I couldn't advise you more than reading The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, by Stephen Covey. The first habit is Be Proactive and is the first one you will need to initiate the change you want. Each habit is a pradigm shift, which means it requires you to understand it, then it will change your vision of the world, every time.

Google the book and you will see. Enjoy the journey...