How do you intend something without intending conflict?

[elizalex]

Richful, how do you deal with others in your life that you can not control but have a negative effect on you. Example my adult son. Still living at home. Age 26 years. He has a very negative attitude. When ever he is around I find myself becoming very anxious. My desire is to see him mature, find good employment and move on with his life. He has had frequent outbursts that have caused me to develope a fear of him. I have no idea how to deal with this on a intentional level. How do I change my vibration toward my feeling about him?

[eternomi]

Originally Posted by Richful

I think if you don't aim for what you really want your intention is not clear enough, outback I'd call that misalligned.

People spend a lot of time chasing things they think will bring them what they want.

I agree with you. You might be aware that your path is not aligned with what you are trying to accomplish; or, as in your examples, you might be completely unaware that it is not. When you are unaware that you are heading in the wrong direction, the outcomes tend to point this out to you.

Originally Posted by Richful

The closer you are to the heart of your desire the stronger the emotion/attraction will be. Strong emotion drives the intention.
All my opinions, agree, disagree?

I am thinking if you are after the correct thing for you, magically it all works out. When you are after the wrong thing for you, no matter how hard you want/desire/intend, it won't work out... but hopefully you'll catch the clues along the way that you are misaligned one way or another.

I think we are saying the same thing in our own way.

[Richful]

Originally Posted by elizalex

Richful, how do you deal with others in your life that you can not control but have a negative effect on you. Example my adult son. Still living at home. Age 26 years. He has a very negative attitude. When ever he is around I find myself becoming very anxious. My desire is to see him mature, find good employment and move on with his life. He has had frequent outbursts that have caused me to develope a fear of him. I have no idea how to deal with this on a intentional level. How do I change my vibration toward my feeling about him?

Welcome elizalex, you've come to the right forum for intention manifestation. I'm no expert on these matters, just another explorer. I'll lend what advice I can and hopefully some of the wonderful people here will do the same and you can try what resonates with you BTW I'm 25, but i don't live at home.

I think that we allow others to have an effect on our emotions, we give them control. Look at your motivation for your son maturing finding work and leaving. Could it be so he's not bringing negativity into your life? That's the feeling I'm getting, but you would know the true answer. I know from personal experience that parents expectations or desires for your own life are not likely to be alligned with your own, which causes friction.

If his outbursts are serious then I would suggest seeking help locally, counseling or social service. If you really can't live with him then you could always ask him to leave, it's your home. I get the feeling from your post that he's not happy and could use a helping hand, changing negative patterns can be hard. Help where you can, but stay safe.

To deal with it intentionally, what do you believe is wrong? Belief is the foundation for intention. Change your beliefs about your son and it will change your feelings. Most importantly though, look at why you want to change the situation. It's not a happy home, which makes for an unhappy elizalex. Is this the only place your not happy? Your beliefs about your son are important, but they'll be based on deeper ones, like your beliefs about men, beliefs about yourself and what you expect from life. Big task. Very worth the effort though.

I guess I don't see intentions as a quick fix, we'll never be happy till we're expressing yourselves truly, not running beliefs we picked up along the way.
Good luck Keep posting!
Anyone else got a suggestion?

[starlequin]

Originally Posted by WayToTwilight

I guess my main question is... where can you draw the line between intending something for yourself? Can I intend to get good grades? Would that imply that others won't get good grades?

This is interesting. I often will attain my goals by avoiding pack mentality, especially with grades. I have a group project coming up in school and we are being encouraged to be as creative as possible. I will not be creative, but present the material in a forth right manner with all the technical information accurate. I can't receive a bad grade for lack of creativity, but everyone else's focus on creativity will put a smaller focus on their technical accuracy and may lead to inaccuracies or muddled explanation. I will look more knowledgeable by comparison even though I'm not necessarily smarter, I just had a different approach.

[moonrambler]

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