Changing thoughts about weight loss

[Sandstone]

I need some advice and suggestions....

I want to lose approximately 60 pounds. I am quite intimate with these 60 pounds. I've had them on me for a good 15+ years. I have been trying very hard to lose weight for gosh, about ten years, honestly. Obviously what I am doing is not at all effective.

I would like to incorporate LOA and my thoughts into the weight loss process. I think that's been what is missing. Contrary to what you may think I do eat healthy and I get some, not much, exercise. Forget all that though. I'd rather not focus on technique in this post. I can go to a weight loss forum to do that.

I think the problem is that I feel fat. Literally down to my bone. I feel fat. I need to change that around and feel thin. How do I do that? What thoughts do I need to be repeating? What affirmations? How do I attract weight loss to me?

Thanks!
Sandstone

[cassiopeia]

I had a similar, but opposite problem to you a while ago - due to depression and anxiety I was losing my appetite, and so losing weight. I felt like a walking skeleton, every time I looked in the mirror I'd berate myself. I'd obsess about my lack of appetite and my clothes looking like sacks. The thoughts just went round and round in my head 24/7, and of course, it got worse and worse.

What helped me was to just keep asking myself "What does it feel like to be putting on weight?" and "What does it feel like to have curves?". At first I couldn't get the feeling, but I kept on asking myself over and over. Then I'd get a little sense of what it felt like. And then a little more. Once I started seeing myself putting on weight, it got easier to feel it.

Are you doing any visualisation at all? It might help if you go for the feeling of 'losing weight' rather than 'being thin', because it's less of a jump. Can you imagine what it feels like to be losing weight? Try to hold this feeling in your mind for as long as you can, and as often as you can. Be patient with yourself. It'll be hard at first, but there's a snowball effect.

[Arcanum]

Originally Posted by Sandstone

I need some advice and suggestions....

I want to lose approximately 60 pounds. I am quite intimate with these 60 pounds. I've had them on me for a good 15+ years. I have been trying very hard to lose weight for gosh, about ten years, honestly. Obviously what I am doing is not at all effective.

I would like to incorporate LOA and my thoughts into the weight loss process. I think that's been what is missing. Contrary to what you may think I do eat healthy and I get some, not much, exercise. Forget all that though. I'd rather not focus on technique in this post. I can go to a weight loss forum to do that.

I think the problem is that I feel fat. Literally down to my bone. I feel fat. I need to change that around and feel thin. How do I do that? What thoughts do I need to be repeating? What affirmations? How do I attract weight loss to me?

Thanks!
Sandstone

I lost exactly 60 pounds almost 2 years ago, and 50 of them are still gone. It was virtually effortless.

If you ARE fat, then feeling fat would be the right feeling. If that feeling could be changed, the fat wouldn't be perceived as a problem and would likely remain. I suspect that's not what you're shooting for, though.

Instead of looking at what you feel, what do you believe? Do you believe that you deserve to be fat? Do you believe the extra weight protects you socially or expresses your laziness or guilt? Do you believe that the body is so insane that it just keeps storing whatever you eat as fat instead of throwing it away? Do you believe that eating will fill an emptiness inside that has nothing to do with food?

Whatever you believe is what is manifesting right now according to the LOA. Maybe those beliefs aren't really true?

[caritina]

there's a podcast "faster goal achievement" in this site. it may help. What has helped me the most to lose weight, is not being anxious about it, or in LoA terms, being detached. I just stopped making a big deal about it.

once i read a story in alejandro jodorowsky's site site about a woman who couldn't loose weight. she would loose 20 pounds and then gain them back, over and over. loose and gain, loose and gain. SO she went to see a guy to help her. The guy told her: ok, I'll help you loose weight, it's gonna be painful though. before i help you loose weight, I need you to promise me you'll follow my advice no matter what. She agreed and he gave her his instructions: Right know, you weight 180 pounds. i need you to gain 20 pounds. When you reach 200 pounds, then you will be able to start loosing weight.

The woman was freaked but she had to keep her promise and pound by pound she gained she would suffer and beg the guy to free her from the promise. She just couldnt stand being gaining more and more weight. When she finally reached the 200 pounds, she was very happy she was finally able to loose weight. Gaining those last 20 pounds had been so painful that she never wanted to go through the experience of gaining weight never again.

Could it help you to think that as time goes by if you are not loosing weight, you are gaining it?

[lycan]

The advice I would give is the same one I gave CroMagna in the My Passion is Sex thread. Eat less by focusing away from food.

Create an image in your mind of your non-fat you. Focus on it. It is easy to lose 60 pounds once you decide to. Feel it as a reality. Make it feel better than any pleasure you could get from food. Make the choice to focus on it.

[sunshineXTC]

I've had some interesting experiences with weight loss that had to do with how I felt:

When I felt 'fat' or overweight, I had to workout like crazy, eat very carefully, struggle to not overeat and struggle with cravings, while never seeing the scale or my size go below a certain set point.

When I focused on feeling thin and fit and healthy, when I took the time to visualize myself as fit and slender and healthy, the weight came off much easier and I tended to eat better without much effort or cravings.

For me, the key was always in how I felt. Letting myself feel good about eating choices and exercise I did while also feeling good about my body aided my progress perhaps more than the actual work since I was stuck at a set point feeling fat and working very hard, and yet I made better progress with less challenge and less work when I spent time visualizing myself thinner and imagined my body feeling better physically. Also, I older when I dropped sizes easily, so age was not a factor. What I felt about my body, toward my body, toward my exercise, etc, was the key ingredient.

ETA: visualization is really a good step to help you feel thin. Imagine yourself thinner, see yourself exercising, eating well. Then step into that person you just imagined. See it from the outside like watching a movie, then feel yourself stepping into that person that is fit and thinner and getting exercise and feeling healthy. Do that everyday. Even a few times a day (morning and night). It can trigger a nice shift.