Manifesting romance - specificity?

[SamBeaven]

So I understand from a lot of stuff I've read on these boards and my wider reading on I-M that specificity in intention manifestation is favourable - things like setting a specific amount of money and getting at least close to it (like the example in the movie with Jack Canfield manifesting just under $100,000). What I wonder is how one should use this when trying to manifest a partner?

I'm trying to get a woman into my life that possesses a number of qualities that I've worked out (like, the majority of my list - based on the stuff detailed in one of the sessions in Tony Robbins' Get The Edge program). Now, my previous approach has been to visualize people from my past who exhibited these qualities when I knew them, as sort of prototypes. Trouble is, I've been manifesting the people rather than the qualities, and each time they turn out to be either out of bounds (in a relationship, married, with kids, etc). I'd consider that a signal from the universe that this particular mode of visualization isn't working well - aside from anything else it's pretty limiting, as I'm attaching myself to a smaller selection.

So, my core question: anyone know how to visualize a set of qualities without limiting oneself to a specific person? Should I do it textually, or visualize the changes in my life around that person?

[InJoy]

Why don't you try writing it out sort of like a description in a story. Write out what your desired mate looks like, talks like, smells like, thinks like, does, interacts with you... anything you can think of that is important to you. If, say, you don't care as much about looks as about actions, you could put more emphasis on the actions of the person than physical appearance.

One thing you also are really going to want to include in your description is availability and similar future desires as your own. Do this all with the intention of a relationship that fits your desires.

[Angela]

I would also include in your "manifestation story" how you feel about her, how she feels about you, and how your relationship works (what you do together, what you do apart, what you both want to create together).

I once brilliantly manifested for myself a guy who was absolutely perfect on paper -- he had all the qualities I wanted in a man! Everybody wanted us to get married, especially him!

Except I felt no chemistry with him. Oops! It's important to specify even the most obvious stuff, I think. In your case, you might want to include: "available and willing"!

[searstower]

You visualized people with specifit traits and got the people, but who were not available for a relationship.

The list of traits you've made is good for zoning in on what you feel will make you happy, but I wouldn't recommend trying to manifest the traits individually because that is probably not what you really want.

What you really want is a relationship, and not just any relationship but one that makes you happy.

So how do you visualize that? You imagine that you are in a relationship and you feel how extremely happy this makes you.

One of the best manifesters I know imagined this. She imagined that it was a year past the current date and she was near the peak of the Sierra Nevadas watching the sunset with a man. As they were watching the sunset, she gazed into this man's eyes and she felt deep down that this is the man she wanted to be with for the rest of her life.

She focused on that feeling. She had no idea what the man's face or body looked like, or whether he was funny or not, just that he was there and she was very very happy.

Enjoy

[uberinquisitive]

I would focus less on manifesting this perfect woman...and work more on becoming a more whole person.

If you're attracting almost perfect, and yet wrong, people...then I think that's more a reflection of what's going on in yourself, rather than you not manifesting well.

[Max Power]

You'll attract in a partner the qualities you either like and/or lack and she won't just turn up at your door perfect and ready. You say you continue to find the right people, but they are attached, that could mean you have to be patient and wait for an opportunity.

You won't find perfection, because the whole point of life is to get back to perfection, if anything could be perfect for all your life, then life (living in a physical reality) itself is pointless, there's no challenge and no growth there.

Relationships aren't like attracting money, they involve parts of consciousness aligning (not unlike getting money) but more in it's purest sense, the energy is different or at least more intense.

Max

[Excellent Lodestar]

Originally Posted by Angela

I would also include in your "manifestation story" how you feel about her, how she feels about you, and how your relationship works (what you do together, what you do apart, what you both want to create together).

I once brilliantly manifested for myself a guy who was absolutely perfect on paper -- he had all the qualities I wanted in a man! Everybody wanted us to get married, especially him!

Except I felt no chemistry with him. Oops! It's important to specify even the most obvious stuff, I think. In your case, you might want to include: "available and willing"!

Angela is right about the Feeling...I've "manifested" parners in the past as well, and I think writing down how you want to FEEL in the relationship will cover all the bases. I was really good at listing physical qualities and having that experience come into my life, but I always overlooked something( you never think of everything) so, I always got what I wrote down...but usually a whole lot more ...just never occured to me at the time. Writing down how you want to feel( Cherished, Secure, Respected,Spontaneity-Whatever...) will take care of that.