Backup Plan

[Eddie Knows]

Hello everyone! I'm new to all of this but I read some of Florence Scovel-Shinn's work and found it quite interesting.

I've always been the type of person to just concentrate on what I want in life and but recently I've sat through a long speech from a family member that I really should have a backup plan for my life just in case everything doesn't work out.

Now, Florence's work has suggested that you prepare for what you want to happen, rather than what could happen if it doesn't work. Would you say that this is sound advice? I guess I'm looking for people to validate my thought process but hey any alternate viewpoints are welcome too

[lycan]

Are you willing to settle for the backup plan?

[Sbonn]

Originally Posted by Eddie Knows

Hello everyone! I'm new to all of this but I read some of Florence Scovel-Shinn's work and found it quite interesting.

I've always been the type of person to just concentrate on what I want in life and but recently I've sat through a long speech from a family member that I really should have a backup plan for my life just in case everything doesn't work out.

Now, Florence's work has suggested that you prepare for what you want to happen, rather than what could happen if it doesn't work. Would you say that this is sound advice? I guess I'm looking for people to validate my thought process but hey any alternate viewpoints are welcome too

I love her book the "Game of Life and How to Play It", the book I have is the compilation of all 4 of her books into one. What she suggests in preparing for your manifestation would be translated into what A-H calls pre-paving. So yes I agree with both, by getting ready for your manifestation you are also demonstrating belief and trust by doing things to show knowing it's done.

She also says to watch for small validations one example in her book is about the woman who wanted a new dish set and a friend gave her a chipped plate.. the woman was a little upset and was under the impression the plate was what she intended but it was just the synchronicity and a validation that her full new plate set was on its way and then the woman did receive her new set of plates.

Essentially it is knowing it is done beyond a doubt and that you already have what you intended.. so you can detach and let your manifestation occur physically.. The feeling it is done and that you already have it is the first manifestation of the item.

Doubt throws a wrench into the works and slows down the process so anything you can do to reinforce "Already have it" helps by leaps and bounds.

Your family member is just showing you they care and love you and that they want you to be happy in life. Isn't that wonderful!

You could put this in a LoA context and consider the pre paving your backup plan by preparing for your manifestation.

BIG HUGS and thank you for bringing up Florence!

Sbonn

[Eddie Knows]

@ lycan I'm not. I couldn't think of anything worse really. I guess it's just my brain (and peers) saying 'it's the smart thing to do'. That said, imagining getting stuck in a backup plan sends shivers down my spine.

I guess that's my answer then? Become fully confident in what I intent to do and ignore the rest?

[Eddie Knows]

@Sbonn Thanks for the post! I really need to check out her other books -and get rid of doubt because it's been annoying me for the last month. Great reminder

[Sbonn]

You are most welcome and I did edit the other post I made so you may want to quickly re-read it again.

You can find the compilation of her books on amazon the link is to the book I have

OH and welcome to the forums!

[lycan]

Originally Posted by Eddie Knows

@ lycan I'm not. I couldn't think of anything worse really. I guess it's just my brain (and peers) saying 'it's the smart thing to do'. That said, imagining getting stuck in a backup plan sends shivers down my spine.

Then why are you even considering it?

I guess that's my answer then? Become fully confident in what I intent to do and ignore the rest?

I guess.

[Arboretor]

Originally Posted by Eddie Knows

I've always been the type of person to just concentrate on what I want in life and but recently I've sat through a long speech from a family member that I really should have a backup plan for my life just in case everything doesn't work out.

The world and life itself is so complex and so many different things *can* possibly happen that it would be impossible to make a 'plan' that takes them all into account.
You can take a few basic precautions against total disaster, though. (I am thinking of health insurance, savings plans and so on.)

[Matthew Cluff]

Originally Posted by Eddie Knows

I'm not. I couldn't think of anything worse really. I guess it's just my brain (and peers) saying 'it's the smart thing to do'. That said, imagining getting stuck in a backup plan sends shivers down my spine.

So don't think about it. You must remember that the people telling you to create backup plans on in the "average" in society, and you're trying to break out of that group.

Backup plans are awful because they mean you're willing to "settle" for a lower standard of living than you truly desire. If you don't have a backup plan (and even if you do), I guarantee that you're going to fail many times along the way, but don't let that stop you.

(There have been millionaires who've laid it all on the line at times, and in some cases, they lost it all. But before long, they were right back up there amongst the thriving successes. Keep in mind that if you aren't willing to put up with the risk of failing and losing it all, then you don't deserve the reward.)

Never give up, keep going, and keep pursuing your ideals.

[lycan]

Just tell people that your backup plan is suicide. That should shut them up.

[Sbonn]

Originally Posted by lycan

Just tell people that your backup plan is suicide. That should shut them up.

Lycan dude.. that is not even funny..

[Reefs]

Originally Posted by Eddie Knows

@ lycan I'm not. I couldn't think of anything worse really. I guess it's just my brain (and peers) saying 'it's the smart thing to do'. That said, imagining getting stuck in a backup plan sends shivers down my spine.

I guess that's my answer then? Become fully confident in what I intent to do and ignore the rest?

The doubters reflect your own doubt only. It's not their fault. If you would be sure of yourself and your way of life and your dreams you would have laughed about and then it would have been forgotten.

[Criseyde]

Originally Posted by lycan

Just tell people that your backup plan is suicide. That should shut them up.

Or it could get them to call the police on you.

[lycan]

Originally Posted by Sbonn

Lycan dude.. that is not even funny..

It was not meant to be funny.

[Sbonn]

Originally Posted by lycan

It was not meant to be funny.

Then will you please share how the suggestion you put forth is a solution from an aspect of personal development and self growth.

I see the suggestion as a negative on various levels:
The potential to create animosity with family and friends, undue worry, put the OP in a defensive position if asked why they would say such a thing.

[lycan]

Originally Posted by Sbonn

Then will you please share how the suggestion you put forth is a solution from an aspect of personal development and self growth.

I see the suggestion as a negative on various levels:
The potential to create animosity with family and friends, undue worry, put the OP in a defensive position if asked why they would say such a thing.

I don't see it that way. As to why he would say such a thing, he already explained it to us and he can easily repeat it to family. There is no need to be "defensive" about it. Unforseen events can happen no matter how many backups you have, you just deal with them as they show up. This "backup plan" talk is nonsense. If you tell your family "I want to be a [put normal respectable profession here]", what would you feel if your family told you "Well, but what is your backup plan? You need to prepare to be a McDonalds cashier just in case. Have you looked into panhandling?". To make clear to them that there is no "backup plan" might encourage them to support him, instead of trying to direct his attention to other things.

[Sbonn]

Nonsense aside while yes a backup plan is demonstrating doubt and lack of trust in LOA processes..

Just tell people that your backup plan is suicide. That should shut them up.

you did toss out the above and it is what I am referring to ... in my asking how it is helpful..

Because I thought you were trying to be funny to which you said you were not, so I ask you to define the aspect of how you meant what you said in the context I set of personal growth and self development..

[lycan]

Originally Posted by Sbonn

Nonsense aside while yes a backup plan is demonstrating doubt and lack of trust in LOA processes..

LoA is not even the issue here. If you say you want to follow a path and people say "well, but what is your backup plan?" they are not demonstrating doubt in LoA, they are demonstrating doubt in you. They are saying "I don't think you can make it... why don't you find a more realistic goal that is within your reach?". They are not saying "what will you do if you fail?", they are saying "what will you do once you realize you can't do this?"

Because I thought you were trying to be funny to which you said you were not, so I ask you to define the aspect of how you meant what you said in the context I set of personal growth and self development..

It simply means there is no other plan. If you fail, you will have died trying because you are not willing to live in failure. If you give up, it's because you have given up on life. There is no settling. You will persist for as long as you live.

[Sbonn]

Originally Posted by lycan

LoA is not even the issue here. If you say you want to follow a path and people say "well, but what is your backup plan?" they are not demonstrating doubt in LoA, they are demonstrating doubt in you. They are saying "I don't think you can make it... why don't you find a more realistic goal that is within your reach?". They are not saying "what will you do if you fail?", they are saying "what will you do once you realize you can't do this?"

It is a good thing then that we can choose to realize that is other peoples stuff or crap that you do not have to accept or integrate into your own beliefs. Who cares if they do not believe in you, what matters is believing in yourself.

So a viable response to that would be "thank you for your concern" and letting it go at that point.

Originally Posted by lycan

It simply means there is no other plan. If you fail, you will have died trying because you are not willing to live in failure. If you give up, it's because you have given up on life. There is no settling. You will persist for as long as you live.

I still do not see how this applies in the context personal development and self growth.

[VinceG]

Backup plans are for the sorts of people who need backup plans.