My long journey to manifest my girlfriend

[Roaring Springs]

I got in a luckily brief argument with my mom this morning, about my intention to manifest a girlfriend. I'll try to keep this as short as I can but before I get any further into this, let me share this tid-bit with you people.

I've grown up with a very negative mother who always sees the negative in everything. She's not big into this attraction stuff ("b*******t" as she calls it) as I am. She lost her husband (my father) when I was seven, so I can perfectly see why she's so hellbent on pulling me out of this "fantasy" of trying to attract my One.

I'm autistic, and I don't spent that much time out of the house... except for when I have to be at school, work, or at summer camp. I'm 20 years old and still live here with my mum and I would like to get out of here. I know some of you people are going to tell me, "Oh, there are non-autistic people older than you who still live with their parents, mainly because the economy is so bad." Yes, I understand. But I still want to not live here any longer than I have to and I can attract that too.

I've tried three years to manifest a girlfriend, but to no avail. My mother has used that against me, trying to get through to me that it should be a clue what I'm doing isn't working. I wish I told her this but it's not working because it will happen when it's time. And I am not to screw with the Universe's timeline. And it didn't happen when I wanted it to happen because I wasn't ready then. I'm not saying this wishfully, but if the Universe were to ask me if I think I'm ready right now for my girlfriend, my God-honest answer would be "yes" because I really do believe that I am ready for her.

First of all, I've seen and heard about people who set these goals and intention to find "The One" and they actually do--some rather quickly, others through a desperate struggle, like me. But they have, and my having autism shouldn't make me any more of an exception... especially when there are times where I have sucessfully applied the Law of Attraction. And it fit worked in those cases, it will definately work for the girl.

I don't like to laugh at people as it's not very nice. But I just couldn't help but to sit there and laugh as my mum went on and on about how hard it is for non-autistic people to get into and keep relationships anyhow, that the divorce rate is so dang high, and that I've never had a "real" girlfriend relationship anyway. She was also trying to tell me this is a sign something is wrong with me because of this and that if someone found this out about me, they will see something wrong with me too. Well, let me tell you people something. I want people to laugh at me about this, only because I'll be the one acquiring the last laugh when I prove everybody wrong.

After this debate, I looked at one thing I know about the Law of Attraction--"like attacts like", and then I came up with this theory that she might be autistic or have some other mental flaw like ADHD or something. Again, this was based on the stuff I listed and when I did my Perfect Girlfriend list, I've divided the list into three components, Physical Characteristics (what she looks like), Her Personality (how she acts), and Her Lifestyle (where she lives, what kind of enviornment she lives in and stuff like that), and here are some samples to help other people come up with good traits for their "Ones"

Her Personality
 heterosexual or bisexual
 smoke-free and drug-free
 virgin
 understanding
 affectionate
 sweet to me
 very easy for me to get along with
 compatible with me, preferably a Capricorn (I'm a Virgo)
 good morals
 honest with me
 generous
 gets my name tattooed across her bicep
 has a bed large enough for both of us to sleep on
 great kisser
 great in bed
 often timid and quiet
 acts childishly immature for her age, even in public
 often flamboyant
 funny
 knows when to be serious
 disregards others' negative opinions
 likes to shop
 likes to travel
 likes rides on highways
 likes Power Rangers
 loves to go swimming
 loves skinny, younger, feminine guys like myself
 loves that I am feminine, fascinated by my feminine mannerisms

Please bear in mind that this isn't the whole list as I terminated some traits for privacy purposes and because they're too inappropriate for this site anyway. Mind you, I didn't list that she was autistic, or had ADHD, just that she can act immature for her age, (I better go back and put "in a playful way" after it).

In line of all this, she looked over my WHOLE list, I am a little embarrassed to say, and she commented once (this actually isn't the first time we had this debate) that I expect a lot of things for her, that this woman does not exist, and now that because I want her to function she wants me to function too. Well, I do. I don't mind her being autistic or having ADHD or whateverhaveyou. Just as long as she is high-fuctioning enough to sustain and keep a relationship with me and can contribute to the relationship as I am willing to.

I'm gonna sit down and write a novel about this, not only about what it's like to be autistic but also chronically my journey with attracting a girlfriend. In fact, as the "living as if" rule goes, I'm already working on it! Just the parts before the meeting "The One" stuff, that is.

Sincere thank you to all who took the time to read this long post and in advance to those replying with feedback. I tried not to write a book and keep it short but I need to get these important points across. All feedback and suggestions are highly appreciated. There's no such thing as "too much help".

And mum, I highly doubt you'll ever find this post anyhow but if on some strange occasion you happen to be reading this, thank you so much for giving me the motivation and determination I need to continue on my journey. Like, seriously? You're far out of your mind if you think I'm going to give up my dream, and even further if you think so just because you don't see it happening. You're trying to pull me out of a dillusion I'm not even in and all you're doing is making me stronger and more determined and the more determined you are to achieve something, the higher the likelyhood of it actually happening. Fact.

[ButterflyWoman]

First, I have a super-negative mother, too. She can find something to complain about in ANY situation, no matter how great. I don't talk to her any more, haven't for years now, and it did wonders for my mental and emotional health (I'm not saying you need to completely cut your mother off, but I am saying that getting out of the direct "line of fire" of perpetual negativity is very healing and yields positive changes.)

Secondly, I wanted to tell you that I have an autistic daughter. She's 11 now, so not old enough to move out on her own, but I hope that one day she'll have the means and desire to do so, just as you're doing now. Good on you.

I'm also going to tell you that she is the best little manifester I've ever seen. When she sets her mind on having something, it invariably turns up in her reality, sometimes a lot quicker than I would have expected. At this time, her manifestations are mostly things like specific toys or books, but I don't doubt she could manifest anything she wanted (oh, if only I could make her understand what the lottery is... )

One thing autistic people are really good at is tuning out stuff you're not interested in. Do that with your mother's negative talk, and focus, instead, on what you DO want. Use that natural tendency to your advantage. You don't have to tell your mother you're not listening to her, you can just nod and say, "Okay," or something like that, while in your own mind, you know what you're REALLY thinking and bringing into your reality. Her negative talk is her own, you don't have to own it, too.

You can certainly manifest anything you want. Your mother probably means well, but misery does love company, and she's probably pretty miserable. (And the parents of autistic kids can be kind of weird about what they think their kids can and can't do; it just goes with the territory, unfortunately.) I think moving away from your mother is a great idea, and I don't think there's any reason why you can't manifest the means to do that AND manifest a girlfriend for yourself, and, hey, anything else you want. There are plenty of autistic people who have great success in life, including a happy relationship.

[Bliss Sage]

Well, I can't for the life of me understand why you tell your mother any of that at all. Hell would freeze over millennia before I would ever share any of my heart's desires or manifestations with any single family member.

I wish you luck with your manifestation and with separating yourself from your mother. Very good .

[Dreamweave]

Originally Posted by Bliss Sage

Well, I can't for the life of me understand why you tell your mother any of that at all. Hell would freeze over millennia before I would ever share any of my heart's desires or manifestations with any single family member.

I wish you luck with your manifestation and with separating yourself from your mother. Very good .

^this. The one time i told my mom about a girl i liked, she would not get off my back about her. She even started naming our kids


But maybe she can accidently help you manifest now that she knows what you want

[WarrenG]

Originally Posted by Roaring Springs

Her Personality
 heterosexual or bisexual
 smoke-free and drug-free
 virgin
 understanding
 affectionate
 sweet to me
 very easy for me to get along with
 compatible with me, preferably a Capricorn (I'm a Virgo)
 good morals
 honest with me
 generous
 gets my name tattooed across her bicep
 has a bed large enough for both of us to sleep on
 great kisser
 great in bed
 often timid and quiet
 acts childishly immature for her age, even in public
 often flamboyant
 funny
 knows when to be serious
 disregards others' negative opinions
 likes to shop
 likes to travel
 likes rides on highways
 likes Power Rangers
 loves to go swimming
 loves skinny, younger, feminine guys like myself
 loves that I am feminine, fascinated by my feminine mannerisms

Many of these are staple traits of Japanese girls...

[Storyteller]

Oh my goodness, Roaring Springs... your situation is nearly identical to my own. I'm a character designer by nature (looks at own name) and five years ago I 'designed' my perfect mate. I've been seeking him ever since. Five years. I also have a mother who doubts (though she's not quite so negative as yours, you poor dear), and other family members, too. I shall have to come back here and put my own topic about it.

I also couldn't help but notice that your list had quite a few traits similar to my own (though not all of them). I'm a 19-year-old heterosexual female who has many subtle traces of autism and lives in her own head, so is quiet much of the time. And yet I can turn around and be loud and theatrical other times. I'm also a Capricorn, a virgin, and drug-free, and I just love skinny girly fellows (especially those who are Asian or part Asian ). HOWEVER, I'm not that into shopping or riding highways or power rangers, and tattoos scare me, XD. And I have never even held a fellow's hand before so I don't know how good I am at intimacy. BUT! Know that your preferences CAN exist in combination, and don't give up, R.S.!

[seateal]

Don't tell your mother. My mother is the type who only believes what she can see. That's how she sees what I've done with my life as "miracle after miracle." The only person I share any of my desires with is my husband, as he's a total cheerleader when it comes to me wanting the "impossible." Heck, the circumstances where I met my dear hubby sound like the impossible.

[Whitelotus]

Hi,

In Stuart Lichtman's book he talks about how to set very specific objective to attract a partner.. specific to the extent of mentioning hair color and eye colour in the objective.
His technique involves a detailed process of setting an effective objective that is clear to your subconscious, dissolving any limiting belief and unconscious habit pattern that we could have developed. I feel these would really help in your case because growing with a negative person around is a surefire way to develop a lot of self-defeating beliefs which is a huge blocker to manifestation.
I have tried his method twice in other contexts and have had success.After I accomplish the current target I m working on I'm planning to attract a PERFECT partner of my own .
But if you are considering to try his method be warned it takes work and effort to do his processes. But its worth it if you ask me.

[dreamland]

Originally Posted by Whitelotus

Hi,
In Stuart Lichtman's book he talks about how to set very specific objective to attract a partner.. specific to the extent of mentioning hair color and eye colour in the objective.

Hy! What is the exact name of the book you recommend? There are many...
Oh, can it be download for free?

Thanks!

[Whitelotus]

the book i have is How to get lots of money for anything fast.
It came with bonus book one of which contains the perfect partner process. do get the latest edition book if there is. Maybe he'dve explained the processes better with more examples. I had to learn it the hard way and took help from ppl who;ve attended his live coaching.

[Roaring Springs]

Originally Posted by seateal

Don't tell your mother. My mother is the type who only believes what she can see. That's how she sees what I've done with my life as "miracle after miracle." The only person I share any of my desires with is my husband, as he's a total cheerleader when it comes to me wanting the "impossible." Heck, the circumstances where I met my dear hubby sound like the impossible.

Oh, really? What were the circumstances? What happened?

Originally Posted by WarrenG

Many of these are staple traits of Japanese girls...

Really? *chuckles*

Funny you should say that. The girl I'm looking for is Black, not Asian.

Originally Posted by CaterpillarWoman

First, I have a super-negative mother, too. She can find something to complain about in ANY situation, no matter how great. I don't talk to her any more, haven't for years now, and it did wonders for my mental and emotional health (I'm not saying you need to completely cut your mother off, but I am saying that getting out of the direct "line of fire" of perpetual negativity is very healing and yields positive changes.)

Secondly, I wanted to tell you that I have an autistic daughter. She's 11 now, so not old enough to move out on her own, but I hope that one day she'll have the means and desire to do so, just as you're doing now. Good on you.

I'm also going to tell you that she is the best little manifester I've ever seen. When she sets her mind on having something, it invariably turns up in her reality, sometimes a lot quicker than I would have expected. At this time, her manifestations are mostly things like specific toys or books, but I don't doubt she could manifest anything she wanted (oh, if only I could make her understand what the lottery is... )

One thing autistic people are really good at is tuning out stuff you're not interested in. Do that with your mother's negative talk, and focus, instead, on what you DO want. Use that natural tendency to your advantage. You don't have to tell your mother you're not listening to her, you can just nod and say, "Okay," or something like that, while in your own mind, you know what you're REALLY thinking and bringing into your reality. Her negative talk is her own, you don't have to own it, too.

You can certainly manifest anything you want. Your mother probably means well, but misery does love company, and she's probably pretty miserable. (And the parents of autistic kids can be kind of weird about what they think their kids can and can't do; it just goes with the territory, unfortunately.) I think moving away from your mother is a great idea, and I don't think there's any reason why you can't manifest the means to do that AND manifest a girlfriend for yourself, and, hey, anything else you want. There are plenty of autistic people who have great success in life, including a happy relationship.

That story is inspirational to me. I understand as a parent, she believes and feels that my focus should be on "more important things" but this is important to me and I'm willing to bet that my girlfriend is out there looking for me too, so for her sake, and out of consideration for her, I'm continuing on my goal and to hell with anyone who doubts our dream to unite.

I really don't mean any disrespect to my mom though. It's just that if she or anyone else doesn't have anything positve to say, I would rather not hear from her. Do you think you will ever miss your daughter when she moves out? I mean, my mom has been begging me to find a way to live out on my own and have even told me time and time again how to go on about doing so but I just don't understand. I hate to sound dependant on another person to take care of me, but I don't want her to take care of me. I want to wait and move in with her.

I mean, I even feel kind of pathetic how I'm asking people on the internet for help instead of having actual social interactions, physical social interactions with people... only because my mum has told me I hardly ever do so as for the most part, I'm always in the house.

Originally Posted by Bliss Sage

Well, I can't for the life of me understand why you tell your mother any of that at all. Hell would freeze over millennia before I would ever share any of my heart's desires or manifestations with any single family member.

I didn't tell her anything. She found out about it, certainly by going through the things I leave around. Heck, I don't even tell my mother much of anything and I'm just like you. I don't share much with my mum.

Originally Posted by Bliss Sage

I wish you luck with your manifestation and with separating yourself from your mother. Very good .

Thank you.

Originally Posted by Dreamweave

^this. The one time i told my mom about a girl i liked, she would not get off my back about her. She even started naming our kids

Do you guys want to have kids? Who is she to name your kids? If you guys go on to have babies, give them different names.

Originally Posted by Dreamweave

But maybe she can accidently help you manifest now that she knows what you want

Oh, like hell is she is!!!!

Why do I say that, you guys wonder? She keeps throwing her doubts at me and all that doubt and unsupport is just motivating me more and more. The more she tries to throw me off my road to manifesting my girlfriend the more determined I am!

Originally Posted by Storyteller

Oh my goodness, Roaring Springs... your situation is nearly identical to my own. I'm a character designer by nature (looks at own name) and five years ago I 'designed' my perfect mate. I've been seeking him ever since. Five years. I also have a mother who doubts (though she's not quite so negative as yours, you poor dear), and other family members, too. I shall have to come back here and put my own topic about it.

Did you even give him a name? I named my g/f before meeting her so when I talk to people about her, I actually have something to name her. Since I'm sure this won't be her real name when I actually meet her, I guess it would be alright to publish her fake name I name her but until I meet her, her phony name is "Dina Hilton."

Originally Posted by Storyteller

I also couldn't help but notice that your list had quite a few traits similar to my own (though not all of them). I'm a 19-year-old heterosexual female who has many subtle traces of autism and lives in her own head, so is quiet much of the time. And yet I can turn around and be loud and theatrical other times. I'm also a Capricorn, a virgin, and drug-free, and I just love skinny girly fellows (especially those who are Asian or part Asian ). HOWEVER, I'm not that into shopping or riding highways or power rangers, and tattoos scare me, XD. And I have never even held a fellow's hand before so I don't know how good I am at intimacy. BUT! Know that your preferences CAN exist in combination, and don't give up, R.S.!

Capricorn, huh? You and I would be pretty good friends then... not trying to come off a creep or anything because I AM a year older than you lol. But I am a Virgo. It's alright about not being crazy about shopping, riding around, or being a Power Rangers fan. Real tattoos scare you, right? What about those phony tattoos that you rub on with water? What exactly did you mean by my "preferences can exist in combination". I appreciate your support and thank you for encouraging me not to give up because like Hell I won;t!!!

Originally Posted by Whitelotus

Hi,

In Stuart Lichtman's book he talks about how to set very specific objective to attract a partner.. specific to the extent of mentioning hair color and eye colour in the objective.
His technique involves a detailed process of setting an effective objective that is clear to your subconscious, dissolving any limiting belief and unconscious habit pattern that we could have developed. I feel these would really help in your case because growing with a negative person around is a surefire way to develop a lot of self-defeating beliefs which is a huge blocker to manifestation.
I have tried his method twice in other contexts and have had success.After I accomplish the current target I m working on I'm planning to attract a PERFECT partner of my own .
But if you are considering to try his method be warned it takes work and effort to do his processes. But its worth it if you ask me.

I think I have a better book. Try How to Get Everything You Ever Wanted by Adriana Calabrese. I'm in the process of doing it now, and even though I'm not all the way through all the exercises, I KNOW I AM (not "trying" to) I AM Manifesting my girlfriend.

[Curtis2011]

Originally Posted by Roaring Springs

 virgin
 great in bed

These two seem to contradict each other lol....

[pyrogen]

Sure that you want to be with someone immature and childlike?

I used to be drawn to this, until I found I was breaking up with them for exactly the same reasons I was drawn to them.

Children aren't just fun and playful. They're also moody, manipulative, irritable, and tantrummy.

I'll take the grown-up any day of the week. Grown-ups have many of the positive features of children while lacking the drawbacks. Most grown-ups DO enjoy kicking back and playing from time to time.

[Roaring Springs]

I revive this thread for the reason that I once again seek guidance:

I KNOW all the secrets but I don't FEEL myself at those points.

First, allow me to share this story with you guys:

There was this girl I met in my sophomore year of high school. I had a huge crush on her after she graduated that year. To cut the long story short, I had a huge, and i mean HUGE crush on her to the point where I thought SHE was my soulmate and the woman I was going to marry. I never saw her again after that. She would friend me on MySpace and Facebook but all of my messages to her would go unanswered. I prayed that I would see her again and I never did until one morning briefly at the end of this past August.

The best thing of it is, I wasn't even thinking about her and I ran into her. I LOVE IT! That was completely unexpected!

Now get this -- I can't count the amount of times I have prayed that I would meet my soulmate, but I also said to the universe that I want it to be unexpected -- a pleasant surprise, meaning I won't even be thinking anything about it and I don't want to. I don't wanna know when or how but I did tell the Universe I want it to happen on a Friday or Saturday night.

Q: Master, when will I meet my soulmate?
A: When you no longer think and feel that it is missing from your life. That's when. Also when you achieve vibrational alignment with that which is your soul, then you will recognize that which matches that. You have got to be expectant of it, not sit there and be aware that you do not have it. That's being aligned with whatever it is that you desire. It is also when you learn to love that which you truly are, as you are right now. Remember, finding the perfect mate begins with finding the perfect love inside yourself first and always!

OK. I know the musts and I have mastered those. I know the keys. But just how do I get at that point? I am at the point where I love myself and all that I am and who I am but I still do feel myself feeling a little needy with this trip being in the works. How do I get into the point where I don't care if I meet her or not? Tell me, Master. how do I get into the mindset of "Oh, I don't need you at all..." where I do feel like it's just an extra icing on the cake instead of a missing puzzle piece? Just how?

[Zenn]

Roaring Springs, your thread title is My Long Journey To Manifest My Girlfriend. As you have intended the journey to be long, it's indeed taking its time.

[Bliss Sage]

Originally Posted by Roaring Springs

OK. I know the musts and I have mastered those. I know the keys. But just how do I get at that point? I am at the point where I love myself and all that I am and who I am but I still do feel myself feeling a little needy with this trip being in the works. How do I get into the point where I don't care if I meet her or not? Tell me, Master. how do I get into the mindset of "Oh, I don't need you at all..." where I do feel like it's just an extra icing on the cake instead of a missing puzzle piece? Just how?

Visualize it.
If your visualization is not leaving you feeling on top of the world and at peace because you are living in it, then I don't think your visualizations are working for you.

From an outsider's view, the telltale sign that nothing you are or have been doing is getting you closer to your destination is how you are obsessing over everything you are doing and every little thing that happens.

It's good to read a little incident like the one you mention as an alpha reflection and feel good, joyful with expectation about that, because it is confirmation your desire is on its way, but to then obsess over the little incident, analyze it, dissect it, impose all different kinds of meanings on it etc., I would guess, may just undo the progress. You infuse your own sense of urgency into it.

No one can take that sense of urgency out of what you are pursuing except you. We can only sit here and try to point that out time and time again.

I used reiki healing and meditation and the like to get the desperation out of me, and I listened to Abraham-Hicks (with countless free video clips on YouTube) who guide people specifically on how to attract what they want into their lives.

[pyrogen]

Ok, you want a girlfriend, great.

What do you actually want to DO with her?

Start doing those things on your own as much as possible.

Also, here is a trick:

When you walk to a destination, you don't spend the entire time staring at your feet, do you?

Find some goal that is a bit loftier, work toward that, and release the girlfriend goal... Make sure that the new goal is something that is really absorbing and consuming of your emotional energy, that you feel enthusiastic about.

The universe can chew on the girlfriend manifestation and you will be doing the obsessing over -something else-.

[hamix]

Originally Posted by Roaring Springs

I got in a luckily brief argument with my mom this morning, about my intention to manifest a girlfriend. I'll try to keep this as short as I can but before I get any further into this, let me share this tid-bit with you people.

I've grown up with a very negative mother who always sees the negative in everything. She's not big into this attraction stuff ("b*******t" as she calls it) as I am. She lost her husband (my father) when I was seven, so I can perfectly see why she's so hellbent on pulling me out of this "fantasy" of trying to attract my One.

I'm autistic, and I don't spent that much time out of the house... except for when I have to be at school, work, or at summer camp. I'm 20 years old and still live here with my mum and I would like to get out of here. I know some of you people are going to tell me, "Oh, there are non-autistic people older than you who still live with their parents, mainly because the economy is so bad." Yes, I understand. But I still want to not live here any longer than I have to and I can attract that too.

I've tried three years to manifest a girlfriend, but to no avail. My mother has used that against me, trying to get through to me that it should be a clue what I'm doing isn't working. I wish I told her this but it's not working because it will happen when it's time. And I am not to screw with the Universe's timeline. And it didn't happen when I wanted it to happen because I wasn't ready then. I'm not saying this wishfully, but if the Universe were to ask me if I think I'm ready right now for my girlfriend, my God-honest answer would be "yes" because I really do believe that I am ready for her.

First of all, I've seen and heard about people who set these goals and intention to find "The One" and they actually do--some rather quickly, others through a desperate struggle, like me. But they have, and my having autism shouldn't make me any more of an exception... especially when there are times where I have sucessfully applied the Law of Attraction. And it fit worked in those cases, it will definately work for the girl.

I don't like to laugh at people as it's not very nice. But I just couldn't help but to sit there and laugh as my mum went on and on about how hard it is for non-autistic people to get into and keep relationships anyhow, that the divorce rate is so dang high, and that I've never had a "real" girlfriend relationship anyway. She was also trying to tell me this is a sign something is wrong with me because of this and that if someone found this out about me, they will see something wrong with me too. Well, let me tell you people something. I want people to laugh at me about this, only because I'll be the one acquiring the last laugh when I prove everybody wrong.

After this debate, I looked at one thing I know about the Law of Attraction--"like attacts like", and then I came up with this theory that she might be autistic or have some other mental flaw like ADHD or something. Again, this was based on the stuff I listed and when I did my Perfect Girlfriend list, I've divided the list into three components, Physical Characteristics (what she looks like), Her Personality (how she acts), and Her Lifestyle (where she lives, what kind of enviornment she lives in and stuff like that), and here are some samples to help other people come up with good traits for their "Ones"

Her Personality
 heterosexual or bisexual
 smoke-free and drug-free
 virgin
 understanding
 affectionate
 sweet to me
 very easy for me to get along with
 compatible with me, preferably a Capricorn (I'm a Virgo)
 good morals
 honest with me
 generous
 gets my name tattooed across her bicep
 has a bed large enough for both of us to sleep on
 great kisser
 great in bed
 often timid and quiet
 acts childishly immature for her age, even in public
 often flamboyant
 funny
 knows when to be serious
 disregards others' negative opinions
 likes to shop
 likes to travel
 likes rides on highways
 likes Power Rangers
 loves to go swimming
 loves skinny, younger, feminine guys like myself
 loves that I am feminine, fascinated by my feminine mannerisms

Please bear in mind that this isn't the whole list as I terminated some traits for privacy purposes and because they're too inappropriate for this site anyway. Mind you, I didn't list that she was autistic, or had ADHD, just that she can act immature for her age, (I better go back and put "in a playful way" after it).

In line of all this, she looked over my WHOLE list, I am a little embarrassed to say, and she commented once (this actually isn't the first time we had this debate) that I expect a lot of things for her, that this woman does not exist, and now that because I want her to function she wants me to function too. Well, I do. I don't mind her being autistic or having ADHD or whateverhaveyou. Just as long as she is high-fuctioning enough to sustain and keep a relationship with me and can contribute to the relationship as I am willing to.

I'm gonna sit down and write a novel about this, not only about what it's like to be autistic but also chronically my journey with attracting a girlfriend. In fact, as the "living as if" rule goes, I'm already working on it! Just the parts before the meeting "The One" stuff, that is.

Sincere thank you to all who took the time to read this long post and in advance to those replying with feedback. I tried not to write a book and keep it short but I need to get these important points across. All feedback and suggestions are highly appreciated. There's no such thing as "too much help".

And mum, I highly doubt you'll ever find this post anyhow but if on some strange occasion you happen to be reading this, thank you so much for giving me the motivation and determination I need to continue on my journey. Like, seriously? You're far out of your mind if you think I'm going to give up my dream, and even further if you think so just because you don't see it happening. You're trying to pull me out of a dillusion I'm not even in and all you're doing is making me stronger and more determined and the more determined you are to achieve something, the higher the likelyhood of it actually happening. Fact.

Ignore her.

Some basic tenets of life, that apply in all times, are:

- We don't owe others our time, opinions or justifications.
- EVERY person is out for themselves. EVERY person, with NO exceptions.

We all have our own goals in life, and as this is part of being human, you don't have to justify that to her. You're an adult anyhow, so it doesn't mean you need to tell her.

[Bonadea]

Also, I find making the list too complicated can hinder the process.

Perhaps just try "the perfect girlfriend for me".

[loapatti]

Try saying this to yourself "I'm a great guy and a great girl loves me".

Don't let your mother influence you to much, bottom line, she probably doesn't want to see you get hurt or lose you when you find a girlfriend and down the road a wife.