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dking · 02-05-2008, 06:19 PM

How do I rid myself of control issues in the workplace.

Joely · 02-05-2008, 06:23 PM

Hi and welcome!

Can you give us some more information, then we can better offer advice. Is it you or somebody else who has the issue?

J x

dking · 02-05-2008, 11:12 PM

I've been off on a medical (stress) leave for 2 months. I'm wanted back and I do love my work, however I was brought up "old school" and I feel personally responsible for too many details of my work. I really need to change the way I feel towards my work and my co-workers meaning I need to concentrate more of my energy on earning my wages and not fretting about all the things I have no control over. I believe that I am my own worst enemy and I need some direction in getting over the past bad habits of taking it upon myself to "fix" all the problems which of course alienates me from co-workers who find it hard to make decisions. I am a decision maker but I don't spend enough time and thought into other's reactions to my decisions.

Is there a site that can help?

thank you

Dan.Linehan · 02-06-2008, 06:55 PM

I would say that you are wanting to change your general philosophy. There isn't a site that helps you learn to give up control, you have to work on doing it yourself.

Giving up control doesn't mean giving up on holding people accountable. Tell your staff the main goals you want them to achieve and then hold them accountable for doing so.

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02-05-2008, 06:23 PM	#2 (permalink)
Joely Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 517	Hi and welcome! Can you give us some more information, then we can better offer advice. Is it you or somebody else who has the issue? J x

02-05-2008, 11:12 PM	#3 (permalink)
dking Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 3	I've been off on a medical (stress) leave for 2 months. I'm wanted back and I do love my work, however I was brought up "old school" and I feel personally responsible for too many details of my work. I really need to change the way I feel towards my work and my co-workers meaning I need to concentrate more of my energy on earning my wages and not fretting about all the things I have no control over. I believe that I am my own worst enemy and I need some direction in getting over the past bad habits of taking it upon myself to "fix" all the problems which of course alienates me from co-workers who find it hard to make decisions. I am a decision maker but I don't spend enough time and thought into other's reactions to my decisions. Is there a site that can help? thank you

02-06-2008, 06:55 PM	#4 (permalink)
Dan.Linehan Family Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: San Rafael, CA Posts: 4,896	I would say that you are wanting to change your general philosophy. There isn't a site that helps you learn to give up control, you have to work on doing it yourself. Giving up control doesn't mean giving up on holding people accountable. Tell your staff the main goals you want them to achieve and then hold them accountable for doing so.

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