My High School is mean and boring

[Sushi]

My High School is extremely boring. It has become so boring that at times I wish I was still being bullied by the biggest loser that attends my school district just to spice up the day.

Even if that did happen I am now as tall as he and no longer put up with any of my peers crap even if that means throwing a beat down. At my school you feel like just another student unless you’re the most popular person at school.

In one particular class the students all act like they are above you and if you say something they blow if off. What makes me even angrier is that they talk to other people just fine but when I try and say something I quickly turn into a grey spot.

This brings out aggression that I have no choice but to bottle up because of everyone’s I don’t care behavior. And nobody is really the social type even if I try and form a friendly relationship I begin to understand that it is a burden for this person to talk to me because they steer the conversation to a close.

Believe me when I say I am in no way nerdy or the kind of person no one wants to be around. Has anyone else gone through this?

[thesnowyeti]

yeah i am right now. the trick is to observe how the other kids interact with each other, what they like to do, how they hang out, etc. then just copy it. it helps you fit in tremendously. it's worked at all of my schools. the one i'm at right now has lots of rich catholic clones that i don't want to be like at all, so i haven't tried to copy them because i am changing schools soon.
but also just remember that it could be your social skills, like you might not seem kind or outgoing enough, or bad hygiene or something. high school students will find the most ridiculous reasons to dislike people. if they end conversations with you, you must be doing something wrong in their eyes, so find out what it is and work on it. good luck

[Michelle]

I was wildly unpopular all throughout school. It was a genuinely miserable time in my life. I needed therapy to work out my pain from that time. Now, I'm fine and happy.

I am truly sorry you have to go through this, but I don't advocate changing yourself just to avoid bullying. The school should be protecting you, and you should be protecting yourself. That may mean standing up to the bullies, getting help from your parents, teachers or other authority figures or even changing schools. Don't let yourself be abused. Hugs to you!

[m18pak]

Who cares if they don't want to talk to you? They probably don't have anything all that interesting to say anyway.

Maybe you just don't have anything in common with these kids, which is why you can't connect with them.

[Fullcrum]

Amuse yourself at all times.

Learn the courses far faster than the teachers ever dreamed they could teach it.

Win.

[ken nubo]

Sushi, life in high school is whatever you make it. And that's the damn honest truth ;D

[Neutral]

If your here, you've figured out personal development is the best way to live life. Knowing this at high school age, gives you a head start in life, just don't let the cynical/negative thoughts get to you.

Now these aren't written from a high level of awareness but they're basically a good read.

Why Nerds are Unpopular
What You'll Wish You'd Known

Be warned some people consider these a long read!

[Mato Kinze]

Thank God High School only lasts four years. It may seem like forever when you're there, but in the long run, it is such a short time and the angst and energy put towards things becomes baffling in later years.

Do what you love and the people you find yourself around are the ones that will care about you and the ones you'll care about. Forget about the rest.

[Fullcrum]

Dude, I've been punked, laughed at, and picked on probably dozens of times. Probably over 75 at least. It happened on a daily basis and I went home feeling tired and drained all the time. It got so bad my grades, always my strong point (I'm the kinda kid with straight 100%'s on all his tests - so this was really something and it baffled my mother), started to fall.

You know what I think about it now?

I don't give a s*it.

Read that again.

I don't give a sh*t.

I'm still in high school, still with the same people, in my same small town, but in one year I've changed myself around a world of difference. Now people treat me with respect, generally like me, and I'm a hurricane of fun. Was I always like that? No. Hahaha, hell no. But I changed it.

How did I do it?

I stopped giving a sh*t what anyone thought about me. Ever. I would repeat this phrase in my head all the time while walking down the street, while facing some sticky situation, or in my spare time - I do not give a damn about what anyone thinks of me. Simple.

I also surrounded myself with positive energy. This means I clearly defined simple and set goals. I also made my mornings exciting - wrought with different exercise, healthy smoothies, and waking up earlier (5 AM) so I could read empowering stuff and listen to empowering audio.

If you do this while consistently remember to amuse yourself and look for funny things in your environment (everything is funny) you'll get this stuff handled - no time.

Keep pushing champ.

PS. Do all people like me? Hell no - many hate me - probably from my olden days. But do I care? Absolutely not - I'm just rolling around having a good time, not needing anyone's attention or validation, and I know you can do the same.

[Adrian]

Just throwing it out there, the quickest way to be accepted into a group of people is to conform to their standards (vernacular, how they dress, present themselves, and so on.) They might be looking down at you because you don't necessarily fit in with them. Fit in with them? Hooray, now they'll pay attention to you!

It's less of a problem of being individualistic than it is the environment you're in.

[freshwala]

for me high skool was amazing, but at the end of the day its just high skool, ive only recently come to understand how minor high skool really is when i saw some people from high skool, as soon as it finishes, all that hierachy n stuff goes down the drain, being kool in high skool doesnt get u anywhere, i look round now and the koolest kids from skool are low life druggies, n most of the "loser" kids are doing great in life.

i used to be a "loser" that walks around on his own n eats his lunch on his own for first year n about half of high skool, but the skool put me in a mentoring program to get me to stop skiving skool n they really helped me raise my confidence n stuff n i turned into a people person somehow n became quite popular.

i agree with adrian aswell if ur tryna work ur way up the ranks. what im tryna say is dont let it get u down and it is possible to make skool more fun n become popular.

[rosegold]

School is a waste of life.

Quit school, get a routine job that doesn't require much thinking so that you can think of Personal Development while at work: start reading for hours Steve Pavlina, Brian Tracy, time management books, etc., and then create your own blog that surpasses any other PD gurus, earn from the Google Ads and then you can eventually quit your routine no-mental job when you earn enough money from Google Ads, so that you can 100% focus on Personal Development.

[Matt Willard]

Originally Posted by rosegold

School is a waste of life.

Quit school, get a routine job that doesn't require much thinking so that you can think of Personal Development while at work: start reading for hours Steve Pavlina, Brian Tracy, time management books, etc., and then create your own blog that surpasses any other PD gurus, earn from the Google Ads and then you can eventually quit your routine no-mental job when you earn enough money from Google Ads, so that you can 100% focus on Personal Development.

I can't help but think this is sarcastic. I apologize if that's not the case-it's hard to tell without the aid of tone of voice on the Internet.

[rosegold]

Originally Posted by Matt Willard

I can't help but think this is sarcastic. I apologize if that's not the case-it's hard to tell without the aid of tone of voice on the Internet.

It's not meant to be sarcastic. Alan Lakein wrote of someone who got a no-mental routine job so that he could think of what he was passionate about while at work--fish breeding. And in his free time he would do just that.