dating and likeness

[hamix]

This may sound strange, but can the LOA be used to attract somebody who looks somebody else? I have an object of affection, but the LOA cannot be used to influence others.

[cassiopeia]

I don't agree that the LOA can't be used to influence others. I have used it, unknowingly, in my love life many times, both to attract and un-attract people. Simply fantasising and imagining what it would be like if that special person liked me has brought about results for me... One guy in particular, a customer at the restaurant I used to work in, who I thought was so unattainable, I had hardly even spoken to him in my life. Stunningly handsome, wealthy, charming, a genuinely good person, etc. Well after a year of thinking 'wouldn't it be nice if he fancied me' (combined with avoiding him at all times because I was so shy around him), and he got drunk one night and confessed that he was really, really into me.

Unfortunately, I have also had many times when that special person is definitely interested, but I keep thinking thoughts like "He can't possibly like me" and being paranoid about their feelings for me, and guess what happens? Somebody who a week ago had the major hots for me, suddenly, inexplicably loses interest. (That's exactly what happened with the guy in the above example, and many others).

I've never consciously used the Law of Attraction to attract someone, mainly because I'm still struggling to maintain control over all my rogue thoughts, so consciously manifesting is still hit-and-miss for me. But I know for a fact that it works.

But to answer your question - I've heard of people attracting people that looked a certain way. I don't see why you wouldn't be able to - out of all the weird things that intention manifestation can do, this seems to be on the beginner to intermediate level rather than the advanced level.

Good luck!

[fantasydreamer]

there's this guy who really liked me and pursued me, after that i began liking him and imagining being with him, and then he suddenly didn't talk to me anymore, seems to do the opposite for me ...

[cassiopeia]

^^ The thing for me is detachment. If I think about a guy without being too attached to the idea of him liking me back (as in my example above, I wasn't attached to the thought of him liking me because I didn't think it would happen) then it works. But if I start liking him a lot and really really want him to like me back, it never works. It has to be a carefree, "wouldn't it be fun if he liked me, not that I really care because there are so many more fish in the sea" feeling for it to work for me.

[fantasydreamer]

oh i see ill try that cassiopeia

[fantasydreamer]

update: i just want to say that i tried that on the guy and it worked!

now i dont know if it will work with an ex whom i broke up with about a month ago...im not sure how it will work seeing as we broke up in bad terms and have not been contacting each other at all

[Sponge]

I just wanted to tell of a synch, we are watching Tinkerbell and my 3 yr old talking about it when I started reading this thread and saw fantasydreamer's fairy.

[cassiopeia]

Originally Posted by fantasydreamer

update: i just want to say that i tried that on the guy and it worked!

now i dont know if it will work with an ex whom i broke up with about a month ago...im not sure how it will work seeing as we broke up in bad terms and have not been contacting each other at all

That's awesome!

Might be a bit trickier with someone that you already have strong feelings for (whether good or bad), but with a bit of 'cleaning up' of the vibration around your relationship so that you feel more neutral about the person and your relationship with them, it should be possible.

I really feel that we influence people around us all the time with our thoughts and feelings, which is why I've never felt that it was particularly unethical to use the LOA to attract certain people. Even when interacting with my close friends, I feel how my vibration towards them, and just my vibration in general strongly influences how they act around/with me.

[dreamland]

Originally Posted by cassiopeia

That's awesome!
Might be a bit trickier with someone that you already have strong feelings for (whether good or bad), but with a bit of 'cleaning up' of the vibration around your relationship so that you feel more neutral about the person and your relationship with them, it should be possible.

Can you please elaborate this a little more...
Why is that so?
What happens when you start relationship with someone, do you still have to be neutral about them?
I don't like neutrality, I love strong (good) feelings, so why is that important to be neutral?

Is this the only way to keep a relationship?

[cassiopeia]

Originally Posted by dreamland

Can you please elaborate this a little more...
Why is that so?
What happens when you start relationship with someone, do you still have to be neutral about them?
I don't like neutrality, I love strong (good) feelings, so why is that important to be neutral?

Is this the only way to keep a relationship?

Well I was responding to fantasydreamer's comment about getting back with her ex... Since they have a history together, and the breakup was bad, it would be difficult to use the law of attraction to get him back since the best manifestations happen when you are detached to the outcome. Neutral maybe wan't the best choice of words, but I believe that if you want to get back together with an ex and you don't clean up your vibration, you're going to end up having the same kind of relationship (and the same ending) that you did before, going through the same mistakes.

As for relationships with new people... It would be good to have strong feelings for the person, as long as it's not in a needy "I have to have you" kind of way, where deep down you feel strongly mostly because of a fear of losing the person. It's like that with anything to do with the law of attraction. You have to feel the feeling of having your desire, with certainty, rather than feel the feeling of wanting it (wanting is really just feeling a lack of something).

But... if you feel strongly about something/someone that you don't yet have, it can be difficult to be detached to the outcome. (Something I'm still learning to be ) Although lots of people do manage it.

[fantasydreamer]

Originally Posted by Sponge

I just wanted to tell of a synch, we are watching Tinkerbell and my 3 yr old talking about it when I started reading this thread and saw fantasydreamer's fairy.

that is sweet, could this synch mean something?

[fantasydreamer]

Originally Posted by cassiopeia

That's awesome!

Might be a bit trickier with someone that you already have strong feelings for (whether good or bad), but with a bit of 'cleaning up' of the vibration around your relationship so that you feel more neutral about the person and your relationship with them, it should be possible.

Hi Cassiopeia,
Thanks for the helpful advice, would you know how to "clean up" the vibration? I ran the script "wouldn't it be fun if he liked me, not that I really care because there are so many more fish in the sea" in my head and it worked on the other guy. What do you think would be a good script running through my head on the other scenario where I want to get my ex back?

[Now123]

Originally Posted by fantasydreamer

Hi Cassiopeia,
Thanks for the helpful advice, would you know how to "clean up" the vibration? I ran the script "wouldn't it be fun if he liked me, not that I really care because there are so many more fish in the sea" in my head and it worked on the other guy. What do you think would be a good script running through my head on the other scenario where I want to get my ex back?

hmmm...Its seems like visualisations works when you visulise the experience of being with them.

People get it wrong when they become attached while theysee what they want in their minds eye. they become to attached that they forget to add the experience part of it.

My 0.02 cents

[fantasydreamer]

Originally Posted by Now123

hmmm...Its seems like visualisations works when you visulise the experience of being with them.

People get it wrong when they become attached while theysee what they want in their minds eye. they become to attached that they forget to add the experience part of it.

My 0.02 cents

oh, how exactly do u add the "experience" part to it...like visualize it or actually feel it?

[Now123]

Originally Posted by fantasydreamer

oh, how exactly do u add the "experience" part to it...like visualize it or actually feel it?

whatever it takes to bring out the good feeling that you are living it. visualise it but don't focus on getting things. Alot of time people visualise for the intention of getting things, Instead of actually trying to get a good feeling out of it. Its the good feeling/vibration that attracts desires.


Heres a scripts: I am not going to visualise with the intention to manifest, I am going to visualise because Im curious to how it would feel like If I think about it. I don't care If I get it in the physical world as long I can experience it in my mind.

Try it.

[hamix]

I should clarify lol.

This sounds strange, but it's a fuller explanation of what I am expressing. If one uses another woman as a basis for visualisation, would the person the Universe gives you resemble her?

As an example, say you used Kim or Khloe Kardashian as a template, and then a woman you meet later resembles either of them. Is this possible?

[Divine Muse]

For the record I love this thread.

I think it's possible to attract someone that looks like somebody else. So many people look alike, when you travel from state to state you start to see that people in general tend to have similar features.

[JagJ]

Sometimes if you push for something so much it backfires. Could it be this, or could you still be stuck on the superficial qualities? Deepen the connection by asking for a man who will not suddenly back off. Ask for a confident man who knows what he wants , wants to me with you and will stay with you, through mutual attraction. He's single, available and marriageable ( if that is what you want). Ask that be not back which can hurt your or confusing you, etc. I hope this works for you! Also, ask for your soulmate!