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Old 02-19-2008, 02:20 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Default Is it better to be motivated by passion or hate?

What motivation is recommended? Passion for a goal or hatred for a situation?
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Old 02-19-2008, 02:31 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Default Alignment.

The question is, do they both work to the same goal?

For me, I hate my job. I don't want to go there anymore. I'd do just about anything to not.

I have a passion for writing. As a goal I've set, I'm working on the career transition so I can do that full time.

Both are in alignment for what I want, so both of the energies are focused in the same direction. It doesn't matter which emotional state I happen to be in at any given moment, they both drive me to the same conclusion.

By focusing on one or the other, you lose the momentum of the other side. If I never had the hatred of the job hounding me, I likely wouldn't work quite as hard for my goals. Likewise, if I didn't have a goal to become a writer, I'd likely get stuck wallowing in my hate for the job.

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Old 02-19-2008, 03:11 AM   #3 (permalink)
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Default Passion! Always!

Hate leads nowhere but to destruction. You can passionately work to solve a problem like poverty or racism without ever allowing yourself to feel hate. I've done it both ways, and passion always leads to better results.

In my experience, using hate to motivate yourself, even to conquer an ugly social problem, always leads to negative results.
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Hey, I would tell you my opinion, but this article by this fellow Ciaran demonstrates really well what I would tell you.

This article awakened stillness within me - it gave me a moment of clarity. Maybe it can help you too. Enjoy!

Zen And The Art Of Mass Transformation: Soundbytes And Suicide Bombers

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And all hatred is a lie.

None of it is true.

It's all based on fundamental misunderstandings of the nature of reality.

All hatred is ultimately based, very simply, on errors of fact.

They have to be, because all hatred is based on division, and there is no division in reality.

So - hating a racist is as absurd as hating a child for thinking that 2 + 2 = 5.

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Hey, I would tell you my opinion, but this article by this fellow Ciaran demonstrates really well what I would tell you.

This article awakened stillness within me - it gave me a moment of clarity. Maybe it can help you too. Enjoy!

Zen And The Art Of Mass Transformation: Soundbytes And Suicide Bombers

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Hatred is pretty much cancerous to the mind. It overwhelms all other areas of your life. You just have to let it go.
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For about a week I honestly thought that maybe hate/fear could substitute for passion/drive, the theory sounded decent.

Practical reality quickly put both my feet on the ground though, the happiness in my life seemed to drain away incredibly fast and my productivity barely increased. On top of that I also very quickly adopted some of my (old) bad habits.

Don't repeat my mistake...
Its to costly.
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Old 02-19-2008, 12:45 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Hi Breakaway - love the nickname btw

I always see it as a process of pain and pleasure. In my own experience I am initially motivated by pain. I started using a new money management system because I was so frustrated from being in debt. I moved away from this situation by getting into action. Once I acted on the opportunity I began to change my relationship with money and really enjoy money. I started to experience pleasure. I actually started to like money - and liking money attracted more of it into my life. Now I'm continually experiencing more pleasure ....

In this case motivation occurred for me in two steps:

1) First Pain
2) Then Pleasure,

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Old 02-19-2008, 01:12 PM   #8 (permalink)
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No Yoda qoute yet? ^^

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Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.
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