Inner Oneness and Lack of Relationship

[oBakasan]

Here is something I was pondering on recently, and seeing as there are several threads on a similar subject growing here I figured I'd post it as well.

When I was a younger child I was going through my mothers stash of jewelery and found two interesting necklaces - the pendants on them each represented a "half" of a perfect circle - and the idea was that you and your partner each wear one of them, meaning that "Together we are whole".

And back then it made sense to me. A relationship being a unification of two halves, the feminine and masculine, having two beings complement each other and act as One.

However thinking back at it, isn't the idea flawed? This kind of view implies that you need that other person to experience Oneness within yourself and that you can never be Whole if you're alone.

But what if someone wants to be alone? Or doesn't want to, but has to? Or wants to, but doesn't let himself? If we go from this idea, then he is destined to remain a "half" and that is not something I will accept.

So to sum up, my question is simple: How to experience this feeling of Wholeness within yourself without the help of a relationship? Is it possible? Or do we have no choice but to rely on the crutch that is some other person?

[Daniel Birdick]

Originally Posted by oBakasan

However thinking back at it, isn't the idea flawed? This kind of view implies that you need that other person to experience Oneness within yourself and that you can never be Whole if you're alone.

Yeah, I think it's completely flawed, as in false.

So to sum up, my question is simple: How to experience this feeling of Wholeness within yourself without the help of a relationship? Is it possible? Or do we have no choice but to rely on the crutch that is some other person?

My belief is you're already whole. The only way you can feel incomplete is if you believe you are.