About attracting a specific person...

[ktik93]

I like so much a guy since the beggining of this year. When I met him I instantly felt sparks over my body. I like him so much because he's such an special guy and I've never met a guy so respectful,amicable,cheerful and big-hearted like him. At the beggining of february I used law of attraction to attract him and things worked out pretty well. He began to approach to me , he complimented me like 3 times ...that I was beautiful , he stared at me many times, once he complimented my purse ( to set the record straight he's not gay!) he said that it was pretty and the truth is that it isnt pretty but anyway. Everytime he passed by my side he greeted at me or he said in a cheerful voice my name twice ( he did this too much) but I dont know if a I acted wrong! I acted like if I didnt like him , sometimes I was very serious and short words with him , sometime I greeted him in a bad mood and I didnt send out the right signals. I remember one day he greeted me cheerfully and then while I was doing exercise I looked at him and he realized it and he waved a hand, smiled at me and winked me but I looked him like if He was a weird bug and Think that he felt bad and he looked down the floor... now he has changed too much and he's not sweet with me anymore and He doesnt compliment me anymore and we hardly talk. I feel so guilty because I accept that this is my fault but the jealousy over other pretty girls and the insecurities over that time , made my dream faded away. I'm so sad!! I'm sure that LOA was working perfectly and I think that he was attracted to me. I want to attract him again and beat down all my fears and insecurities and have the chance to treat him right... I'm going to take the first step and I'll approach to him. I hope things will work. Do you think is it possible? can I make it through? Do you think he liked me? thank you!!

[carpediem]

I know what you mean when you said you liked him but you were having trouble how to act around him. But I say it's still possible. You never know if you don't try. You definitely should feel confident in who you are as a person and to accept yourself from now on, though. Forgive and forget about the past. You don't have to feel guilty. Just forgive yourself and go attract him again! If it was meant to be, it can still happen.

Best of luck!

[rawxstasy]

To me seems like he liked you, but he is also a flirt. I think you can try it again but don't get too obsessed with it. Just try to be friendly to him - go out of your way to be nice to him. I used to use loa to attract a certain person but I came to realize that it was best to let the universe bring the right person to me. What you are feeling right now is chemistry - attraction. You don't really know this guy so you can't really call this love.

[curiouslyrandom]

It's not LOA that attracts a person to you, it's your own desire to be with that person.

Do you want to get to know him now? Approach him. Talk to him, let him know you actually like him. Be confident, even if you see him look at other women.

Remember that there are many, many more men out there who will make you feel amazing, even if this one does not work out. 99% of men won't be worth your time, but 1% will be. Find the people who fit into your life, and they will be there for you and you will never have to ask if they are the "right" people. You'll know for certain.

[Dulma]

To be honest, you sound clingy and attached to him. LoA isn't gonna jive with that.

[Wildfire own Coach]

What is fantastic- is you found a guy you like- who also was attracted to you (and he sounds cheeky too- like he has great energy- which is just fabulous- how exciting)- What was it about him that you liked? I have found in learning to have boundaries and to also focus more on loving me/ believing I am worthy- that role models who I see having successful lives and being able to attract what they wish for in their lives have qualities i admire and that I have worked on having. We all have a playful child within- and we all have the capacity to love. So work (even driving along) at being playful like it sounded like he was- sing the wrong words (fun ones) to songs in the car, tell yourself how groovy and wow how truly cool and attractive you are- 'wow how did I get so good looking, so funny and so fantastic'- Im 42- no oil painting- yet I see myself as being so much fun.....When in that place- (with 12 more kgs on board)- I attract so much more into my world- and people laugh with me- Its so exciting being that way (and believe me I have been my own worst enemy and terrible friend).....I still have a love path to travel along in my life however I really believe now I like, love and care for myself more (and am my own comic- not to my detriment- it increases my spirit and great sense of joy) I have no doubt Im on the right path- Life is a journey- don't make yourself wrong - dont beat yourself up with how you 'thought you looked' or thought you did wrong- Laugh at how cheeky he was- and how you liked that about him- You are a beautiful deserving joyful spirited living soul- dance (and dont care who is watching), laugh (at the crazy and fun things- believe you are truly amazing), just laugh until you really laugh- Start from here and wow- watch your space....blowing lots of positive fun, spirited you can do it energy your way....smiles, Wildfire own Coach.

[180]

Wow I love LOA and believe everything about LOA (sarcasm)

As the notorious anti-LOA guy on the steve pavlina forum (strange I know). I would suggest actually doing something if you really want to date him.

The fact he said you were pretty means he's interested in a relationship. You haven't ruined your chances at all. But you have discouraged him.

If you want to get him back, send obvious signals. Find reasons to talk to him, bump into him accidently yet make it obvious (Literally bump, my ex did this to me and I took it as a clear sign she liked me), use eye contact and bat your lashes constantly. It'll send the signals without taking the risks.

Use your feminine seductions and if you don't know how, there are some articles about body language.

He's upset because he was being a nice guy and you sort of shot him down for no reason. This has happeened to me too with girl interested in me, who didn't know how to send the correct signals and sort of lost their chance. The second time one of them approached though, I was already taken. Move fast.

[KyaSul]

The biggest misconception about the Law of Attraction i believe is the fact that it technically teaches that anything is possible if you just believe.

Unfortunately, that is not true. There are also guidelines that must be adhered to when it comes to intention manifestation.

Your manifestation cannot:

1) Bend the will of the Universe. Although we all have the ability to create and choose paths, the Universe is in affect travelling in one direction. You can change your future and your immediate surroundings, you can bend outcomes and change everything about you, where you are and who you are with, but the ultimate destiny of the collective Universe will remain the same, whatever that is. You may change your destiny and turn it 360 degrees on its head but that's just you. The destiny of the Universe as a whole, regardless of what you change for you, will remain the same.

Manifesting things that could potentially break this path will not come to pass. You cannot revive those whom have died, break the laws of physics or change the past.

2) Disrupt the free will of others. You cannot manipulate or determine the futures of others through your thoughts, you can give somebody positive elevation to boost their vibrations and what they attract but you cannot make somebody do anything. That is why you will ultimately fail.

Another misconception about Intention Manifestation:

You can use it to bring misfortune to another. But when doing so you should be prepared to (metaphorically speaking) dig two graves.

These are my beliefs on LOA only, and the beliefs of many others. I am yet to see anybody break these guide lines.

You need raise your vibrations, be the best person you can be, approach this person who sounds lovely and make amendments. If you believe that it will work, if the will is their within the both of you, then good things will come to pass. But women work in such mysterious ways. I do wonder why you pushed him away.

[KyaSul]

It doesn't matter why you did anything, actually. What matters is what you will do.

[Showtime]

Originally Posted by ktik93

I like so much a guy since the beggining of this year. When I met him I instantly felt sparks over my body. I like him so much because he's such an special guy and I've never met a guy so respectful,amicable,cheerful and big-hearted like him. At the beggining of february I used law of attraction to attract him and things worked out pretty well. He began to approach to me , he complimented me like 3 times ...that I was beautiful , he stared at me many times, once he complimented my purse ( to set the record straight he's not gay!) he said that it was pretty and the truth is that it isnt pretty but anyway. Everytime he passed by my side he greeted at me or he said in a cheerful voice my name twice ( he did this too much) but I dont know if a I acted wrong! I acted like if I didnt like him , sometimes I was very serious and short words with him , sometime I greeted him in a bad mood and I didnt send out the right signals. I remember one day he greeted me cheerfully and then while I was doing exercise I looked at him and he realized it and he waved a hand, smiled at me and winked me but I looked him like if He was a weird bug and Think that he felt bad and he looked down the floor... now he has changed too much and he's not sweet with me anymore and He doesnt compliment me anymore and we hardly talk. I feel so guilty because I accept that this is my fault but the jealousy over other pretty girls and the insecurities over that time , made my dream faded away. I'm so sad!! I'm sure that LOA was working perfectly and I think that he was attracted to me. I want to attract him again and beat down all my fears and insecurities and have the chance to treat him right... I'm going to take the first step and I'll approach to him. I hope things will work. Do you think is it possible? can I make it through? Do you think he liked me? thank you!!

And I know he liked you.

And he told you you were beautiful, that's a biggggggg time green flag dawg.

Listen, you sound around High School age (sorry if I'm wrong, lol.) Get a little piece of paper, write "I like you" on it, hand him the paper and walk away.

But from what you're saying, I'd say there's a 95% chance that this guy is into you. He sounds like he has all symptoms. He gets excited when he sees you, he gives you compliments, dude the guy likes you for sure.

The thing is you sent him signals that you weren't interested, so now he's like "oh if she's not interested then why even bother." He's probably really sad about it too.

Go act on it or you'll probably regret it for the rest of your life. Don't rely on LoA, don't visualize, go say something.

Put yourself on the line, because as I said you sound young and there's a possibility that this is (both of your) first loves, and if you don't act on it it can really eat you up inside when you get older.

[ktik93]

Originally Posted by Dulma

To be honest, you sound clingy and attached to him. LoA isn't gonna jive with that.

Hmmm maybe you're right dude.

[PositiveSelfTalk]

girl, stop giving him mixed signals... lol... law of attraction isn't going to help if you keep sabotaging youself