LoA, "allowing", and subjective reality

[learningtogrow]

I'm currently reading the book Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks and have read the chapter on "allowing" twice now. I'm currently trying to figure out my philosophies that work best for me in my reality and I'm stuck on how to look at the other people that flow in and out.

Before reading their book, I looked at people as a reflection of me and I tried to see what they were mirroring back that perhaps I thought about myself. What I gather from the book though, is that we need to allow others to be who they are in their reality. If I look at it this way, then they aren't part of my reality at all.

"They are that which they are, creators of their own life experience, attracting unto themselves, while I am creator of my experience, attracting unto me."

I just recently had an old friend visit and had a difficult time with her. She was very negative and judgemental and I'm trying to reconcile how I can learn from this situation and how can I look at it in a positive way. Do I look at her as a reflection of myself? Or do I just say that's her reality and it's not what I choose to have in mine? That seems to negate the whole subjective reality belief.

[Dharma]

Originally Posted by learningtogrow

I just recently had an old friend visit and had a difficult time with her. She was very negative and judgemental and I'm trying to reconcile how I can learn from this situation and how can I look at it in a positive way. Do I look at her as a reflection of myself? Or do I just say that's her reality and it's not what I choose to have in mine? That seems to negate the whole subjective reality belief.

Yes, she is a reflection of you. It is what you are choosing in the moment. You are showing you your negative and judgmental self. (I'm guessing you're seeing it in reflection because you are stressing positive and not allowing the negative to have it's expression.)

[Max Power]

Originally Posted by Dharma

Yes, she is a reflection of you. It is what you are choosing in the moment. You are showing you your negative and judgmental self. (I'm guessing you're seeing it in reflection because you are stressing positive and not allowing the negative to have it's expression.)

Well said and 100% right. You draw to yourself the things that you desire and the experiences you wish to learn from. You want to hear and see negativity for a reason, you just have to figure out what that reason is

Max Power

[learningtogrow]

Originally Posted by Dharma

Yes, she is a reflection of you. It is what you are choosing in the moment. You are showing you your negative and judgmental self. (I'm guessing you're seeing it in reflection because you are stressing positive and not allowing the negative to have it's expression.)

Could you explain this a little bit more? I don't understand what you mean by I'm stressing the positive and not allowing the negative to have it's expression.

[Dharma]

When you look at other people in the world, see them all as reflections, because that is what they really are. See yourself as a multidimensional being that has its consciousness spread around to different personalities or different pieces of self. In different realities the reflection of self is perceived in different ways. Here in the physical dimension, reflection is totally in your face.

The purpose of reflection is to see what you are creating in the moment. I'm not a fan of Esther and Jerry Hicks, but what I think they mean is: when you allow others to be who they are in their reality, you are not placing judgment on the moment, and you are not making the reflection of self wrong. If you are the creator of all your experience, why would you judge or push away that which you have created?

Now, when you are interacting with your negative and judgmental friend, she was showing something about you. The reflection shows you what you're in denial of. In this case, the reflection was showing you that you are not receiving a part of you that is negative and judgmental. Other evidence of this is when you said you wanted to put a positive spin on her behavior. You cannot look at what she's doing as positive or negative, that is adding more denial to the reflection. I'm guessing you see the negative and judgmental part of yourself as wrong. "Wrong" is a form of denial called polarity. And as I said above, reflection shows you what you're in denial of. Your unconscious self creates the play outside of yourself to show you where you have denial in your creatorship.

And one more important point: the mirror reflects the denial within the consciousness, it has nothing to do with the mind (what you know).