|07-23-2011, 10:48 PM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Dec 2010
Manifesting a relationship just isn't working for me
I'm on the right track with all the other areas in my life but manifesting a relationship is a huge battle for me.
Can someone please help me recognize the blocks that's I'm creating for myself? I have been single for 6 years now and I do think I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself to find someone, especially as I'm getting older and most of my friends have settled down... So I do see that as an issue but how do I get around that? I know that you have to feel like you already have your desired relationship - maybe as i have been single for so long I have forgotten what this feels like?
Either way, I am always picking myself up, trying to find the positives but I'm getting pretty exhausted. There must be something pretty obvious that I am doing wrong?... Maybe I should start again with fresh eyes? Any tips on how to start from scratch?
Thanks for your help. xx
|07-24-2011, 01:33 AM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2011
i think you might have some emotional blocks. i made a post a few days ago about a holistic approach called The Emotion Code which removes emotional baggage and removes "heart walls" which can prevent you from experiencing a great relationship. i personally have had some emotions removed and i can tell you first hand.. it WORKS...
the emotions come out physically (in the toilet) and you can really tell that it was bad emotions coming out. look it up! The Emotion Code. I hope you find your peace
|07-24-2011, 02:56 AM||#3 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jun 2011
Have you deeply examined why you're choosing to manifest a relationship? You mentioned that you're putting pressure on yourself due to your age and what your peers are doing. Teaching yourself to let go of that pressure would be a good place to start. You might even find that once the feeling of "I should be manifesting this" is taken out of the picture, you don't even particularly feel like manifesting it at this time. (That was what I experienced earlier this year, after trying to manifest a relationship for about a decade!) It is my experience that not actually desiring something from the heart can be a big impediment to attracting something.
Last edited by OptimistPrime; 07-24-2011 at 02:58 AM.
|07-24-2011, 03:26 AM||#4 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2009
Hi. Can you please give us a little more information? How and where do you meet people? What kind of people are you meeting? What usually happens when you meet people? What do you think you might be doing right and wrong. What kind of person are you looking for? What do you want? What don't you want?
Try not to feel rushed. The right relationship may come once you figure these things out. You definitely don't want to go into a relationship with the wrong person out of impatience. Besides some of those people settling down might be worse off in their relationships. In the mean time try enjoying the time you have by yourself. The happier you feel with yourself the better your new relationship could go.
|07-24-2011, 04:08 AM||#5 (permalink)|
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Melbourne, Australia
|07-24-2011, 10:56 AM||#7 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2010
The gut reaction I get when reading your post is that you're not ready for a relationship with someone else just yet because you have some areas in your relationship with yourself where you need to focus your energies first. You can't be a good partner to anyone else until you first love yourself. You mention feeling "pressure" because of your peer group and your parents, and feeling like you *should* be in a relationship. Maybe just sit back and look at what possibilities your life could have if you chose to stay single. The possibilities are truly endless.
I would focus on enjoying the time you currently have with yourself. Just focus on doing what makes you happy and feeling okay with any choices you have made. You're just perfect right the way you are, right now. I think once you really delve into that feeling of loving and accepting yourself that your perfect partner will just literally walk into your life at the right moment.
|07-24-2011, 02:26 PM||#10 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2009
Disclaimer before I start explaining: I haven't read the prior eight (or nine if someone posted as I was writing this) replies so I might be saying the same thing somebody else did.
I'm just like you... well, kind of, I'm not "trying" to manifest my soulmate. I've been "trying" for three years to manifest a girlfriend and she hasn't been showing up because I've been "trying" to force the Universe to make it happen by doing rituals, visualizations, etc. But not too long ago, I've told the Universe that I'm no longer attached to my intention, that I'm letting It bring my girlfriend to me when it's meant to happen, and that I accept that if this is not in the cards for me because in the end of the day, I love and admire myself. Mind you, I don't have my girlfriend YET! But I'm patiently waiting and my focus is on other things. I mean, I think about it every now and then but I'm not as obsessed about the manifestation as I was for the past three years.
Instead of trying to find the perfect love out there, work on finding the perfect love within yourself, so to speak! Do you love and cherish who you are now? What makes you awesome! What are the things that make Jane the bomb! If your soulmate were standing in front of you, looking at you and your life would you be happy with what and who he was looking at? What is the real reason you want to find a soulmate? Are you trying to fill a void? Be like your peers and everone else as you speak about everyone else having a partner (I take it that that is what you meant by "settled down") and most importantly, do you feel complete or incomplete with a partner?
Oh, and also, don't think for ONE second that there is something wrong with trying to manifest The One. There isn't. The problem may be the reason WHY you're trying to find a partner. The reason why you're trying to find a partner could play a very important role in why they're not showing up too, so to speak. Don't let anybody else tell you that you won't meet The One either. My mother tried to tell me this was all just a fantasy, but to no avail as I know there is a such thing as meeting The One.
You may not like the next piece that I am about to say, but it's the truth and it COULD help you a great deal. You don't need a soulmate partner to be happy and meeting him make or break you because your life will still go on even if the manifestation of him will never surface. Not to say you won't but there were those times I pleaded "Oh, I can't wait another month!" and the Universe made me go more months without her and I could hear it saying to me, "See? You're still here, aren't you?" Just because it seems as though you WON'T meet The One doesn't mean you won't, you just have some You-work to do, per se.
Oh, and another thing, it's not just a question of feeling the joy of finding the partner you've been searching for, it's more a matter of as I have said, finding and treasuring the perfect love within yourself. Ask the Universe for your soulmate, see yourself being with them, wait patiently, and in the meantime, work on being your own soulmate.
I recall when I was desperate to find The One for me, I, too, was posting in internet forums like you have now, and the replies I got were the almost the same as what I've explained above, but probably not as helpful. This was the kind of response I wish I had gotten. Now, I'm very happy to actually be the one replying to a thread of a person who is looking for their partner! I love how much I have improved! Not that I like seeing someone who is desperate as I know what that feels like but I like that instead of asking for help, I'm finally helping someone else!
I even plan to do a book on how I manifested a partner and how TO manifest a partner after I meet mine!
|07-24-2011, 05:59 PM||#11 (permalink)|
Join Date: Aug 2009
I think it's about your system. Same with weight and money. It's nothing more than getting the correct system that works.
And also, by relationship, do you mean meeting someone that will "complete you". In that case, your system is wrong from the get go. If, by relationship, you mean another person to share experiences with, then we are on the right track.
Here is my system, and it works really good.
1. Work on loving myself. You need to love yourself just the way you are, even though you are always improving.
2. Look you best. Dress well, get your hair done, get in shape. Confidence is highly attractive.
3. Get out and talk to people. It's a numbers game. If you go out and talk to a lot of people, at least one will want to go out to dinner or coffee.
4. It's a numbers game. Dont' fixate on one person. Have a different date for every night. Don't put pressure on it. Eventually, one will stand out from the pack.
All the other stuff is just to get you to work a good system. If you have limiting/false beliefs, low self esteem, etc, etc, etc. Those, in of themselves, do not necessarily hold you back. But what they do is prevent you from effectively working a system. And the system will always bring results.
|07-24-2011, 07:36 PM||#12 (permalink)|
Join Date: Sep 2008
Missjane, I was thinking that you could also try to manifest smaller things as an exercise. This could contribute to you becoming more self-confident about your skills.
You can try men in green shirts for example, love letters, hugs or other things you associate with relationships
|07-24-2011, 08:25 PM||#13 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2011
Amazon.com: Romance Angels (9781401904142): Doreen Virtue: Books
Meet the romance angels, a segment of the angelic that specializes in helping you manifest a healthy and romantic love life. On Side A of this powerful audiocassette, Dr. Doreen Virtue teaches you how to call upon the romance angels and receive their help in every facet of your love life. She gives specific examples of how the angelic kingdom can intervene in Cupid-like fashion.
On Side B, Doreen takes you through a relaxing meditation that allows the angels to clear away blocks that could be interfering with your love life. The romance angels will give you guidance that will put you on your way toward a happy and healthy relationship.
Last edited by AngelPsychic444; 07-24-2011 at 08:28 PM.
|08-03-2011, 12:31 AM||#15 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2009
I've also been trying to manifest a soulmate relationship...approx 3 years ago someone came into my life that met most of my criteria. However, since then I've been doing the work on myself in order to meet someone more suitable. The men I've been attracting is TOTALLY opposite of what I want, I find them to be very unattractive, and not my type. My question is, what do you think is going on, why am I attracting men that are not my type?
|08-04-2011, 05:59 PM||#16 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2011
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