Why didn't I find Steve earlier? I manifested another woman!

[MM19]

Hello out there. Just looking for some advice. Recently, a relationship with a man I truly loved ended. Unfortunately, over the last year, I have been manifesting another woman over and over. Try as I might, I just can't stop. Several of my exes were cheaters, and it is my greatest fear now.

Sadly, this man is not really a "cheater" or a "womanizer," but has recently been behaving this way, I think bc/ I manifested it. Even when the relationship ended (3 weeks ago), he told me he still loved me and did not see this as the "true end" of our relationship (but that it would take a lot of time). In the meantime, all I keep thinking about is another woman coming along to "take my place." I am really working on trying not to manifest such thoughts, but it seems so hard since I constantly hear he is out with other women.

I know, sincerely, that he intends to take this time to get his life, finances, and career in order, and that these women he is "dating" (translation: sleeping with) just make him feel better about himself (they are younger, students, without careers in place, and think he is just the "bees knees"; I, on the other hand, am older, established, and looking to "settle down") bc/ he is a bit younger than I (5 years). How can I avoid these thoughts and maintain the understanding that I am what is better and trust what he has said to me, "that he thinks I might be the one and this isn't the end?" Thanks for the help. I feel a bit girly and silly posting this, but the advice always helps! Best!

[Holistic Star]

Answer these questions in order: Don't analyse them too much, just go for the first thought that comes into your head:


What is causing you to think these thoughts about your partner leaving you for another woman?


What feeling does it generate in you?


When was the first time you felt this feeling?


What conclusion about life did you come to in relation to that first event?


What do you know now about that event that can help you understand it differently?

[MrBig]

Hello MM19,

According to the Low of Attraction (LoA), you are 100% responsible for all of your experiences. All, there are no exceptions. But what does it mean, right?

It means that anything you don’t like and I mean anything – your boyfriend, ex-boyfriend, the way someone looked at you at a store, the weather, your broken nail, the color of your neighbors’ house – anything – is actually created by you and not by something or someone outside of you.

But what does that mean, right? It means – and yes, I know it may sound weird and counterintuitive at first, but it is true – that something within you has actually created the boyfriend situation you have described here.

In other words, your boyfriend or ex-boyfriend has absolutely nothing to do wit it. Hence, what you think you know about his intentions, about him, or what he said to you is completely irrelevant.

Originally Posted by MM19

How can I avoid these thoughts and maintain the understanding that I am what is better and trust what he has said to me, "that he thinks I might be the one and this isn't the end?"

To avoid these thoughts, you have to take 100 % responsibility for what happened. What you see in another is also in you. So all healing is actually self-healing.

Taking responsibility does not mean that you need to blame yourself for your current situation, just the opposite; you need to embrace it and love it. It is your “baby,” you created it, not your ex-boyfriend.

Okay, but what if your thoughts are still bothering you? According to Zero Limits by Joe Vitale, do this:

Say “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.”

By saying “I’m sorry” you are telling the Devine, the Universe, higher power, your God, what have you, that you want forgiveness inside yourself for whatever brought it to you. You are not asking the Devine to forgive you, you are asking the Devine to help you forgive yourself.

The “I love you” transfers the energy from stack to flowing, it reconnects you to the pure you, to the Devine.

When you say “Thank you” – you are expressing gratitude. You are showing your faith that the issue will be resolved for the highest good of all concerned.

Try it. It works.

[MM19]

Both of your responses were so helpful and insightful. I actually felt a real healing from this pain in reading them. I sat here for some time, repeating over and over, "I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you." I thought of all the negative instances where I birthed this pain, and really am looking forward to continuing it. The help you provided is so meaningful. Really. Thank you for taking the time. I really appreciate it. All love and light.

[MrBig]

Originally Posted by MM19

I sat here for some time, repeating over and over, "I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you."

You did great!

You might want to know that you were not alone seating there doing that. The fact that I came across your experience means that I have to take 100% responsibility for it. Remember? We are 100% responsible for all experiences that come into our lives; there are no exceptions.

I don’t know why your experience came into my live, but the fact is that it did. According to the LoA, something within me created it. Guess what that means? I did the “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Thank you.” thingy and it felt really good.

Your situation will resolve to the highest good of all involved. Don’t try to force it, let go. The “magic” happens when we let go.

[fascinoma]

Originally Posted by MM19

Hello out there. Just looking for some advice. Recently, a relationship with a man I truly loved ended. Unfortunately, over the last year, I have been manifesting another woman over and over. Try as I might, I just can't stop. Several of my exes were cheaters, and it is my greatest fear now.

Because you have to let go of the past. Until you do, you'll just create more of the past. Start focusing on why you have this fear, why you've created this reality, and overcome it... replace those thoughts with positive thoughts. I really recommend the book "Finding Each Other" by Don and Mary Kelly. You can find it on Amazon sellers for as cheap as two dollars.

The very best thing for manifesting a wonderful relationship (or just plain finding one) is taking time by yourself as a single person, and learn to like your own company. Deal with the reasons you keep manifesting bad experiences. I did, and after creating rejection after rejection I managed to find a husband (that ended for other reasons) and then find my mate.

You have a deep-seated reason to keep playing out this drama. It may go back to your parents' relationship. My biggest issue did. Start dealing with it... bring it to the forefront of your consciousness.