|07-03-2011, 09:17 PM||#1 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2010
Why can't you manifest a connection with a specific person?
I've been interested in LOA for several years now, and every resource that I've read says not to focus on a specific person when you're trying to manifest something. Why is this? For everything else, they tell you to be as specific as possible to speed manifestation. Supposedly trying to manifest something with another person would violate the other's free will, but what if you're on the same wavelength to begin with? Sorry if I'm being a little unclear, but this has me profoundly confused! Any guidance would be much appreciated.
|07-03-2011, 09:50 PM||#2 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2010
Well, it helps being detached, so if you have a specific person in mind whose reactions you can observe, you are likely to build some inner resistance. abraham hicks has some interesting points on that YouTube - ‪abraham hicks relationships‬‏
check the videos, you might recieve some clarity from them.
Rule of thumb:
Imagine what you want, imagine how it would feel (as much as you can) and most importantly (something i got "wrong" a lot): ALWAYS enjoy yourself, your potential partner, your life, the food, everything. RELAX, see what happens, enjoy what is, stay eager for more. Keep your frequency high. Always and without exception act on inspiration, come from a place of love. It's not about that one person anyways, but might as well be.
I hope this is helpful to you.
|07-04-2011, 12:57 AM||#5 (permalink)|
Join Date: Apr 2010
Either visualize the type of person you want , or if you want a person , get to know that person better. Make sure there realy the person you think they are before you do any kind of visualzation on then. A lady did a love spell on this guy and he raped her. desert rat
|07-04-2011, 01:52 AM||#7 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2010
Usually because a connection already exists between the two people. Manifestation isn't like a smartbomb, it's not going to fly directly into the window of its target and blow up all their resistances to a relationship with you.
A relationship doesn't take any work to create, it exists as soon as the connection is made. If you want a connection with that hot chick in your English class, the manifestation happens as soon as she sees you. There's no guarantee that the connection will be close, or that she'll be in love with you. The only guarantee is that she will know who you are. That's all you'll get, and honestly, that's all you should really want.
You really shouldn't want her to love you against her will. That way lies hell.
|07-04-2011, 06:09 AM||#9 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Where soul meets body.
It is my opinion that the reason one is often advised not to visualize a specific person is because it is often self defeating. It is self defeating in the fact that becoming a vibrational match to what they are attracting often means getting out of alignment with who you really are, as pure positive source energy. There is also a kind of "lack consciousness" attached to the idea of attracting a specific individual. It's almost like saying to the universe, "There aren't any more individuals in the world who possess the qualities I desire in a mate, so I have to have THIS one." Also, you have to consider where they are vibrating. How much resistance do they have? How much negativity do they have in their life? Do I really want to become a vibrational match to that? These are questions you may want to consider.
It is a far more satisfying experience to get feeling good and in alignment with your expanded self, and then, under those circumstances, attract a mate. Because that person will be a perfect match to you. You won't have to go back and work out the kinks in that relationship, because the law of attraction would have only matched you up with somebody who was a perfect vibrational match to what you were really wanting.
In the other circumstance, you may successfully become a vibrational match to the specific individual you had your sights on, only to realize afterwards it was not the dream boat you had in mind.
Now it is possible that that individual you are desiring is a perfect match for you, in which case, getting in alignment consistently with your higher emotions and higher self would cause you to be brought together. So again, your work is simply to find thoughts and beliefs which agree with your desires and practice traveling those thought ways until you become a perfect vibrational match to your desire.
Focusing on thoughts which makes you feel better, will always attract more experiences that match that feeling better. But simply intending to be with a specific individual does not make that same promise with you, so happiness isn't necessarily a condition of that manifestation.
|07-04-2011, 07:05 AM||#11 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Somewhere in time...
Quote from Chapter 9 of: The Science of Getting Rich
|07-04-2011, 08:19 AM||#12 (permalink)|
Join Date: Feb 2008
I don't think being specific with a particular person in mind is harmful. What it may do however, is you may become too attached to the outcome and that will slow the manifesting process.
Whether the person's free will be in jeopardy or not will depend on the model of reality you subscribe to. If you assume subjective reality then everyone is a dream character and you have created them.
In any case, it would be interesting to see what happens if you do it with a specific person in mind. Worst case, you may get the connection with a twin.
|07-04-2011, 10:05 AM||#13 (permalink)|
Join Date: Oct 2010
I manifested my first girlfriend using LOA and focusing on a specific person.
(shrugs) I think the first step is to make note of any factors that might impede a possible relationship. Are you both single and looking? If so, then I don't see the problem in attempting a detailed intention.
|07-04-2011, 08:32 PM||#14 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Los Angeles, California
I wasn't aware that it isn't possible. As it's worked for me countless times. It's easier for some people than others. You just need practice and focus.
Perhaps you've heard the story I told on a previous thread a few months ago ?
During my freshman year of HS, There was this smoking hot girl that was a senior. I mean she was beautiful and I wanted her bad. The only problem was that I wasn't a super outgoing person that just walks up and talks to girls. I wanted her to come to me. So that's where I employed a bit of mental influence.
By focusing on the person in your mind and sending intentions to them or telling them something, it somehow reaches them at a subconscious level as far as I understand it.
So during the day in my classes while everyone else was doing their work, I was in a light trance constantly thinking about this girl and holding her in my arms, and kissing her and stuff like that.
Within days, I noticed at track practice she would be looking at me. I would turn around and immediately make eye contact and she would look away quickly. She had obviously developed an interest Nothing ever came out if it though because I was still to shy to talk to girls. But if I only had that time back nowadays... We could have made something out of it.
|07-04-2011, 11:03 PM||#16 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2008
What happens is that you keep your options open if you keep the two manifestations separate.
For example, I have a relationship with "Jane." I love her and think that it would be great to be with her, despite certain obstacles, like her significant other. Now, right now we are friends, but the kind of friend I feel strongly about. There is an ideal form for that relationship.
On the other hand, I have my desire for a love life. There is an ideal form for my love life.
When I start manifesting, I want to keep these two soups in separate pots as long as necessary. I look over the "recipe" for my love life, and I start to examine the "ingredient" to see if they fit. What if I blend them too soon? Well, I could find out that "Jane" really belongs in a different "recipe" after I've committed to this "soup." I've now "ruined" both my relationship with Jane and my love life, creating something far, far less than I could have created.
BTW True story, names changed to protect the innocent. ;-) Result: No love life, extra years single; "Jane" and I rarely talk...
So follow the guidelines. When dreaming up your love life, draw from your heart, not from the real world. When planning what can happen with a specific person, draw from what you know and feel about him. The result will be that you will be happy with both things, even if they end up being the same.
Or to use Kevin Trudeau's example: Joe likes Mary. He wants Mary. But what he doesn't know is that, in a week, he will meet Susan. Susan will be 100 times better than Mary, but Joe doesn't know that. Now he can use LOA to get Mary, but if he just intends to manifest the best possible, he will be MUCH better off.
(Example adapted from "Your Wish Is Your Command" recorded by Kevin Trudeau.)
|07-04-2011, 11:17 PM||#17 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2008
Another metaphor: Personals
Think of it like this.
The law of attraction works like a giant Craigslist with analytical powers. A matchmaker run through the subconscious and superconscious minds.
To do what the instructors say is to place an ad on the general network. The matchmaker will find the proper match from thousands of people with similar interests.
To think of a specific person is to "Cold Call" and "Hard Sell." You want your transaction from a specific person. Now, you can't destroy their free will, only your own; so if you aren't willing to break the deal you have to take whatever they offer.
So you have a choice: Deal with the person who really wants your offer or mutilate your offer till it becomes one that they will agree to? Either strategy works, and we need them both; but whenever possible, go for the broader marketplace.
|07-04-2011, 11:29 PM||#18 (permalink)|
Join Date: Nov 2010
Thanks guys, you've given me a few laughs and a few things to think about. It's true that trying to manifest a connection with a specific person will often make you more tied to the outcome, especially if pretty strong emotions are involved. Remaining detached is probably my biggest obstacle with the Law of Attraction. I'm very stubborn and when I want something, I want it now I'll be working on that!
|07-05-2011, 07:49 PM||#21 (permalink)|
Join Date: Jul 2011
I would say it is the result of deeply held beliefs that most people have about the nature of "other" people. These beliefs see them as being something separate from you, and therefore make it impossible to effectively manifest that connection. Just a thought.
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