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engendertruth 11-27-2006 08:06 PM

My Life Purpose?
 
Hey everyone.

I did the exercise for discovering my life's purpose, but I am a bit confused about it - not even sure why. I guess I don't know what to do with it as it came from completely out of the blue...I know this is hard for you guys to answer since of course, most of you won't know me... but what you make of my purpose? This was the point that made me cry.

83. to live with courage so that I may conquer the personal demon that tells me that I should fear who I am and what I do, the demon that tells me I am nothing, the demon that holds me back

can someone help me make sense of this?

Thanks

Engendertruth

timmymayes 11-27-2006 08:59 PM

I like this one. However it seems like a means to an end. What is this demon holding you back from? Merely acknowledng how fear filled and held back you are may be enough to cause a similar emotional response as well. I like it so far and I say just dig deeper.

Cheers,
Timothy

manuelg 11-27-2006 09:48 PM

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Originally Posted by engendertruth (Post 15905)
83. to live with courage so that I may conquer the personal demon that tells me that I should fear who I am and what I do, the demon that tells me I am nothing, the demon that holds me back

I am uncomfortable with how heavily your "personal demon" plays into your life purpose.

I would split yourself into these parts, and write a life purpose that engages all these parts:

1) Your 3 year old, the part of you that wants to feel real good right now, and cries when it cannot. Very much like any human 3 year old.

2) Your 6 year old, the part of you that fears letting other people down, and that tries to nag everyone and itself to follow numberless rules in an attempt to never let other people down. Very much like any human 6 year old.

3) Your higher self, something that is very much you, that has access to everything you know and feel, but is highly advanced and wildly successful in ways that appeal to you right now.

4) You, the thing that is very much you, but that has the responsibility to care for your 3 year old part and your 6 year old part.

5) Your personal demon, except I would recommend giving it a ridiculous name like "Oswald", "Poindexter", or "Maynard" or any silly name you choose. This is a hideous but small thing, about 2 feet high.

Paint your personal demon into a corner. Assign some negative feelings to the 3 year old (due to the natural limitations of a 3 year old), some feelings to the 6 year old (due to the natural limitations of a 6 year old), and use the personal demon for the very few negative feelings that are left. Abuse your personal demon mercilessly.

Now your life purpose is stated in components:

1) I care for my fearful 3 year old, let it know it will be protected, and will be comforted and cared for when it is impossible to fully protect it

2) I reassure my worried 6 year old, that it is very capable and will be unconditionally loved, especially when it fails

3) I draw courage, energy, and strategy from my higher self, and my higher self is always accessible to me.

4) I trust myself.

5) My personal demon, Maynard, who is a hideous and tiny thing, tells me lies about myself. I often pull the elastic of his underwear up from the back of his trousers, lift him off the ground from solely from the underwear elastic, and hand him up by it from a nail on the wall, so he dangles helplessly 4 feet off the ground. I punish Maynard so whenever he tries to hold me back.

Lonewolf 11-27-2006 10:33 PM

That's a bizzare reply.
What your purpose means is that you are to master yourself.
What do you fear the most? Falling - take up skydiving then. Girls? - Become a PUA.

stephencp 11-28-2006 02:31 AM

I would say that crying appears to be a necessary although not sufficient indicator for a life purpose...
I agree that you should dig deeper. Effectively battling a personal demon will be required to fulfill your life's purpose, but I don't think it constitutes a purpose in and of itself, particularly since it appears to be of little value to anyone else.

Stephen
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