Manifesting infertility?
 

Hello,

The more I get into this, the more questions I have! :)

Basically, for all of my adult life, I've been unhappy with my body and wanting to lose weight. My hubby and I have also been trying to have a child for the past 10 years. We've been told we have "unexplained" infertility.

Could my desire to be thin actually be manifesting my infertility??

How could I change this to my favor?

Weight loss has been a dominating thought for so many years that I didn't realize until this morning that maybe I'm blocking my own future children!

I saw a psychic once a few years ago who claimed I would have 4 children (boy, girl, boy, boy). I always joke that I'm so old now (mid-30's) that I'd have to have them all at once!

Thanks for any advice!

More likely your dislike of your body. Perhaps there's some underlying belief that if you become pregnant you'll get even more overweight and be unable to lose it. Or perhaps there are other subconscious fears relating to pregnancy or to parenthood. Impossible for me to guess (it's your subconscious, after all), but my life experience is that when something we want just isn't happening no matter what we do, it's because there's something underneath, something subconscious, that's creating conflict.

Of course, it's also possible that you're so very attached to the idea of becoming pregnant that you're not letting go of it long enough to allow it to manifest. I've done this countless times (not with conception, but with other things). You want it so much you hold on and hold on and hold on. But doing that is like saying you want to grow tomatoes but you hold the seeds in your hand and never put them in the ground and let them grow.

Self-examination, self-awareness. Find out if there are subconscious issues creating conflicts.

Well, I'm 47 and I am still fertile (I keep track of these things in various mundane ways). Plenty of women have healthy babies well into their forties, so don't count yourself out just yet.

Oh, and as you age, your chances of conceiving fraternal twins increases, too. Just thought I'd mention it. :)

It seems like a possibility as being thin isn't really compatible with being pregnant in my experience! :D I think what is more likely though, is that you are not 'letting go'. You probably want a baby so badly that you're thinking about it a lot and trying to do everything that you can to make that happen. You may just be trying to hard to force the outcome. In terms of letting go, have you ever manifested anything else successfully? If so, try and use a similar process here.

I know a couple who wanted a child for a long time. The doctors told them they couldn't have one (I don't know the reasons).

So eventually they adopted a boy.

About a year later they got a child of their own :)

With my Loa understanding of today I think they concentrated too much on the 'wanting'. After they had adopted the child they 'let go' of their wish - and *bam* it happened effortlessly.

He, Merr just posted the same while I was typing :cool:

Ah, this thread reminded me of my husband's godparents. They wanted a child for years and could never conceive. I don't know what medical procedures they underwent, but I believe they were told conception was quite unlikely. Eventually, they gave up and got on with their lives.

And then, when the woman was in her early 40s, after nearly twenty years of conception-free marriage, she went to the doctor complaining of various symptoms including persistent nausea and exhaustion, and was surprised and thrilled to find out she was pregnant.

Their son graduated from university a couple years ago, and I believe he's married now (or at least, he was engaged last time I heard).

True story. :)

I see what you're saying here. I feel like if I let go of the idea that the universe will think I no longer want it.

And I didn't mean to imply that mid-30's was getting too old! My hubby and I are just at the point where if we got pregnant now, we'd stop at 1 child instead of keepin' on with the fertility treatments.

This seems to happen a lot. I can't tell you how many times I've heard of this happening to people.

I know. I understand absolutely. Believe me. :)

But you've got to let the seeds go if they're to grow.

Or, another metaphor I've seen used: Suppose you have ring that needs to be repaired. It's your favourite ring. You take it to the jeweller and say, "I need you to repair this for me." The jeweller says, "Sure, I can do that. Give me the ring." And you go, "No, I want to hold on to it." And the jeweller says, "Well, until you let me have it, I can't give you want, which is a repaired ring," and on it goes until you finally put the ring down and let the jeweller do his work.

It's not a perfect metaphor, but it gets the idea across. Letting go is not the same thing as giving up. Relaxing your grip is a necessary step. :)

Hi catepillar woman,

That was such an excellent metaphor! I just got done today writing several pages of everything I want to manifest in my life - the little things and the big things (some of my bigger desires I have wanted for 21 yrs now). Then I did a releasing and letting go prayer to God and the angels. I told God that this is my plan and these are the things I want, but I am willing to go in another direction as long as it is equal to or even better than my direction. I told God that I was not going to try to control the outcome anymore that he knows the perfect way out of my old life, get my new house and the perfect way to my financial freedom and manifesting all my desires. I then just told God to just show me what to do.

I am also going to each day give thanks for all the good in my life (including the things I want to be free from) and all the good I want to receive and just let go and continue to let go. Of course I am going to continue visualizing and affirming what I want until the energy dies off and I am going to get ready to receive what I want. These activities will help to reprogram your mind and put you in the vibration of what you want to receive.

My biggest problem is that I have been trying to direct and control the show all these years and holding tight to my dreams. I also have had a lot of resistance and I know these things have been holding back my dreams. I am just at a point right now where either my long-desired dreams will manifest or something infinetly better. God either gives us our hearts desires (which are God's desires for us or they would not be there in the first place) or something infinetly better. Most people tend to think too limited. I have read that when God makes you wait for your prayers to be answered it is because the answer is going to be so much bigger and better than we could have hoped for.

I have read countless stories of people who worked long and hard for what they wanted -visualized and affirmed, etc - but it was only when they gave up and let go and just let God take over and just did accepted whatever the outcome was going to be. These people usually find that the very things they let go of - wind up manifesting. Clinging to the outcome or HOW things should turn out is a form of resistance and that is usually what blocks or slows down one manifestation (this has been my problem over these many years!).

Hi wilddreamer,

You can help to change this out by loving and approving of yourself. You should get the book by louise hay: YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE. It really is a great book and in it is an exercise where everyday you just say to yourself in a mirror that you love and approve of yourself. When you love and approve of yourself you can really start to transform things all across the board.

Also, with any pregnancy, there is definetely divine timing involved. The souls that are to be your children have a set time and date that they want to be born and you can have all the sex you want and do all the fertility treatments - but if they do not want to be born for another 3 years, then that is what will happen. :)

In the meantime, go get tons of books on baby and toddler care (believe me when you have kids you will not have time to read - I have never had kids, but my sisters did and I know they had little time to themselves once they had kids) and also get decorating ideas for the nursery and this will keep your hopes up and keep your mind preoccupied on other things. Also, go have fun with your husband and go travel (when the kids come you won't have time for that either!), go out for romantic dinners and so forth and before long you will get pregnant.

yes, i believe I did this very thing. I spent 3 years trying for my first child only to conseave when my husband went to graveyard, and we were not having sex. Okay I know we had to have had sex once but.... I relaxed, and wasnt thinking about it.

Please, as an adult adoptee and adoptive mother
 

Gently, may I ask that you refer to all of your children as "your own" or other people's children as "their own" whether the universe sends them biologically or adoptively.