7 out of 10

[Dannyboy1]

I'm reading this great new book by... oh... what's his name...? Steve.... Pavilina...? (by the way, it's funny his site underlines his name as a spelling error. )

Anyway, the first chapter talks all about how, before you can get "self help", you need to make an honest appraisal of yourself. (so true) And it talks about how if you rate a part of your life as a 7, you can't say that's good enough. If you really want it, it should be a 9 or a 10. You can't settle. It also says, it may mean you're on the wrong path. "but look at how far I've come!" It doesn't matter how far if you're on the wrong path... Forgive me for trying to paraphrase, Steve, I hope that by shortening it, I'm not totally screwing it up... But I think it's brilliant.

Everyone, if you like this site at all, you HAVE to read this book!

[lasti]

How to Get From a 7 to a 10

[Dannyboy1]

Originally Posted by lasti

How to Get From a 7 to a 10

But the book says it in a different way. Somehow it struck me a little harder in the book, it's a bit more concise and focused on the idea of being more honest with yourself.

[Savage]

Yeah, the book presents that concept much differently than the article. I also use the assessment exercise when speaking. It created a lot of stunned a-has from the audience last time.

[Dannyboy1]

Originally Posted by Steve Pavlina

Yeah, the book presents that concept much differently than the article. I also use the assessment exercise when speaking. It created a lot of stunned a-has from the audience last time.

When the idea of journaling is presented within this context, with the realization of how I'm not being as honest with myself as I'd thought, it made me realize just how essential it is to overall growth. It immediately reminded me of the time I told my trainer, "I'm getting stronger, but I'm not getting bigger." to which he said, "Are you eating enough?" I said, "Yeah!" He said, "Are you writing it down?" I said, "Well, no but..." He said, "You're not eating enough." He was absolutely right. Once I started writing it down, I realized I was 500 calories short of my goal. The whole point being, if I can't have an accurate assessment of something as simple as how much I'm eating, how can I possibly know where I am with my entire life? I can't. We just can't keep everything in our heads! We have to write it down if we want to grow. Period.

[Brutha]

I'm reading this great new book by... oh... what's his name...? Steve.... Pavilina...? (by the way, it's funny his site underlines his name as a spelling error. )

Firefox or withever browser you use has a dictionary that underlines words it doesn't know. The website hasn't anything to do with the spellchecking.

[lasti]

Originally Posted by Dannyboy1

But the book says it in a different way. Somehow it struck me a little harder in the book, it's a bit more concise and focused on the idea of being more honest with yourself.

But isn't it the same concept?

[Parthon]

I think the main difference was, the article was about finding the 10 path, even if you are on a 7 path.

The book more or less hits you in the face by saying that unless you are on a 10 path, the 7 path which is *just* good enough is really a 1 path.

It's an all or nothing approach which reveals the human tendency to relax when everything is good enough, instead of striving for better. We as humans want to be really truely happy, but at the same time our ego wants the easy way out. Looking at the stark truth of your situation shakes that foundation a lot.

[fainaent]

I'm new to this site, and I just gave that article a read... all I can say is, wow. You're right. I think in so many areas of my life, I've been at a 7(3), and complacent about it. This gave me something to think about, and I'm probably going to have to buy the book now, too :P

-Zachary

[Dannyboy1]

Originally Posted by lasti

But isn't it the same concept?

He explains the difference.