Inner Dialogue

[jaideepv1234]

I am trying very hard to eliminate the recognised thought patterns. I want to introduce my wishes in my inner dialogue with my mind but then doing so I found many difficulties, and I am trying various other methods to eliminate those unwanted thouht patterns..but I am not been able to accomplished that hence getting nervous and writting this here.

Any help on how to get rid of unwanted thoughts? and how to inroduce the wanted thought pattern in my minds inner dialogue.

Thanks and Regards

[hemal]

Hi Jaydeep

I used to suffer from the same problem. First I just want to ask you a question... did you ever used to believe anything that you later turned out not to be true. For example, I used to believe all rich people are better than me at one point. I used to believe this with such conviction. Later on in life I found out this wasn't the case. Have you ever believed anything so strongly before, which today you can almost laugh at because of how crazy it is?

If so, that is good! Use that to realise that you are in the exact same situation today. You are having these negative thoughts, maybe you are thinking "I am no good". Now while you are thinking that, can you understand that just like how I used to believe "rich people are better than me", your thought may also be untrue.

You don't need to stop thinking these negative thoughts. Go on an continue to think them. But in the back of your mind, realise that your thinking has been wrong before. And if it has been wrong before, surely it can be wrong today as well.

[dailybitsofwisdom]

I think that before you introduce more positive thinking, you should learn to quiet your thinking. If you're constantly introducing good thoughts into your head the amount of information being processed will too much. Eventually you'll overload like a computer and burn out.

Learn to be present in the moment by focusing on your breath. Maybe take some meditation courses or pick up a book about Zen. Then when your mind has settled, it will become more receptive towards what you want to put in it (positivity), as well as more selective towards what you want to keep out (negativity).

[OptimistPrime]

Another technique I've found useful, re: clearing away negative thought clutter, is to focus more on the feelings you intend to attract to yourself within a particular context, instead of coming up with a laundry list of specific things you're attracting.

For example, if I'm manifesting a relationship, thinking about all the traits I desire in another person can really clutter things up in my mind/imagination, and it's just as likely to get me thinking about traits I don't desire as ones that I do (which gets me into a negative/fearful frame of mind). There are also times I may not even know what I desire, and thinking about that uncertainty can stress me out and make me fear the worst.

Whereas, it's pretty easy for me to visualize positive feelings that I would enjoy experiencing in the context on a relationship. Happiness, affection... even something as specific as the feeling of the communication in the relationship being good.

[jaideepv1234]

@hemal: yes u caught me at proper point. I always do that. after I found this in me I m not been able to discontinue... I am still continuing ...whic is very sad...

for example, I am very technoholic, especially for mobile phones and I got blackberry bold for myself but still I am jealous of others having good phone more than me...I always forget that "I am having BB Bold" how many people have this phone...I always underestimate myself....my focus point is not me but it always others...


thanks ...felt better