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11-17-2007, 06:56 PM
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How much are we responsible for the thoughts and actions of others? If I say something mean to someone, and they become distraught and upset am I somewhat responsible for their thoughts? If I am walking down the street with revealing clothing, am I partially responsible for a man's lust? Are we SOLELY responsible for our own thoughts and actions, or are others responsible also? I am going back and forth on this issue and I would appreciate your thoughts. It seems like if I blame another for my thoughts I am only justifying my behavior, but if someone makes me sad I feel I wouldn't be sad if they never said anything in the first place. Does this make sense??? Thanks! |
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11-17-2007, 07:07 PM
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Unless you're living in a cave as a hermit, you exist in community with others. What you do and say will have impacts on those around you. Common sense is as good a guide as any. I mean, if you're walking down the street in the middle of the night in revealing clothing in a nasty neighbourhood with $100 bills dangling out of your pockets, I suppose that's your right but you may want to re-think your strategy. Others influence us, certainly. What we do with that influence is up to us. Some, like your proverbial fellow seeing you in revealing clothing (got pics?  ) has a choice to act or not act on the feelings that may arise (pun intended) as a result of that influence.Like most things, the decision isn't binary; that is, it isn't solely 100% our responsibility because we live in community. And we have a responsibility to those around us to act in a civilized, respectful manner because, whether we like it or not, what we do and say influences our environment. |
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11-17-2007, 08:08 PM
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I would think that we definetly are responsible for the thoughts of others that we directly influence. If we however indirectly influence the thoughts of others, how can we be responsible for it? If someone is attracted to you, and you have never spoken or made in non-verbal signals to them, how are you responsible for their attraction? You are just being yourself, you have not directly acted to influence their thoughts, thus you cannot be held accountable for their thoughts and actions. Like cdn2wheeler said, everyone is responsible for their thoughts and actions, and i believe everyone is responsible for the affect of their actions on other peoples thoughts. |
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11-18-2007, 12:12 AM
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If you subscribe to Subjective Reality, then you are fully responsible for everything you encounter.
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