Crappy Is Your Friend

[Max Power]

Can you say crappy here?? Oh well, too late, I'll probably get kicked off here for that, nevermind, let's start getting our life in order.

What's missing form your life? What do you want right now? Money, love, health? Whatever it is that is missing, you're not going to get it until you realise that you've made the opposite of what you truly want, your friend.

That's right, you've intentionally made crappy your best friend. When something crappy happens, the more you observe it in your live, the more it becomes part of your life then it becomes comfortable and then you've got this thing in your life that you say you don't want, but because it's a friend of yours now it's hard to tell it to go away.

Did you ever have a friend (a crappy friend) a crap relationship, a crap situation like no money? Why won't they leave!!?? Because you made them your friend, you made them comfortable and as long as you observe them in your life, you'll be stuck with them.

"Great Max, you're a genius!, but how do I get rid of the crap in my life (no money, no love, fat belly) Well, the only reason they came into your life in the first place was because you started to observe them (probably because you thought they were good at the time) so to get rid of them, it's really simple.

Stop observing them, observe something else and they will vanish.

That's all you have to do, Simple right? It is!

As you observe your present moment awareness, your life....you're creating it, if you don't think you are, then you just gave up all your power and you'll be powerless to change anything. Start observing the money you want, observe the love, observe the health and it will be made real, it will render into your physical reality and the more constant the observation, the faster it will arrive.

1. Accept that everything in your life is of your creation
2. You create through observation, constant observation.
3. Observe something else constantly and you constant moment will change.

The important point to remember is that it's ok to have crappy stuff in your life, it's probably been there a while , so it's a little comfortable, but deep down you know it's time to get other things into your life. So change what you are observing, it may be a little uncomfortable at first, but the more you make the new thing comfortable and the more you make it constant, then consciousness has no choice but to render into awareness what you are observing.

You are the observer, observing the observation creates the observation

Max (your not crappy friend )

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Max Power

change what you are observing,

Hey, Max. That phrase could have a couple of different meanings, and I like 'em both! Makes me feel like a superhero, and I must thank you for that, my crappy-free friend!

Have I told you how much I adore you lately?

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by Angela

Hey, Max. That phrase could have a couple of different meanings, and I like 'em both! Makes me feel like a superhero, and I must thank you for that, my crappy-free friend!?

AngieBaby,

We just get so comfortable with the crap in our lives, it's amazing we tolerate it But there's always a choice, we just have to make it I have my share of crap in my life, the trick is to choose to not make it your friend anymore

Have I told you how much I adore you lately?

Awww, you're making me blush 'Thanks' makes it all worthwhile, I'm here to serve.

Max

[MrBig]

The crappy friend analogy is simple, anyone can relate to it, and it is true. What more can we ask for? Thank you!

[cbreeze]

As usual, I take credence in your analogies, metaphysics/phors... at the risk of coming off like a victim.... how is the easy way to not personalize your crap that you created...... like, creating that the love of my life asked to break up - yes, i was lost in doubt if i wanted to break up, however, it's the way he did it - like he threw me away like a piece of crap - and we're married mind you - only chose to live apart till i move in at his insistence, then, all the sudden he's making all this money and he's realizing i may 'be in the way of his successs" or, what? he blames me for doubting moving in so now asked me to move out. My friends tell me to nail him with a good divorce atty. I'm hurt nevertheless, miss him, hate him, can't trust him anymore and lost my best friend and respect in a blink of a cosmic eye. whaddya say.

[torilink]

simply knowing that it isn't real is the first step.

It is all an illusion, it only hurts because you are functioning from a body/mind perspective.

Only the ego can be offended. The ego reacts to this illusion we call reality - consciousness creates.

Step back and stop reacting and taking it personal, refocus on what you truly desire. Remove all attention and focused thought from the drama, and focus on what you desire.

[Angela]

Heya, Maxie. What I meant was, you can change what you are observing (e.g., observe something else) or you can change what you are observing (e.g., actually transform the thing you are observing, by changing the way you observe it). What a fun menu to choose from!

Annah, I think you are probably still in the midst of the shock and pain of what has happened to you. But you have expressed real contempt for the man you were with, contempt that seems to predate your split. Contempt in a relationship is a pretty good indicator that something is really not working -- in fact, in his book 'Blink', Malcolm Gladwell talks about how contempt is the most reliable indicator of impending divorce. You're really angry with the guy, but can you not see how you are part of this dance? You've got to do what's best for your future, of course; I'd like to invite you to find the power you'll have by claiming responsibility for what's happened in your life. Maybe you're feeling like a victim right now, but you're not really a victim, are you?

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by annah

As usual, I take credence in your analogies, metaphysics/phors... at the risk of coming off like a victim.... how is the easy way to not personalize your crap that you created...... like, creating that the love of my life asked to break up - yes, i was lost in doubt if i wanted to break up, however, it's the way he did it - like he threw me away like a piece of crap - and we're married mind you - only chose to live apart till i move in at his insistence, then, all the sudden he's making all this money and he's realizing i may 'be in the way of his successs" or, what? he blames me for doubting moving in so now asked me to move out. My friends tell me to nail him with a good divorce atty. I'm hurt nevertheless, miss him, hate him, can't trust him anymore and lost my best friend and respect in a blink of a cosmic eye. whaddya say.

AH,

You're not probably going to like this, but..............it doesn't matter.

What does matter is that you created that partner in the first place (remember you're consciousness) for a reason, that person you created and fell in love with is the person you needed to find and fall in love with and now you no longer require that person. It only sounds callous from the limited human POV, which is not what you really are.

This whole game we're playing is a rollercoaster, you've made it like that so as not to get bored. No one in the history of humaness has ever had it wonderful 100% of the time, to have it like that is pointless.

Your biggest problem right now is seeing it through limited human eyes. These eyes are helpful to experience the pain (pain is good) but the problem lies in becoming comfortable in that pain, in that new environment. Your physical avatar, your human being is baasically a creature of habit, so when something happens we get used to it and want it to stay (lots of money, love, health) but the problem with that is the experience is limited, consciousness gets bored and says "well it's time for a new different experience" and so you lose love, money, health or you gain money, love, health.

Love, then love gone, then pain, then more pain, then accept pain, then get used to pain, then become comfortable with pain and then attract further pain.

It should be........

Love, then love gone, then pain, then some more pain, then understanding that it was just a creation to experience, no more pain, move on.

The trick is to realise that it's just a simple creation (of yours) you needed to experience and now it's time for a new one.

We can never see past the choices we don't understand.

What that means is unless you understand why you chose it in the first place you're never move past it.

You created it, you've decided you don't need it anymore, now go create something else. The moment you think it's happening to you and you didn't create it, then all your power has gone and you're a victim stuck with a crappy new friend called relationship collapse.

Max

[cbreeze]

i agree w/you Max, it's time to look for another experience = however, i'm feeling like Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction. What gives this man, using his good looks permission to be a long time liar and get away w/it? He's aware of ppl/family he hurt/used/lied to. I just found out he has a habit of lying since he's been so "spoiled". Okay, I own that i created this exp.; falling in love and marrying. heartbroken while he escapes at his house watching the telly not noticing the trail of debris he left behind w/his lies. tormenting. guesss this can only mean i'm lying to myself for having LOA'd him. i truly loved him and believed him. i literally feel like the child whose story book tale has ended - feel so bewildered and betrayed. yep - move on to another story book w/a better ending.

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by annah

i agree w/you Max, it's time to look for another experience = however, i'm feeling like Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction. What gives this man, using his good looks permission to be a long time liar and get away w/it?

AH,

You get to choose how you handle it, your choice. Is hurting him really going to make you feel better? Will you suddenly be over it all if he suffers, no, what will happen is you'll end up dragging the pain out even longer.

As long as he has power over you, then you give up your power and he wins again. If you're really angry about it, go to gym and punch the crap out of a punching bag.

I'm not saying don't feel pain, pain is necessary, what I'm saying is know when to say "I'm over this crap, it's not worth it" Then you can let the other good stuff start to flow.

Max

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by Angela

Heya, Maxie. What I meant was, you can change what you are observing (e.g., observe something else) or you can change what you are observing (e.g., actually transform the thing you are observing, by changing the way you observe it). What a fun menu to choose from!

Sorry AngieBaby, I was so excited when you said that you adored me I went all weak at the knees Okay let's simplify...........

I think you mean.....don't just work on the belief, but work on the belief system, which means, not only think you have a million dollars, but also think that getting the million dollars will be easy.

This in fact doubles the power, so to speak. We may state we have a million dollars, but there is still resistance (how hard will it be?) but if we state we have it and it was very easy, then we increase the choice, increase the intent, increase the power.

You can substitute a million dollars for love or health or any perceived desire.

We are so very clever........consciousness

Max.

[Angela]

Originally Posted by Max Power

This in fact doubles the power, so to speak.

Exactamente!! I so love splashing around in new fountains of power, don't you?

[Megan]

Really good thread. Please stick around, Max.

This crappy-friend theme has been playing in my mind for the last week or so, starting when I read this:

When You Recognize Your Essence, You Alter the Context of a Challenge

As you recognize what is essential within yourself, you are able to alter the context of the challenge.

Any challenge that does not have an appropriate context will disappear.

Again, everything is an energy pattern. You transform the patterns of your identity by recognizing and experiencing the flow of your own essence as active energy. This changes the part of your identity in which the pattern of the challenge is natural.

If the pattern of your challenge no longer has a context to which it is natural, it can no longer exist.
--Shahon Jon

That's why it's essential to go through the pain, I think. Once you've traversed the pain, the challenge falls away because it's now out-of-context.

What sayeth your biocomputer?

[Tuumble]

Interesting stuff.

The title reminded me of a quiz I found entitled How Crappy is your Life?

Of no intrinsic value but may amuse.

[Megan]

Too funny, Tuumble. Hey, you think my 'inner coach' qualifies as a crappy friend? I'm thinking yeah....

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by Megan

Really good thread. Please stick around, Max.

Yes MG, I think I will, one day at a time though

Pain is good, pain is an experience and that's the point of the creation that reality is, how can we know love without hate or dislike? We can't, plus consciousness is such a perfect little beast, it wants to know self and again that's the point of the reality. But as human beings are habitual, then we easily fall into crappy friend syndrome very easily, the trick is to not avoid pain or heart ache, but to experience it and then move on.

Have you ever noticed that when a crappy friend comes over for dinner, it's the longest dinner ever?! Everything is a requirement, we just have to empower ourselves and know when it's time to tell that crappy experience it's time to leave.

Max

[fascinoma]

Originally Posted by annah

like, creating that the love of my life asked to break up - yes, i was lost in doubt if i wanted to break up, however, it's the way he did it - like he threw me away like a piece of crap - and we're married mind you - only chose to live apart till i move in at his insistence, then, all the sudden he's making all this money and he's realizing i may 'be in the way of his successs" or, what? he blames me for doubting moving in so now asked me to move out. My friends tell me to nail him with a good divorce atty. I'm hurt nevertheless, miss him, hate him, can't trust him anymore and lost my best friend and respect in a blink of a cosmic eye. whaddya say.

Maybe your relationship crumbled because you're manifesting another mate.

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by fascinoma

Maybe your relationship crumbled because you're manifesting another mate.

As consciousness we are always searching for new experiences, new and interesting parts of ourself to enjoy. Relationships end because we require to fully know ourself.

Max