I can't stand my co-worker now

[newkaren]

and Im sure the feeling is mutual.

I expected to attract different poeple to me when i started changing my vibe. I also knew some friendships would go by the wayside, but this is a very strong repell.

Is this normal?

[eyerings]

Hi newkaren,
I've recently learnt how to overcome the same issue and I think I could share my method here.

First of all, when intending a manifestation to happen too fast, there would a strong effect coming back to me in the opposite direction. I would acknowledge that as an affirmation from the universe that it has received my intention.

My next step would be to ask for guidance and help (from angels, higher self, guides,etc) to bring a revelation for me to manifest the outcome or solution. After this asking, I would pay attention for any subtle hints or nudge coming my way with regards to the intention I set out.

Soon, some actions I take using my gut feeling would lead me to have a solution to the problem / getting the result I want.

I went through the same phase of wanting to change the quality of people I work with daily, to align myself towards personal growth. I got the change that I wanted (a new job) but similarly to you, I couldn't bring myself to like one person as much as I wanted to. I dislike frictions at work, and I intended to resolve the dislike. I asked my angels for guidance and fast enough, just after a few days, I got a call from this colleague of mine suggesting to go for a sightseeing in the city together.

My first auto response was to think of an excuse not to go, but I was lucky I listened to my intuitions. We went and had a good time exchanging deep conversations while discovering the city. The conversations that we had led to a mutual understanding and respect between us and I can say we are better colleagues now than ever.

My story seems simple, but I was really consciously practicing LOA in my quest for a solution to this simple issue. Hope it helps u too.

[MagicalRealist]

Originally Posted by newkaren

and Im sure the feeling is mutual.

I expected to attract different poeple to me when i started changing my vibe. I also knew some friendships would go by the wayside, but this is a very strong repell.

Is this normal?

Yes.

I see it as a test, of sorts. I put out a strong intention for something specific, and occasionally (though not so often, anymore) I get something back that I really didn't want. And it's so much of what I didn't want--often the perfect opposite--that it's downright ridiculous.

But you're being given a choice, here: you can either dwell on "This isn't what I wanted, this is awful, the LoA doesn't work, I hate this person, they're horrible"--which is your old, negative, default thinking trying to reassert itself--or you can laugh at it and say, "Ah, I see what you're doing. Very funny! Really! But this [your specific desire] is what I really intend to have."

As for the person you don't like, the way I like to deal with them is to carry on imaginary conversations with them. I tell them I love and accept them exactly as they are, and thank them for everything they've shown me about myself and my limited thinking. I build up as much positive feeling for them as I can. I wish them well, then imagine them getting everything they ever wanted. If I don't know exactly what they want, I just imagine them being in a wonderful place, perfectly relaxed and happy. And when I do that, the person either stops being an annoyance and I start enjoying their company, or else they leave my life entirely. Sometimes it takes only one session to resolve the problem; other times, it can take several attempts. But it works.

[elucidate]

What exactly can't you stand about your co-worker?

Generally when we feel such a strong dislike for someone it indicates that we are seeing something in them that we don't like about ourselves, but it seems like it's about them, not us.

It's called projection, and it's an interesting phenomena that humans use to protect their ego from it's carefully constructed self- image, that isn't always an accurate account of how we really are.

If you can pinpoint what exactly you don't like about him/her, it will offer interesting insight into yourself.

[Balbrae]

Originally Posted by newkaren

and Im sure the feeling is mutual.

I expected to attract different poeple to me when i started changing my vibe. I also knew some friendships would go by the wayside, but this is a very strong repell.

Is this normal?

I find that the best method for dealing with people for whom we have a strong aversion in the office setting is to disallow thoughts of disharmony from monopolizing my mental stream. So, for example, when I am a captive audience of someone who might otherwise "annoy me," I simply focus on other things that make me happy. I use such times as opportunities to visualize my dreams. This does three things. First, it frees me from locked-thoughts of negativity. Second, it reinforces the notion that no one truly has "control" over my mind. Third, it helps me log quality visualization time.

Some like to recommend diving into the self-analysis of why one feels hostility or anger, along the lines of "it represents something in you that you are projecting onto someone else." While there is a place for self-analysis and introspection, I have found that such approaches in the work place are not helpful. First of all, workplaces are breeding grounds for competition, exclusion, and insecurity. So trying to analyze a zillion things that might be wrong with you, in the context of such rampant insecurity by others, is not an efficient way of effecting change. Second, moving on is an important part of evolution; if one engages in positive thought, then new horizons will be manifested. It has been said that the place to effect change is not in the outer world, but the in inner world. So if you're not going to change other people in the workplace through criticism or demands, why bother with enthusiasm-zapping self-analysis over the matter? You're far better off just thinking positive thoughts, such as: "I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, and happy" (an affirmation from Charles Hannel). Then, the Universe will rearrange people, places, and things, to bring you that result, under the LoA.