LofA and self sabotage

[unwiser]

what is the forums opinion, comments and verdict on this article

How Guilt and Shame Block the Law of Attraction

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by unwiser

what is the forums opinion, comments and verdict on this article

How Guilt and Shame Block the Law of Attraction

What are guilt and shame? Emotions/feelings we get when we incorrectly think someone is judging us, but these are self imposed feelings. Yes, we need to be mindful of what we do and how that affects others, because we only ever are really hurting oursleves.

Our society is one of controls and limits to keep us controlled and limited.

The secret is to realise no one makes us feel a certain way, we choose that way, sometimes it's necessary to check our path, but often it just sprials out of control and becomes a new crappy friend that likes to hang around. Then we feel comfort in the victim mentality and then that affects eveything else.

The LoA (CM) is simply thoughts (choices) and the output of those thoughts, if we feel guilt and shame, then we manifested the output that generates those feelings, so we have to deal with it, but we must never dwell on any negative.

Something good can always come from something bad, out job is to find it.

Max

[Maguru]

Your observation around emotions seems to render them a nuisance factor. An aspect of self we must control or ignore or deny. Is the purpose of emotions just to remind us to be mindful and nothing more?

Originally Posted by Max Power

What are guilt and shame? Emotions/feelings we get when we incorrectly think someone is judging us, but these are self imposed feelings. Yes, we need to be mindful of what we do and how that affects others, because we only ever are really hurting oursleves.

Our society is one of controls and limits to keep us controlled and limited.

The secret is to realise no one makes us feel a certain way, we choose that way, sometimes it's necessary to check our path, but often it just sprials out of control and becomes a new crappy friend that likes to hang around. Then we feel comfort in the victim mentality and then that affects eveything else.

The LoA (CM) is simply thoughts (choices) and the output of those thoughts, if we feel guilt and shame, then we manifested the output that generates those feelings, so we have to deal with it, but we must never dwell on any negative.

Something good can always come from something bad, out job is to find it.

Max

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by Maguru

Your observation around emotions seems to render them a nuisance factor. An aspect of self we must control or ignore or deny. Is the purpose of emotions just to remind us to be mindful and nothing more?

Emotions are truly wonderful and yes you're right, they remind us to be mindful of them, but too often emotions can spiral us off course so far, that we sometimes can't get back on course.

Emotions let us experience our creations, they are only annoying when we let them control us instead of us controlling them.

Max

[fascinoma]

I know that I manifested this beautiful relationship, but didn't deal with the issues I had around accountability, privacy, selfhood, etc. before doing so. Now I'm sabotaging the relationship, can't seem to stop sabotaging it or hurting this wonderful person no matter how much I love her, and watching a beautiful thing die, and it kills me to see it happen.

[cylon]

Originally Posted by fascinoma

Now I'm sabotaging the relationship, can't seem to stop sabotaging it or hurting this wonderful person no matter how much I love her, and watching a beautiful thing die, and it kills me to see it happen.

That's an affirmative statement, a self-fulfilling prophecy. You're literally speaking it into existence.

[fascinoma]

Originally Posted by cylon

That's an affirmative statement, a self-fulfilling prophecy. You're literally speaking it into existence.

Please tell me what I should say instead.

[Acting Like Godot]

That ultimately depends on what you want to do with your relationship. For example, do you think it is better for it to end and die as painlessly as possible; or do you think you want to rescue the relationship and make it work.

Anyway, you probably can use one of those Abraham-Hicks methods about reaching step by step for better thoughts. Advisable to do it in writing. Write down what's on your mind - in a brief sentence. Then reach for a next better thought and better, and better, and better. Pay attention to the emotion and feeling behind each thought. Eg:

"I am sabotaging the relationship. There is a lot of pain."

"I am hurting the relationship. I am doing it, the fault is mine."

"Since I am doing it and I don't like it, I should stop doing it."

"I started doing it myself. So I can stop."

"I want to stop doing this."

"It is within my power to stop it."

"I will stop it."

"I will stop it now."

"In fact I will start doing new different things to heal the relationship."

"Here are five things I can do to start healing the relationship. [ ]."

"Here are two things I can do TODAY to start healing the relationship."

"I believe the relationship can be healed."

"Not only can it heal, it can get better and better."

"I can make it better and better."

Etc etc.

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by fascinoma

Please tell me what I should say instead.

Don't say anything........think (choose) how you want your life to be.

We mostly play victim because we fear our power.

As perfection is boring, physical reality is challenging..........BUT, we can always access our true power, whenever we want.

Don't play victim, it's for people who feel comfortable with being powerless.

Max

[torilink]

Originally Posted by Maguru

Your observation around emotions seems to render them a nuisance factor. An aspect of self we must control or ignore or deny. Is the purpose of emotions just to remind us to be mindful and nothing more?

Emotions are indicators, they really are a gauge to our thoughts and beliefs. They do nothing of themselves, but when we change our thoughts/choices, then there is a corresponding shift in emotion, which is a good way to gauge where we are at in the manifestation process.

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by torilink

Emotions are indicators, they really are a gauge to our thoughts and beliefs. They do nothing of themselves, but when we change our thoughts/choices, then there is a corresponding shift in emotion, which is a good way to gauge where we are at in the manifestation process.

Emotions are creations, we create them to sense the joy and pain of creation, but everything is of our creation.

Hardly anyone wants to admit this, because it's easier to be a victim.

Victim mentality is required to sense being powerless and the only way to know our power is to know (sense/feel) our powerlessness.

The trick is to know and accept it's ok to be a victim sometimes, for that's how we know we are powerful, just don't let sensing your powerless become comfortable.

Max