Manifesting a boyfriend... Or not.

[newkaren]

I seem to be rejecting every man I meet. Over the past few months, I've gone out on at least 10 first dates. I have no problem manifesting a date.

What I want to manifest, and where I'm having a problem is I don't want dates. I want a boyfriend. While 2 rejected me... I've rejected the other 8.

I worry I might be hurting men... BUT I can't say I feel anything for them... Or they do/ say something that makes it clear their qualities are not on my list.

HELP! Do I have a limiting belief? Am I manifesting wrong?

[NorthSouth]

Hi newkaren,

I'm in the same boat. While there a lot of great guys out there (a LOT!!) all the ones I've come across in the last year or three just don't spark any real interest in me and come with big, clear dealbreakers, as far as my list goes. Somehow, though, I'm sure that amazing guy I've asked for is on his way, and I'm happy to wait for him.

You and I probably do have some limiting beliefs, and I don't know what they are. However, I can point you towards some things I've read recently that I credit for my positive feeling about the whole thing, which is a big part what's attracting him!

Meeting your Half-Orange, by Amy Spencer -- the writing style is a bit cutesy/Cosmo for my taste, but it was inspiring notheless. I'd actually give it points for not mentioning LOA by name

Awesome Your Life, which highly begged me to read the above book

Melanie and the Real Sparks

Enjoy!

[JasonC]

Originally Posted by newkaren

I seem to be rejecting every man I meet. Over the past few months, I've gone out on at least 10 first dates. I have no problem manifesting a date.

What I want to manifest, and where I'm having a problem is I don't want dates. I want a boyfriend. While 2 rejected me... I've rejected the other 8.

I worry I might be hurting men... BUT I can't say I feel anything for them... Or they do/ say something that makes it clear their qualities are not on my list.

HELP! Do I have a limiting belief? Am I manifesting wrong?

It's not that you're manifesting 'wrong', it's that you're manifesting what you are vibrating. In other words, it seem you are attracting rejections one way or another.

It may suggest there is a subtle aversion to having the right boyfriend or maybe it is time to wait.

Either way, I would recommend watching your words very carefully about this situation. Expressing negativity about not having a boyfriend keeps you further stuck.

Here's a thought: What if you could be grateful for already being in the perfect relationship with the ideal guy for you (even though you don't see him yet)?

To put it another way, imagine being in the perfect relationship, and feeling incredibly grateful that you are with him. Note the feeling, and keep doing this simple exercise daily, perhaps several times a day without making it a chore.

Oh and don't be surprised if you meet the guy in the most unexpected way. Manifestations tend to always be surprises.

[desertrat]

I think the way to use l.o.a. /creative visualization is to visualize the kind of person you would want, tall skinny , short fat , computer geek , out door type ,ect. desert rat

[AngelPsychic444]

Originally Posted by newkaren

I seem to be rejecting every man I meet. Over the past few months, I've gone out on at least 10 first dates. I have no problem manifesting a date.

What I want to manifest, and where I'm having a problem is I don't want dates. I want a boyfriend. While 2 rejected me... I've rejected the other 8.

I worry I might be hurting men... BUT I can't say I feel anything for them... Or they do/ say something that makes it clear their qualities are not on my list.

HELP! Do I have a limiting belief? Am I manifesting wrong?

Get this CD, called the Romance Angels, it will help you manifest a soulmate, one that will probably fit 90% (could be more or less), of exactly the type of guy you're looking for.

Amazon.com: Romance Angels (9781401904142): Doreen Virtue: Books

"Meet the romance angels, a segment of the angelic that specializes in helping you manifest a healthy and romantic love life. On Side A of this powerful audiocassette, Dr. Doreen Virtue teaches you how to call upon the romance angels and receive their help in every facet of your love life. She gives specific examples of how the angelic kingdom can intervene in Cupid-like fashion.

On Side B, Doreen takes you through a relaxing meditation that allows the angels to clear away blocks that could be interfering with your love life. The romance angels will give you guidance that will put you on your way toward a happy and healthy relationship."

[JasonC]

You may also want to take a look at this article:

Chemistry in Relationships: How Sexy, Confident Women Add That Spice

It addresses something that all single women may need to consider: giving yourself approval, so that you can attract the right man to you.

[wanzulfikri]

Increasing the vividness your visualizations can help you a lot actually.

[JasonC]

I highly recommend you take a look at this thread:

Manifesting my new reality

I just read it a moment ago, and pyrogen shared some really interesting points (at the end of the first page) that may be relevant to you.