Tried to manifest new job, But.......

[Betrade]

Okay, I need a new job and need it quick, because the place i've been working for over the last 5 years is in deep trouble.

So, I figured i would manifest myself a quick job. I made one phone call, talked to a perfect stranger, and set up my interview for yesterday.

Well, I get there, and the guy starts looking all apologetic before we even got started, so I told him to quit beating around the bush and get to the point.

He says he knows the guy I work for, and he's "afraid" of upsetting him by "stealing" his employeee, as though I'm some kind slave to the guy I work for.

What gives??? I was on cloud 9 yesterday, and today, I feel like crap, because I have to go back to my crappy job, and as of now, have no prospects.



I truly believed that I had this one locked up, because the initial phone interview went so well, and the guy even asked me how soon I could start.

At the moment, it feels like I'm attracting disappointment, when what I'm after is a happier place to go to work each day, and some cash flow.

Because things have gotten so bad where i work, I can't even count on a full days work from one day to the next. Last week, after withholdings for insurance and taxes, my paycheck was actually 5.20, when it should have been over 500.00. I had just enough work to cover taxes and expenses, but nothing left over to live on. This has never happened in my life, and believe me, it's not a good feeling at all.

I know there are lots of other things I can do, and other places to work, but this one was a real let down. I've been in the same field for almost three decades, and it's not easy to just go get an entirely different type of job with no experience.

Needless to say, staying positive isn't exactly easy after this, along with about 4 other things that have gone wrong over the last ten days.

Any thoughts??

[RT Wolf]

Did you try telling the guy that you called him up and that you would talk to your boss? If your current place cannot give you the sort of employment you want, then you go somewhere else, simple as that. Call him up agian.

Alternatively, maybe this is a sign that the Universe (or God or whatever superconscious sentient entity you like to use, if any) doesn't want you to get this job and maybe has something greater in store.

[InJoy]

Use that five bucks to rent the movie "Pursuit of Happyness". It's a true story about a guy who's problems getting a better job are downright humbling. What he creates for himself in the face of repeated disappointment is absolutely inspirational.

His secret? He never gave up. No matter how bad things got, (and they got bad) he kept getting up and trying again (and again).

As for your situation, I think the key is to remain hopeful and optimistic that what you are looking for is just around the corner. I know it's hard, but what if that's the key to everything working out just the way you want?

Oh, another reference you might want to check out is a book called "Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting" by Lynn Grabhorn. She gives explicit instructions on how to keep your emotional level up in the face of disappointment. She also explains in great detail why this is essential.

Hang in there. I'm rooting for you.

[sv800]

Keep open all your senses...paths shows in mysterious ways...
Do networking and ask for answers...suddenly a old friend or maybe a ex-coworker...
You are there because a change will come...I had been there...
No job and no prospects for months...suddenly I got two offers and both wanted me. Good Luck

[Betrade]

Originally Posted by InJoy

Use that five bucks to rent the movie "Pursuit of Happyness". It's a true story about a guy who's problems getting a better job are downright humbling. What he creates for himself in the face of repeated disappointment is absolutely inspirational.

His secret? He never gave up. No matter how bad things got, (and they got bad) he kept getting up and trying again (and again).

As for your situation, I think the key is to remain hopeful and optimistic that what you are looking for is just around the corner. I know it's hard, but what if that's the key to everything working out just the way you want?

Oh, another reference you might want to check out is a book called "Excuse Me, Your Life Is Waiting" by Lynn Grabhorn. She gives explicit instructions on how to keep your emotional level up in the face of disappointment. She also explains in great detail why this is essential.

Hang in there. I'm rooting for you.

My son and I rented that movie two weeks ago .I'm a "part time" single dad of a 10 year old who is the joy of my life; his mother has him only when I work, but I have him the rest of the time, 7 days a week; and that's one of the things I'm the happiest about in my entire life, because i went through some serious alienation a few years back. (long story). We could both relate to it. In fact, he says it's his favorite movie, because it reminded him so much of himself and me. It was very inspiring. It actually brought my son to tears.

I haven't given up at all (even though my first post sounded negative; I wrote it not long after receiving the news), and never have for that matter. I just finished sending out some resumes online, and will be doing so every day for the forseeable future, as well as everything else I can possibly do.

I've just had a run of plain bad luck lately, but luckily, I'm still a natural born optimist (If I wasn't, I would have given up years ago; I've been through some pretty traumatic experiences, but always seem to bounce back), it's just that the situation yesterdauy was a huge disappointment after feeling so upbeat about it.

I also know that I definitely don't want that particular job, because I don't want to work with anyone who "fears" their competitors. That's just stupid IMO, as well as downright strange for that matter. I know my employment with that outfit is definitely not meant to be. I can feel it in my gut, and my gut has never lied to me. In fact, some of the worst mistaked i have evr made were the ones where i knew something in my gut, yet ignored it.

Thanks to all for the encouragement. It helps more than you know. I'll keep you all posted. I'm now going to focus on something even better coming along, and possibly getting into a sales position somewhere. I used to sell full time and loved it, but my ex never gave me much support. Now that I'm rid of her, I can focus more on the what I need to do without being interrupted, put down, reminded that i'll fail, and all of that other negative junk we can all do without.

I don't know what I want to sell, but I'm focusing on the right situation to manifest itself, and I know it will. I just need to hang tough in the meantime and keep pluigging along.

My main question for now is "Where should I spend that check??? Should I spend it in one place or stretch it out a bit??"

Just joking. I've been through worse more than once and survived. I'm still here, i have my son, my health, and lots of other blessings. I know where I want to get to, and it's just a matter of moving in that direction every minute of every day, and never giving up.

[InJoy]

Just keep counting those blessings. You're going to be fine.

More than fine, I'll bet.

I have a feeling.

[OlderWiser]

Years ago, when I was desperate for a job, I applied at a number of places for which I felt I was qualified and found one I particularly liked the looks of. Right on the bus route (I was then without a car), good employee benefits, very nice work environment, etc. The interview went well, I felt, and the tests I did (typing, spelling, etc., as it was a clerical position) went well. I was very hopeful.

I didn't get the job and was very upset, to say the least...

Then another place I'd put in an application, where I thought I wouldn't get hired because I wasn't that qualified, called me back. In fact, they tried three times, because I didn't actually have a phone at the time (this was before the days of cheap mobile phones and pre-paid SIM cards) and I kept missing the messages from the person who had agreed to receive calls on my behalf.

The job I did get was about a million times better than the one I thought I wanted. I learned SO MUCH on that job! I learned all kinds of technical skills, I learned a lot about myself, I built much-needed confidence, I made friends and earned the respect of my co-workers, and I just plain loved the job! I even got a pay raise and the pay was more than I'd ever made (it wasn't a huge amount, but for me at that time in my life, it was really good pay).

Basically, the universe knew better than I did what job would suit me, and which job would work toward the greatest good. To this day, I still have almost nothing but good memories of that job, and enduring gratefulness to the owner of the company who took a chance on me and hired me.

So, as others have noted, if you don't get the one you thought you wanted, it may well be because the one you really want (and need) is waiting for you to find it, or for it to find you.