manifesting love

[newkaren]

okay so im new to this whole manifesting thing. Ive been doing it for about 2 weeks. Ive managed to manifest happieness, that was easy. Ive also managed to manifest a little money ($160)... Id like to manifest love... The problem Im having is when I think of what I want in a relationship. Its all very logical. When i think of someone special I know, Im able to put emotion behind it.

Now dont get the wrong idea, i dont want to force myself on anyone, and I truely dont know if I really would want a relationship with this person I cant say that I love them. I just know its a short cut to emotion into the mix. I wonder how my doubt about the relationship gets into the mix. The truth is he might be the man of my dreams... Only in my dreams.

I should add, this is someone who has no idea that he helped me through the darkest day of my life. He is just a positive person. Someone I would not be suprisied to find here. We never talked about my dark day. All our convosations were upbeat.















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[GuitarChick]

Trying to manifest love with a specific person isn't impossible, but it's very difficult, and perhaps not the most practical or beneficial intent.

I understand the frustration with trying to illicit emotions for someone who doesn't necessarily exist in your world - yet, however, remember that part of the process is to set the intention and then release it. It's a difficult task to become detached if it's a specific person.

Try visualizing the type of person you want to share your love with. How do they make you feel? What sort of characteristics do they have? Be specific. Maybe write a list of all the attributes your perfect mate has. Or the things you want to do, or share with your mate.

It's much easier to conjure up emotions surrounding someone you already know, but sometimes shortcuts don't lead you in the right direction! I have many memories of road trips gone wrong because of the decision to take a short cut. It seems like a time saver at the time - but more often then not you end up lost, arriving at your destination even later - or worse yet, not arriving at your destination at all!

This person seems to have had a profound impact on you, and perhaps he is the person you seek. I caution against becoming attached to that idea, and instead set your intention without a specific person in mind and be completely open to the possibilities before you. Just believe that the right person for you is coming, and the love you desire is only one manifestation away!

[Laylaa]

Originally Posted by GuitarChick

set the intention and then release it. It's a difficult task to become detached if it's a specific person.

Hey!
I've always wondered what people have meant when they say become "detached" from your intention (Not specifically in manifesting love, but everything). I always hear peole say its important to be detached, but i've don't understand what it actually means? And why it's important.
Could someone explain?

Cheers, Laylaa.

[newkaren]

Your not desprate for it.

The first thing i decided to manifest was happieness. I figured it was 100% in my control. Becuase im happy where I am, and greatful for everything in my life, I dont have a whole I need to fill. Yes, I'd like love, but I don't need love.

[newkaren]

guitarchick,

Of course your right. I've always have a very vivid imagination. And as far back as I can remember I've used day dreaming as an escape. It lends itself well to the LoA.

As to the gentalman in question. I feel like there is some unfinished business. Maybe its time I sent him an email or something expressing just what he did for me, and my graditude.

[VinceG]

Manifesting love comes down to two actions, knowing what you want in your mate, and actually getting it. If you have the first, the second's easy. You can also just ask the universe to give you someone you know's amazing. But then when he shows up you have to a) know it's him, and b) actually date him. If you have trouble recognizing great guys or taking advantage of opportunity, issues normally found in women interested in manifesting love, then you'll need to work around them.

It's no problem, you can ask the universe to make him approach you. But then you'll have to agree to date all the guys who ask you out. Otherwise the perfect guy could slip through your fingers because you weren't prepared to recognize him.

This isn't to discourage you from manifesting, just to realize that many times people "fail" to manifest, when really they just didn't recognize/take advantage of it when it did manifest.

This is why many suggest you start with manifesting easy to recognize/take advantage of things rather than big life changing stuff. Not because it's any easier to manifest, say, coins, but because you build a lot of trust in the process quickly when you do that.

[elucidate]

Originally Posted by Laylaa

Hey!
I've always wondered what people have meant when they say become "detached" from your intention (Not specifically in manifesting love, but everything). I always hear peole say its important to be detached, but i've don't understand what it actually means? And why it's important.
Could someone explain?

Cheers, Laylaa.

It means that once you have made your intention and put it out to the universe, you then literally let go of it. You don't think about it anymore, you don't wonder when it's going to manifest or how, you just get on with things.

Detaching is a really important part of manifesting because if you are constantly thinking about the thing or how it's going to come about, worrying etc, you sort of dilute the power you've given to the thing...like, you aren't fully trusting the universe is doing it's thing, and I think this effects the time in which it takes to manifest and just the general effectiveness of your intention.

Basically you need to have total trust that it's all happening behind the scenes, so there is no need to think about it after it's done.

[Laylaa]

Originally Posted by elucidate

It means that once you have made your intention and put it out to the universe, you then literally let go of it. You don't think about it anymore, you don't wonder when it's going to manifest or how, you just get on with things.

Detaching is a really important part of manifesting because if you are constantly thinking about the thing or how it's going to come about, worrying etc, you sort of dilute the power you've given to the thing...like, you aren't fully trusting the universe is doing it's thing, and I think this effects the time in which it takes to manifest and just the general effectiveness of your intention.

Basically you need to have total trust that it's all happening behind the scenes, so there is no need to think about it after it's done.

Thanks for your reply! It clears some things up.
But I'm just still a little confused. You also hear that you have to visualize and act as though your already with your desire ... How do you do this if you have to forget about it?

[TheLifeQuaker]

You don't have to forget about it. (Don't have to visualize and act as though you're already with it either)...

Forgetting about it is helpful for most people though because most people if they are thinking about it...are instead likely to be doing what elucidate mentioned...wondering how it will happen, worrying, doubting etc. Which is to say, when people first try and think about the thing, they're actually normally thinking about not having/being the thing.

If you can think about it briefly (and thus "align" with it) and then totally forget about it then your "vibration" stays where you last left it (in line with what you want).

Truth is though, that doesn't apply very well to the types of things people initially tend to want to change (i.e. money, relationships, health)...because those are big things to most people, and our lives are set up in a way you can't normally just "forget" about them.

[TuningIn]

Originally Posted by newkaren

okay so im new to this whole manifesting thing. Ive been doing it for about 2 weeks. Ive managed to manifest happieness, that was easy. Ive also managed to manifest a little money ($160)... Id like to manifest love... The problem Im having is when I think of what I want in a relationship. Its all very logical. When i think of someone special I know, Im able to put emotion behind it.

Now dont get the wrong idea, i dont want to force myself on anyone, and I truely dont know if I really would want a relationship with this person I cant say that I love them. I just know its a short cut to emotion into the mix. I wonder how my doubt about the relationship gets into the mix. The truth is he might be the man of my dreams... Only in my dreams.

I should add, this is someone who has no idea that he helped me through the darkest day of my life. He is just a positive person. Someone I would not be suprisied to find here. We never talked about my dark day. All our convosations were upbeat.

I do believe Karen, that you should pay attention to Vince's post, especially the lower portion of what he was saying. As far as trying to force another human being into being interested in you by use of manifestation via intention, I would suggest going and finding a witch and casting a love spell on him, or shoving a potion down his throat, he wont be able to resist either way, because magic doesn't care. That is only if your soul is that dark and their is a calloused hardness over the shell of such a heart.

I mean not to offend, just catch my drift, any forced behavior, is perverted behavior. Simply realize that you wouldn't enjoy someone capturing you that you did not desire to capture you.

Furthermore, I don't think you are the type of person who would do such a thing even if you wanted and could. You're kind and wise enough to realize that if you did decide to do such a thing, you would ruin him, and he would no longer be that interesting person you first saw.

You stated he helped you on your darkest day, yet he has no knowledge of it, and now you wish to thank him? Why did you not do it then? You stated you are intrigued but still unsure of your full interest in him. You seem to be moving very carefully, and I ask, simply, why?

I think you know what you want, but have been hurt, you want to find love, and suspect you have (reference Vince's post) yet are afraid of being wrong, thus, you wish to find someone who will be "the man of your dreams" who is not "only in your dreams".

Things just happen, go with the flow, know what you know, and just go. Nothing that ever ends well occurred without fear of failure, and the saddest words of both tongue and pen are not "what was", but "what could have been".

I would also state the posts about detaching from one's desire is a great concept, unless such universal eccentrics as reocurring synchronicities or seeming telepathic links seem to haunt both parties. In such cases, imho, the message is clear, have no fear. Dreams fit into this category.

Relax, and live your life.

Thank you for the post.












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[newkaren]

Tunungin,
Of course, I would never choose to force myself on anyone. Whoever I have my next relationship with should want to be with me.

I found your post very deep, and smething I need to meditate over.

your right, I've been hurt, I chose bad. I've also been rejecting one man after another. Tho in all honestly I've met one frog after another.

edited to add. I/M happieness has been life changing. Im happy. Im greatful for what I have in my life. I would take this over all the money in the world. Over the best vacations. Sure that stuff would be nice. But if I never manage to I/M anything else in my whole life. My life is forver changed for the good.
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[TuningIn]

Originally Posted by newkaren

Tunungin,
Of course, I would never choose to force myself on anyone. Whoever I have my next relationship with should want to be with me.

I found your post very deep, and smething I need to meditate over.

your right, I've been hurt, I chose bad. I've also been rejecting one man after another. Tho in all honestly I've met one frog after another.

edited to add. I/M happieness has been life changing. Im happy. Im greatful for what I have in my life. I would take this over all the money in the world. Over the best vacations. Sure that stuff would be nice. But if I never manage to I/M anything else in my whole life. My life is forver changed for the good.
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Start kissing them then.

[elucidate]

Originally Posted by Laylaa

Thanks for your reply! It clears some things up.
But I'm just still a little confused. You also hear that you have to visualize and act as though your already with your desire ... How do you do this if you have to forget about it?

I'm a little different.

When I intend for something to come into my life, whatever it is, I spend some time aligning my emotions with my will and intention. I'm not that good of a visualizer, and I have managed to manifest nearly everything I really want without it.

Just make sure your emotional input is strong, because that is the real driving force behind the process.

Once you have put your intention "out there", then let it go...there is no need to follow it up. Just forget about it. This has always worked for me, and feels intuitively right as well. Perhaps for larger goals as someone was saying, you may need to follow up once in a while but not every day 10 times a day...that's overkill and it isn't necessary.

You can have some sort of visual reminder of what you want, like with a vision board say, but that is more to generate the feelings of happiness, gratefulness and excitement that come with knowing that it is yours, it just hasn't shown up yet.

This has worked for me every time.

I think people get too caught up in "having' to constantly visualize every day. I've never found it necessary to be honest. As long as you really want something enough, and ask for it, it will come to you in some form. You can be specific, or you can leave it up to the universe how it manifests. This can be seen as an act of faith that the universe is always looking out for you.

[elucidate]

Originally Posted by TheLifeQuaker

You don't have to forget about it. (Don't have to visualize and act as though you're already with it either)...

Forgetting about it is helpful for most people though because most people if they are thinking about it...are instead likely to be doing what elucidate mentioned...wondering how it will happen, worrying, doubting etc. Which is to say, when people first try and think about the thing, they're actually normally thinking about not having/being the thing.

If you can think about it briefly (and thus "align" with it) and then totally forget about it then your "vibration" stays where you last left it (in line with what you want).

Truth is though, that doesn't apply very well to the types of things people initially tend to want to change (i.e. money, relationships, health)...because those are big things to most people, and our lives are set up in a way you can't normally just "forget" about them.

I have to say that when it comes to money I am not very good at manifesting it in amounts larger than a few cents, but I understand also that I prefer the challenge of finding ways to survive on what I do have and find new ways of making money itself, so it has never really been a main goal for manifesting, though I am open to receiving anything anyone wishes to give me I'm more interested in finding the right sort of work where I can generate the income I deserve, and earn the money.

I can't say I've ever had any severe health issues to be able to give experiential wisdom on this, and I've always been practical with taking care of my health...eat good, clean fresh organic (where possible) food, and you should be ok. Black Mica helps dissolve all impurities in water so this is an investment in your health if you are willing to pay for it.

Relationships, whilst you may not be able to completely forget about them you can get to a state where you aren't hung up about when it will happen, you just know the right person is on the way and could show up at any moment, so you have your eyes and ears peeled, and your heart open to any feelings that may present themselves.