Can you intend about intention?

[Storyteller]

So, all the stuff I've read/heard about the power of intention thus far has pretty much said you have to be optimistic about what you want to manifest. But my question is this... do you really have to be that way ALL the time? It seems to me that being a goody-goody optimist constantly is just as out of balance as being a pessimist all the time. It seems grossly unfair that a thing you want to manifest should be kept from you just because of a few occasional negative thoughts or even thought patterns. Can you have the power of intention over the power of intention? If so, I'd have it give me a little more slack.

I'm trying to be more positive, I really am. REALLY. But it is SO hard... I've been a natural negative-thinker for my entire life. Intense since birth. It feels, right now in my 'apprentice' stage, like I need a whole character change just to manifest successfully. Overwhelming and discouraging, to say the least.

I'll give an example of something that seems like a blocking thought pattern of mine, but one I can't seem to shake. I currently desire my soul mate like almost nothing else, and I have been looking for him for years and years, with only a bare desert to answer for it (and he's in my head in a very clear picture, more on this later). I live with my mother still. Just a few years ago, in the midst of my avid, unsuccessful search, she connected with a fellow who seems to be her own soul mate, without even thinking about it. She has always had MUCH more female charisma than I have, and has said to me that she never had really even thought about her soul mate at all. But in spite of this, he just comes to her anyway. Needless to say, I am... more than a bit envious, which seems low but who wouldn't be, in my place? Sometimes having to watch them being all close is like getting slapped right in that big empty hole inside me. It is actually physically painful in the worst of times. As I said before, I'm intense since birth... and dramatic. And to make it all worse, neither of these two believes in things like manifestation, and while I watch them having what I lack and have longed for, they tell me 'go ahead and dream, but don't expect anything to happen'.

Needless to say, this brings about many unfortunate emotions in me, jealousy being only one. Now my point is, am I REALLY supposed to NEVER feel this completely obvious emotion at all, or can I still acknowledge it sometimes and still manifest? Sometimes trying to supress it is like cutting off a body part while desperately trying to ignore the sensation. So, all in all, what do you think I ought to do? Is it okay to feel sad about the situation now, and hopeful about it happening later?

Thanks.

[Conflagrant]

If you intend two things at the same time there is conflict (internally) and at the very least one intention counteracts the other.

From reading your post it seems you intend to keep a negative perspective and yet be successful in an activity that you believe to require optimism?

Decide which is more important to you and why (negative outlook or soulmate). Write your thoughts down and get clear on what you want and why you want it...then try manifesting.

[Anagogy]

Originally Posted by Storyteller

So, all the stuff I've read/heard about the power of intention thus far has pretty much said you have to be optimistic about what you want to manifest. But my question is this... do you really have to be that way ALL the time? It seems to me that being a goody-goody optimist constantly is just as out of balance as being a pessimist all the time. It seems grossly unfair that a thing you want to manifest should be kept from you just because of a few occasional negative thoughts or even thought patterns. Can you have the power of intention over the power of intention? If so, I'd have it give me a little more slack.

Stop. Take a deep breath. You are trying way too hard.

It sounds like what you desire is not manifesting, and you are intellectually rationalizing why this is so, and also why it is not fair that is so.

Now.......just cut that out.....right now. Or else.

You create your own reality.

And the only thing that keeps anything you sincerely desire from manifesting is resistance. Now, what exactly is resistance? Resistance is simply your focus, or thought stream, which contradicts what you desire. It is a very encompassing definition. Your awareness of "what is", perpetuates what is. Your focus consists of your thoughts, beliefs, daydreams, idle musings, emotions, etc. -- essentially, whatever you are aware of. It is part of your vibrational signature as consciousness.

Think of your awareness as a radio signal that you are emitting at all times which is telling reality how to relate to you. So depending on what you are aware of, you could be manifesting a variety of things, some desirable and some undesirable. You have to tune yourself to the signal that matches what you desire, or what plays on the radio of your experience will not be desirable.

Originally Posted by Storyteller

I'm trying to be more positive, I really am. REALLY. But it is SO hard... I've been a natural negative-thinker for my entire life. Intense since birth. It feels, right now in my 'apprentice' stage, like I need a whole character change just to manifest successfully. Overwhelming and discouraging, to say the least.

Do you see what you are doing here? You are telling a story about your life which reinforces the lack consciousness which is preventing the manifestation you desire. You have to tell a new story. Stop identifying yourself as a "pessimist". Even if it is a factual description, it is only reinforcing the difficulty you are having. Start thinking of yourself as a positive thinker and, in time, you will be.

Originally Posted by Storyteller

I'll give an example of something that seems like a blocking thought pattern of mine, but one I can't seem to shake. I currently desire my soul mate like almost nothing else, and I have been looking for him for years and years, with only a bare desert to answer for it (and he's in my head in a very clear picture, more on this later). I live with my mother still. Just a few years ago, in the midst of my avid, unsuccessful search, she connected with a fellow who seems to be her own soul mate, without even thinking about it. She has always had MUCH more female charisma than I have, and has said to me that she never had really even thought about her soul mate at all. But in spite of this, he just comes to her anyway. Needless to say, I am... more than a bit envious, which seems low but who wouldn't be, in my place? Sometimes having to watch them being all close is like getting slapped right in that big empty hole inside me. It is actually physically painful in the worst of times. As I said before, I'm intense since birth... and dramatic. And to make it all worse, neither of these two believes in things like manifestation, and while I watch them having what I lack and have longed for, they tell me 'go ahead and dream, but don't expect anything to happen'.

Take notes. Sounds like your mother has this manifestation thing down. Notice how little she tried. The amount of effort you apply is not commensurate with the quality of the manifestation you produce.

Originally Posted by Storyteller

Needless to say, this brings about many unfortunate emotions in me, jealousy being only one. Now my point is, am I REALLY supposed to NEVER feel this completely obvious emotion at all, or can I still acknowledge it sometimes and still manifest? Sometimes trying to supress it is like cutting off a body part while desperately trying to ignore the sensation. So, all in all, what do you think I ought to do? Is it okay to feel sad about the situation now, and hopeful about it happening later?
Thanks.

Do you know what emotions are in an intention-manifestation context?

Emotions are the most valuable friend we will ever have. They tell us so much. Never try to ignore them, even if they are negative in nature. They are telling you something extremely valuable.

Emotions are your perception of the contradiction or congruency between the energy of what you are desiring and the energy of what you believe about it. It is the vibrational relativity between desire and belief. When you want something strongly, and your beliefs contradict the reality of that desire, you feel strong negative emotion. That is your perception of vibrational contradiction. The more negative emotion, the more it is telling you that you are creating resistance.

When your beliefs allow or support what you desire, you won't feel those negative emotions because there is no contradiction in your energy. In fact, you would feel strong positive emotion if you are desiring something strongly and it is not being resisted by your contradictory thoughts and beliefs. It would feel something akin to passion or joy. Then, your signal is a pure match to what you are desiring, and it has to come if you maintain it.

So to recap, whenever you feel negative emotion, it means that in this moment, your focus of thought is not a match to what you are desiring. So what do you do? Realize that all these negative emotions, whether it be a subtle anxiety, or deep jealously or anger is arising in response to what you are focusing on, be it great or small. So the logical course of action would be to find a better way of looking at things so you can release this resistance.

Look for positive aspects in the situation, no matter what it is. However, you can't fake it. Pay attention to your emotions carefully during this process. They won't lie to you.

Your goal is NOT to come up with a objectively accurate analysis of the situation. In any situation, there is both positive and negative, desirable and undesirable. Your work is to find the desirable aspects and focus upon them. A funny thing happens when you practice this. You start to feel a little better. Keep doing it and you will feel better and better. Little by little, you release your resistance relative to that subject. You are now using the law of attraction to your advantage because what you focus on expands in the your experience, and your focus upon these desirable aspects will perpetuate more of them in your experience.

The universe does not know the difference between imagination and reality. Imagine things as you would like them to be, and in your enjoyment of them in the now, you will become a vibrational match to your desires and they will begin to move towards you.

[Storyteller]

Wow, thank you both. This is really quite helpful. I know I think about everything WAY too much... the input of other brains helps me get new perspectives I never thought of before.

[jota]

Hell yeah!!!!!

Excelent explanation Anagogy , very clear

Thanks , your posts help me a lot , like always

[linviolin]

Haha, exactly my problem here! Anagogy's explanation is great. I've come to accept negative emotions as sort of 'markers' that steer you back on course.

I'm reading this book called Psycho-cybernetics now, it's by the plastic surgeon Maxwell Maltz. He believes in a 'creative success mechanism' (subconscious mind or universe, probably) that will only work when you leave it alone and stop worrying about how it works. Also, he mentions that the brain cannot differentiate between real and imagined experiences; if you input enough of an imagined experience into your brain it will soon perceive it as real.

Also, negative emotions or mistakes are likened to 'negative feedback mechanisms' in a guided missile; they tell the missile that it is 'off course' but then the missile will correct its course.

If you are inclined to put a negative slant on things this book is a good read; it explains things quite pragmatically and doesn't feel overtly optimistic. I've found that it brings me from negative to neutral, and therefore, more quickly to thinking positively.