She stole my real estate listing…where’s my LOA?

[iraro]

Hypothetical:
Let us say, I sell houses, for example. I have a potential client. We get along well. I even did some “free” work for her. She did not want to sell, she said. Today I learned that “out of the blue” she listed her property with a competitor and never called me. This is because:

A. It is written in the stars and there is nothing I could have done.
B. I should have followed up more because “things change.”
C. LOA is unpredictable and does not work 100% of the time.
D. LOA is predictable and works 100% of the time if you have “faith.”
E. My competitor was with a much larger firm with a stronger market presence, I should change firms to be more competitive.
F. LOA does not work without “boots on the ground,” i.e., supplemental, practical action.
G. Lots of “boots on the ground” or supplemental, practical action can overtake LOA.
H. My competitor had more LOA working for her than I did.
I. The seller and my competitor are both lesbians and there are some things that one's LOA can not overcome.

Is this a teachable moment? If so, what is the lesson? What is the proper balance between reality, LOA and supplemental, practical action? What "action" should one take to avoid this unwanted outcome in one's future reality?

[cacheborn]

The lesson is - you may have beliefs in your subconscious that work in contrary to your intention. Or, maybe this will point a different way to fulfill your intention. In my experience, when you state a intention, most often things happen in a completely different manner than I expected. The thing to do is trust the universe and see what options are available. LOA is not really like a genie with a lamp - you state a wish and it comes true, although it may happen that way sometimes. But more often than not, things happen in a roundablut fashion - with active participation from the person herself.

It is better not to use LOA to control the process in minute details. Better to focus on the broader picture.

[Reefs]

Originally Posted by iraro

H. My competitor had more LOA working for her than I did.

That's obvisous, isn't it?

But I tend to say it's:

J. I did rely more on words than on my gut feeling.

[esoteric53]

Everything could be... I for one wouldn't overlook the "Lesbian" factor....It may have meant a lot... So it's not your fault ( if you want to look for possible faults, I mean)

[shadowfax]

Originally Posted by iraro

Is this a teachable moment? If so, what is the lesson?

The lesson is that you should be grateful that you were able to help this person in their time of need. The lesson is that you offered help to someone and there is nothing ever wrong with that. You received your gift already when you helped them.

Why link the house sell to your generosity in the beginning...

[Balbrae]

Originally Posted by iraro

Hypothetical:
Let us say, I sell houses, for example. I have a potential client. We get along well. I even did some “free” work for her. She did not want to sell, she said. Today I learned that “out of the blue” she listed her property with a competitor and never called me. This is because:

A. It is written in the stars and there is nothing I could have done.
B. I should have followed up more because “things change.”
C. LOA is unpredictable and does not work 100% of the time.
D. LOA is predictable and works 100% of the time if you have “faith.”
E. My competitor was with a much larger firm with a stronger market presence, I should change firms to be more competitive.
F. LOA does not work without “boots on the ground,” i.e., supplemental, practical action.
G. Lots of “boots on the ground” or supplemental, practical action can overtake LOA.
H. My competitor had more LOA working for her than I did.
I. The seller and my competitor are both lesbians and there are some things that one's LOA can not overcome.

Is this a teachable moment? If so, what is the lesson? What is the proper balance between reality, LOA and supplemental, practical action? What "action" should one take to avoid this unwanted outcome in one's future reality?

One concludes only that the LOA acted for all involved. Your stuff came in the form it did (listing with competitor) and your stuff will continue to come, including future prosperity on the business front.

[iraro]

Originally Posted by esoteric53

Everything could be... I for one wouldn't overlook the "Lesbian" factor....It may have meant a lot... So it's not your fault ( if you want to look for possible faults, I mean)

Is it possible that "sexual attraction" trumps the Law of Attraction?

[iraro]

Originally Posted by shadowfax

Why link the house sell [sale?]to your generosity in the beginning...

Because I was not being generous. In business, any generosity from me is for the purpose of doing business. Otherwise, my generosity is to friends and family, directly to institutions or through the Rotary Club where all the money raised goes to the designated project.

[iraro]

Originally Posted by Balbrae

One concludes only that the LOA acted for all involved. Your stuff came in the form it did (listing with competitor) and your stuff will continue to come, including future prosperity on the business front.

Can not argue with your comment...it sounds like something a Priest, Minister or Rabbi would say.

[iraro]

Originally Posted by cacheborn

It is better not to use LOA to control the process in minute details. Better to focus on the broader picture.

I agree. But does not one in life have to deal with "minute details." Trust the Universe, but take action? Use the conscious mind as well as the subconscious mind. You know, like they would say in some of those old western movies when the Indians attacked. They would say, "Praise the Lord, and pass the ammunition." It usually worked out better than say, just praising the Lord.

[iraro]

Originally Posted by Reefs

That's obvisous, isn't it?

But I tend to say it's:

J. I did rely more on words than on my gut feeling.

The problem I have with your first selection is that it reminds me a lot of the statement, "Its G-d's will" or the more profane version, "Sh-t happens." Either way, it's not a useful blueprint for the future.

As for "relying on words," you are absolutely correct. Not only that, I shun my emotions. If I feel negativity coming on, I tell myself, "I'm not going there" and "I am not going to give energy to a negative thought by giving it attention." Most likely I would have said the forgoing to myself if I had a "gut feeling," which I did not.

[cacheborn]

Originally Posted by iraro

I agree. But does not one in life have to deal with "minute details." Trust the Universe, but take action? Use the conscious mind as well as the subconscious mind. You know, like they would say in some of those old western movies when the Indians attacked. They would say, "Praise the Lord, and pass the ammunition." It usually worked out better than say, just praising the Lord.

Sure, deal with details. But don't expect LOA to act exactly as you want in minute details. In other words, don't try to micromanage LOA.
Keep you intention, take all the action and watch out for sychronicities, unexpected opportunities.

[Reefs]

Originally Posted by iraro

Is it possible that "sexual attraction" trumps the Law of Attraction?

No. But the most practiced thoughts will yield more results than less practiced thoughts. And thoughts about sexuality are usually very active and practiced a lot so they come up a lot.

Because I was not being generous. In business, any generosity from me is for the purpose of doing business. Otherwise, my generosity is to friends and family, directly to institutions or through the Rotary Club where all the money raised goes to the designated project.

According to LOA teachings your generosity should first please you and then (as a nice side effect) others. It should help you to feel better and not others. And if others benefit from it, that's nice, but not important. What others do with your generosity is irrelevant.

I agree. But does not one in life have to deal with "minute details." Trust the Universe, but take action? Use the conscious mind as well as the subconscious mind. You know, like they would say in some of those old western movies when the Indians attacked. They would say, "Praise the Lord, and pass the ammunition." It usually worked out better than say, just praising the Lord.

That's because "passing the ammunition" is also a way of praising God.

Many people think that doing 'LOA work' means not taking action. But that's not what is meant. It's all about taking inspired action because that kind of action is very productive, that kind of action gives you an enormous leverage.
But when you usually only take action out of habit or fear, then your action is not very productive and in that case it's better not to act and wait for the inspiration to act.

The problem I have with your first selection is that it reminds me a lot of the statement, "Its G-d's will" or the more profane version, "Sh-t happens." Either way, it's not a useful blueprint for the future.

You were talking about something that has already happened, and guess what, what happened just happened, it's over, you cannot change it. But you can shrug it off or tell that story differently. And therein lies your power.

As for "relying on words," you are absolutely correct. Not only that, I shun my emotions. If I feel negativity coming on, I tell myself, "I'm not going there" and "I am not going to give energy to a negative thought by giving it attention." Most likely I would have said the forgoing to myself if I had a "gut feeling," which I did not.

What you focus on grows, if you want it or not. So if you say "I'm not going there" you are focusing on 'there'. And 'there' is where you are going.

And negative emotions are only indicators. They indicate negative focus. Your emotions show you precisely where you are heading. If it's negative emotions then you are heading towards something that won't be pleasing when it will manifest, when you have positive emotions you are heading toward a manifestation that will be pleasing by the time it manifests. That's all. It's an indicator. It's nothing you have to fight or suppress. It's something you have to check every moment. It's your compass through life.

[shadowfax]

Originally Posted by iraro

Because I was not being generous. In business, any generosity from me is for the purpose of doing business. Otherwise, my generosity is to friends and family, directly to institutions or through the Rotary Club where all the money raised goes to the designated project.

Why limit the generosity to people you select and "how" it is to be defined? It seems to me that the Universe decided to limit its generosity to others and not you in this case.

[Merr]

Perhaps you're too specific on the 'how' and the 'who'? Especially the who, it seems like. Also, the client probably picked up on the fact that you were just being pleasant for the business and nothing more so decided to go elsewhere. So more than one factor could be affecting the outcome here.

[iraro]

Originally Posted by cacheborn

Sure, deal with details. But don't expect LOA to act exactly as you want in minute details. In other words, don't try to micromanage LOA.
Keep you intention, take all the action and watch out for sychronicities, unexpected opportunities.

I agree with this comment, it was what I was trying to flush out in my opening parable by offering the choice of “practical action” in tandem with LOA for which no one expressed support.

Let me try to get at it another way. To use a metaphor to illustrate this point, suppose we make “LOA an automobile” traveling west from New Jersey to Pennsylvania. We jump in our automobile and start driving west. Is there any reason we can not use a map or GPS to pinpoint a location in Pennsylvania? Are the latter “parallel tools” or “conflicting tools?”

LOA is general; a map is less general and GPS is precise. Can we not use LOA—generally-- to head us in the right direction and still use our conscious minds to pinpoint an objective? Or is this “against” the rules?

Is our conscious mind a “parallel tool” or a “conflicting tool?” Must we, having “invited” the goddess of LOA into our life be “stuck exclusively” with her to unfold events in her own time and in her own way the way we are stuck exclusively with one girl once we invite her to the high-school prom?

[cacheborn]

Originally Posted by iraro

Let me try to get at it another way. To use a metaphor to illustrate this point, suppose we make “LOA an automobile” traveling west from New Jersey to Pennsylvania. We jump in our automobile and start driving west. Is there any reason we can not use a map or GPS to pinpoint a location in Pennsylvania? Are the latter “parallel tools” or “conflicting tools?”

LOA is general; a map is less general and GPS is precise. Can we not use LOA—generally-- to head us in the right direction and still use our conscious minds to pinpoint an objective? Or is this “against” the rules?

Interesting that you should use this metaphor. I was about to give a very similar analogy.

I don't think GPS is a conflicting tool. You use any tool you want, LOA does not prohibit it. Keep the intention in mind and take action in every way you can. Meet the Universe half way.

Your main intention is to reach Pennsylvania, you may fly, you may drive, that's secondary.

[iraro]

Originally Posted by Reefs

You were talking about something that has already happened, and guess what, what happened just happened, it's over, you cannot change it. But you can shrug it off or tell that story differently. And therein lies your power.

Yes, but…there is not a top-notch salesperson in the world who has not turned a “no” into a “yes.” When I get what I consider the “wrong response” to anything, from anyone, I ask myself, “What needs to change to get the response I want?” Sometimes it is me. I have to change my attitude about certain people. Sometimes it is an element I can not control and my only recourse is to petition the Universe. Even when it “looks like it is ‘over,’” I am always looking for new way to “attack the bunker” because I’ve learned “it ain’t over til its over.” It is the fun of the game.

When it is finally “over” I want it to be a teachable moment. For example, if I try to jump a span of six feet from my boat to the dock and land in the water, what is the lesson?: a) don’t drink two beers first, b) don’t try to jump six feet, c) (a) and (b), d) next time get a running start.

[iraro]

Originally Posted by shadowfax

Why limit the generosity to people you select and "how" it is to be defined? It seems to me that the Universe decided to limit its generosity to others and not you in this case.

Because many, many years ago I was employed by Sears, Roebuck & Co. Sears supported a "charity" (the "United Way") and induced me, along with other employees, into giving 2% of my pay to this particular charity. I did not ask the right questions at the time. Later I was to read that approximately 80% of the substantial funds which they collected went for salaries and overhead of this alledged charity and only 20% or so went for any charitable cause.

With the Rotary Club, if they raise $50,000 for a new roof for some boy's camp, for example, the boy's camp receives the enitre $50,000. No deductions.

[iraro]

Originally Posted by Reefs

What you focus on grows, if you want it or not. So if you say "I'm not going there" you are focusing on 'there'. And 'there' is where you are going.

And negative emotions are only indicators. They indicate negative focus. Your emotions show you precisely where you are heading. If it's negative emotions then you are heading towards something that won't be pleasing when it will manifest, when you have positive emotions you are heading toward a manifestation that will be pleasing by the time it manifests. That's all. It's an indicator. It's nothing you have to fight or suppress. It's something you have to check every moment. It's your compass through life.

You are correct. I mis-informed you with my post. I actually follow my feelings and not my words. I have learned to pay attention to my emotions, perhaps not "every moment," that would be unnecessary since, like my smoke alarm, my emtions alert me to the "smoke" whereupon I can check for "fire."

[iraro]

Originally Posted by Merr

Perhaps you're too specific on the 'how' and the 'who'? Especially the who, it seems like. Also, the client probably picked up on the fact that you were just being pleasant for the business and nothing more so decided to go elsewhere. So more than one factor could be affecting the outcome here.

You could be correct. I am one of those guys who likes to know how things work. Von Braun shot a rocket at the moon and missed. He didn't understand that gravity was affected differently by a rotating object. He learned. I don't wish to miss my targets because I don't know something which I could know.

I'm a sales person, not an actor. I am not always pleasant to everyone. There are things I just won't deal with. So, if I am "being pleasant" it is a big thing, because it means, in my case, I have the right attitude about the person in front of me and that makes for a pleasant business deal. It is much more than just a surface thing.