Have you ever felt life was not worth living?

[qwerty]

Dislike yourself so much, you feel this way. ever been constantly critiised by someone in your life, that it takes away your self-concept, everything you think and do is critised so that you feel you cant trust your own decisions? the person denies all your positive thoughts, that it feels like your natural development, self esteem and self-concept have all been crippled, for many many years

[anamoly]

Not too long ago I was suffering from intense depression. The suffering now has been transmuted to a deep sense of peace, wonder, mystery and curiosity.

I've constantly been yelled at as a kid for seemingly irrelevant things and money was always an unnecessary drama vehicle. Aside from that, success and education were highly valued and it seemed like whenever I deviated from notions like that, I would be belittled or such. Heck, even right now I still do not trust myself all that much. But now that is brought to awareness, it is something I can work on. Thank you for your post.

Of course, I am extremely grateful for all that because without that suffering I would not have been able to recognize and awaken from the false ego within me so easily. Now, I know that education, money - really any-thing is irrelevant. Once you understand where you come from, Lao-Tzu put it kindly "you become amused, disinterested, kindhearted as a grandmother."

[BChris]

Yep, I'm in that bandwagon too. I don't completely understand why because I dont feel this way everyday but for some reason it happens to me sometimes.
I think this have to do with been introverted because you tend to think too much about irrelevant things that others dont care.

[AnonymousOne]

I think just about any honest person would have to answer yes.

As for the critics, just remember they're putting you down because of THEIR problems, not yours. Ignore it- you're better than them.

[Sam988]

In one word, no.


AnonymousOne, don't talk as you knew what is inside everyone's mind just from your own experience. Sure life presents us struggles, but i never felt like it wasn't worth to keep living.


qwerty, as for the second part of AnonymousOne's post, you can't let the critics get the best of you. If they're constantly criticising you they're the ones with problems and they're reflecting that on other people. I know it's easier said than done, but that's the best advice i can give you.

[Stephen]

Originally Posted by AnonymousOne

I think just about any honest person would have to answer yes.

As for the critics, just remember they're putting you down because of THEIR problems, not yours. Ignore it- you're better than them.

Yes to what? The original post?

I can honestly say, I have never ever even came remotely close to thinking that life wasnt worth living. I would suggest that 85-90% of the general public feel the same. We all get down days, who doesnt? But we just pull ourselves back up and get on with it.

Dont misunderstand me. I know there are some people who need treatment. But I would hazard a guess and say that those being treated by drugs are being mistreated. Perhaps 80% of those on depression medication are on it due to two things ; self pity and lazy doctors.

[maxdof]

Originally Posted by qwerty

Dislike yourself so much, you feel this way. ever been constantly critiised by someone in your life, that it takes away your self-concept, everything you think and do is critised so that you feel you cant trust your own decisions? the person denies all your positive thoughts, that it feels like your natural development, self esteem and self-concept have all been crippled, for many many years

it seems pretty hard issue but you will master it, i think the 1st habit, Be Proactive, can help you a lot
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

[The Cloud]

Short answer: yes.

That is to say, I did at one point. I had a verbally abusive step-father whom I had to endure for most of my childhood up until I went to college. I spend a significant portion of my life laying on my bed, staring at the ceiling and mentally writing my will, wishing that I'd never been born so that I would never have had to want to not be alive. I did this because I didn't know how else to react to the situation. I was never a rebellious child, before my Mom remarried I had never developed the ability to deal with a yelling degradation factory.

Then I became more separated from him. I got an after-school job, so I would leave the house before he woke up in the morning and get back too late at night for him to have much energy to get on my case about anything. The more I became separated from him, the more emotionally stable I became. When I went to college, within two years I learned how to deal with people. I did this by hanging out with individuals that seemed able to deal with other people. Within the two years after that, I began learning how to deal with myself. I did this by seeking to understand myself.

The point here is two-fold. First off, you need to get away from this person. It doesn't matter how, that is priority numero uno. If you can't do that, then you will likely never get the chance to develop the skills you need to deal with people that have to put others down constantly. I don't know who this person is, but whether it's your mom, your wife, or anybody else that you feel obligated to stay with, you have to get away for your own sake.

Next, you have to confront the situations where you feel that you are no good. Success or failure doesn't matter here. Just put yourself with the type of people that act as you want to act, watch, and learn. When I first started hanging out with people at college, I was the epitome of clueless. I was awkward, I was out of the loop, I usually didn't know what was even going on. But I stuck with it. And I learned. This applies to yourself, two. If you want to learn about yourself, then you have to spend time trying to understand yourself. You will be terrible at it in the beginning, you won't be able to make heads or tails of your actions. But if you keep at it, one day you'll realize that you know what your issues are, and furthermore you know how to change them.

So:
1. Get away from extremely negative people.
2. Go toward people that are as you want to be.

[Kevin Givens]

Originally Posted by qwerty

Dislike yourself so much, you feel this way.

I've never felt like life wasn't worth living. But I have had relationships with negative people. Having someone negative around you will literally drain the hope, inspiration, and self esteem right from you.

It sounds like the relationship you described is killing you emotionally. You've got to eliminate it.

I know there's no easy fix but here's a few things that have helped me greatly.

1. Eliminating negative relationships
2. Building relationships with positive people
3. Having a relationship with Jesus Christ (Church can also be a great place to find positive people that will support and uplift you)
4. Reading positive, encouraging, and inspiring articles (like Steve's) and books

Like I said, there's no simple solution. Those are things that have benefited me over the years, and I hope they help you as well.