What can I do?

[tan]

I have worked as a engineer for 3 years, but now I hate it at all. I feel very tired in doing everything. And the worst, I dont know why and how to change it. Anybody here can help me?

[mlc82]

What do you do for fun?

[mlbr23]

Perhaps it's time to do some self introspection.

When was the last time you had real fun? When you felt really stress free, not a care in the world?

Like mlc82 said, what do you do for fun?

Do you have a clear picture of what you're going to do and where you're going to be years from now? Will you still be an engineer? What was on your mind, what were your dreams before you started becoming an engineer?

Ask these type of questions.

Questions are the key to knowing yourself better. When you start to question and know yourself better, you are on track to recreating your life into a happier, more fulfilling one.

[LifeFirst]

Well, I don't think you should have gotten started in the first place. Maybe you loved it back then? I mean if you really liked something.....you wouldn't absolutely hate it right??

[Determined2Achieve]

If you don't know what to do don't get tensed because that will worsten your situation.You' ll definitely have to do some introspection.
Some suggestions
Is it really the profession you hate or your work place and the people out there?
Do you overstrain yourself?Not keeping time aside for relaxation at all?This might be one of the reasons why you are feeling this way.

What's your hobby?Do you have any?If not try doing something new for funsake.For instance join Dance Classes.This was just an example .You don't really have to do this.Do what you think might be fun for you.

Do you have an exercise regime?I had read somewhere that exercise goes a long way in keeping depression in check.Since then I try my best to exercise regularly and it makes me feel much better about who I am.

Try doing some social service.Nothine can make you more happy than making someone else happy

I hope some of this helps you.But don't give up Ok

[nick pagan]

Hello Fellow Engineer,

I have worked for years as an engineer and for years I disliked it too. The fact is I disliked many things about my life. I kept changing jobs, changing cities, changing countries looking for better conditions. Fortunately I realised that wherever I went I kept having more or less the same problems and that I couldn't be so 'unlucky' everywhere. I recognised that my attitude was the problem and the main problem was that I thought that I was a hell of a lot better at things that I was in reality. I denied that for a long time and thought that everyone and everything else was to blame but finally I faced up to the fact that actually, I was not a very competent engineer.

True confidence in any skill or activity can only come from robust competence in those things. It's hard to admit and accept a lack of competence but if you have the courage to explore this suggestion then perhaps you will find a lot of truth in it.

Work out the aspects of your engineering skills and capabilities that you are robustly competent at and for the moment focus on playing to your strengths. This will give you confidence and a relief from feeling despondent. Then work out what deficits you have between your current skill levels and the levels that you desire. Work from your foundation of strength and grow your ability incrementally.

I now enjoy working as an engineer because I accepted my inadequacies, played to my strengths and made improvements in other areas.

I spent a lot of time moving around and sometimes it is worth considering quitting. You can read more about my own personal experiences and thoughts on that here:

Nick Pagan » When It’s Okay to Quit

I hope that you don't quit engineering. What I most value about the profession is how good engineers are at solving problems. They have abilities at this far greater than most other professions because we have to deal with such difficult constraints of physical and technological limitations as well as commercial considerations. Progress in the journey of life comes down to how good your problem solving abilities are. You are fortunate to be in a great proving ground (but I understand that maybe you don't yet realise that).

Correspond with me if you want to talk about this further.

Take care,
Nick

[tan]

Thanks! You all are so kind and helpfull! Maybe, in fact, the problem is my attitude, I need to think about myself and change myself first.