Goal Setting for LoA : urgent goal vs. undeniable desire

[Warasa]

Like many here, I'm trying to use LoA to achieve a better life. I figure I should pick one goal and focus intensely on it to sharpen my manifesting skills and to hopefully accelerate manifestation. You know, like how Steve always sets an area to work on for the whole year every January.

I have a career-related goal which I think is the most urgent. Don't get me started about how disheartening my current position is (that's not good for the vibe anyway), but overall I think achieving this goal will improve my life most significantly.

However, whenever I try to visualize a fulfilling career life or do some work towards it, I'm always distracted by my desire to find love! I've been single for more than a year now, and to be honest, there's nothing I want more than true love. I can't help noticing that fear, desperation, insecurity, and desire in that area sometimes hinder my primary goal of having a successful career. I do consider working on relationship-related goal solely since it seems to be my inner calling, but I just feel like work-related goals are more urgent right now.

May I ask for advice on how to release that nagging desire for things that shouldn't be the focus at the time? How to manage several desires that try to compete for your time and energy?

[SeanPatrick]

Hey Warasa,

I want to recommend to you that you be careful about the advice you take ...

Even mine.

You've got to decide what's best for you.

Personally, I don't recommend focusing on ONLY one goal in ONE area of your life.

Sure, perhaps have some more focus on one ... but note the word 'some.' By no means should you not have goals in other areas of your life.

If you relationships, health and other 'pillar goals' are suffering, than the energy of that will be translated over to your business goals as well and thus challenge them as well.

Here's what I would suggest:

Boil your business and career goals into one affirmation. Get rid of all 'negative' language within it (such as 'not working at my current job') and make it purely one that makes you feel good.

Additionally, create a relationship goal for you and boil that down to one affirmation as well and focus on that.

Of course, there's much more to goal setting than this, but that should get you on your way ...

[NorthSouth]

Hi Warasa,

I've been experiencing the exact same conflict lately, and I want to share two ideas with you.

One is to encourage your meditation or concentration on each goal to follow different triggers. You can use temporal triggers, such as meditating on your career in the morning, to inspire a productive day, and then meditating on love before bed, to inspire your dreams. You can use contextual triggers, such as feeling the love of an affectionate couple you pass on the street or concentrating on love when you see, say, the color yellow. To increase your career's momentum, you can feel the drive and sense of accomplishment of somebody speaking to an audience about working for cause that moves them.

I like temporal triggers because they're easy to make a habit of, and contextual triggers because they inspire visceral emotion, which is so key to manifestation. Using other people as triggers for an empathetic meditation has the added benefit of reducing the negative vibe you create by envying those whom you see as having what you want.

Both methods give your goals that much-needed time in the spotlight of your attention.

To help focus the above efforts, I would definitely follow SeanPatrick's advice to boil each goal down to one affirmation or image that inspires powerful emotion (feel free to modify it as necessary, of course).

The other thing that has helped me is the book Meeting Your Half-Orange, which is basically a book about LOA for love (ostensibly for both sexes, but really directed towards women). It really helped me focus my love-seeking energy and rid myself of that feeling that somehow I was "doing it wrong."

By the way, I came to this book via Carolyn Elliott's blog Awesome Your Life, which I HIGHLY recommend for help with goal-defining and manifestation.

I can't say that these ideas definitely work (I've just started using them), but they have really helped me to feel less like my big goals are trampling on each other, and that I'm giving concentrated energy to each.

[Warasa]

Thank you both! The techniques look practical. I guess it boils down to how good you can control your mental energy and keep the balance between multiple goals. (What type of success in this world does not depend on that vital skill?)

NorthSouth, I like the idea of temporal trigger. I have to think about a way to make it more deliberate (otherwise the other goal may get abandoned). And thanks for the book recommendation! I'm curious to see what it says.

Sean, I think taking your idea of sharp and precise affirmations and integrate that to time allocation would be nice as well as keeping overall energy positive. Now I have to stay in the state of awareness and implement it.

[billionairekid]

Here's an idea, focus on falling in love while moving forward with your career. You can set both goals with one intention. My affirmation would go something like "I move forward with my career while finding love with my ideal man."

[SeanPatrick]

Awesome Warasa! I'm glad it could help :-)

--Sean