Why be afraid?

[Swede]

If you face adversities and feel fear ask yourself why you are afraid. What are you afraid of? Do you need to be afraid? Most threats we encounter do not pose any real danger.

There is nothing dangerous about being embarrassing or not knowing how to act in a certain situation. There is nothing dangerous in asking a woman/man out for a date. There is nothing dangerous in a job interview. Almost everything we do can be done again.

So, ask yourself: Do I need to be afraid?

[Rossoneri]

Now you must remember people that hasn't found personal development still has a negative attitude, and therefore doesn't dare try new things in case they fail.It takes time to change that...


In my case I was afraid, but not any longer

[Sam988]

Originally Posted by Swede

If you face adversities and feel fear ask yourself why you are afraid. What are you afraid of? Do you need to be afraid? Most threats we encounter do not pose any real danger.

There is nothing dangerous about being embarrassing or not knowing how to act in a certain situation. There is nothing dangerous in asking a woman/man out for a date. There is nothing dangerous in a job interview. Almost everything we do can be done again.

So, ask yourself: Do I need to be afraid?

If everything was so logical, it would all be easy. But we are illogical, emotional creatures, so it's not so easy to get over fear in a variety of situations.

The real solution to get over fear, instead of trying to rationalize it, is to just act and do whatever you're afraid of doing. If you are afraid of public speaking, go and speak to as many audiences you can, and eventually your fear will be gone, or at least be diminished a lot.

We lose our fears after we repeatedly do things that we were afraid of doing, until our stubborn unconscious mind realizes that there's no real danger in the given situation.

[Buddy]

All fear comes down to the fear of death. Doesn't make it any easier to realize this, but the mind doesn't differentiate between what is real (TM) and what isn't. The body still responds even if the event isn't "real." Like dreams...who hasn't awakened from a dream scared, or delighted, or horny. Nothing real there but the subconscious doesn't know the difference.

[ZHereford]

I wrote an article on fear a while back that addresses some of the issues mentioned here.

Have a look: Overcome Your Fear.

[Swede]

ZHereford: I agree with the content of your article. There are different ways of dealing with fear.

[ZHereford]

Thanks Swede for taking a look! It's always good to get a broad perspective on any topic.