Can something cease to be a vibrational match? Very confused over whats happened!!

[seirwyn]

I have had an ongoing intention for a good long time now, and keep holding it up and stopping and starting due to negative thought habits.I wanted to manifest a relationship and based my visualisations on the actual person. Finally, last autumn after 3 months of better than usual feelings, the actual person moved much closer to me and according to what a psychic told me, we almost got together. But then I began to worry whether it was him or not and the whole thing shuddered to a halt and he closed up again.
However, I got some amazing synchronistic signs that he was the one and when I was on holiday in July and feeling very good, imagining myself with him, I got two texts from psychics saying that my vibration was very positive and so this person would move towards me again in the coming months and that I was on the path that I so longed to be on. I was also told that he would become available at some point but had no timeline for this. I was also told that it felt very right between us and this psychic said she could see us together but the timing wasn’t right just yet.
However, at the same time other psychics were telling me that although he loved me very much, he was unsure of me and that I should move on. (They didn’t know anything about the law of attraction though.)
Abraham Hicks says that barriers like this don’t matter at all if you are a vibrational match. From all the messages I got it seemed that we were, given that I could make him move towards me just by feeling positive.
I got back from holiday in July and spent the next 6 weeks worrying so the small effects from my positive vibes on holiday soon wore off and he became distant again for a few weeks. But then I finally found a way to feel good again and after a few weeks he moved closer to me again. Not as close as last year-he still had barriers up but I got told by the psychics that these barriers would eventually come down.
I was getting small positive results in my life generally and last Sunday I got a very good idea for a business. So I thought that things must soon begin to progress with this man. But on Wednesday I did get a result but it was an awful one! We work together and so we were able to spend a lot of time together but this week he resigned.
Apart from email contact he is out of my life because he is currently in another (unhappy) relationship. He still hasn’t opened up to me and the things the psychics said (that were based directly on my positive vibration remember) haven’t come true yet.
For three weeks every day I imagined us going to the work Christmas party together. But he will be gone by then. Its like the exact opposite of what I wanted has happened even though I know I was doing well vibrationally because of all the other results I got. And he had begun to warm to me again.
So either he is not the one, which makes me incredibly confused given all the above signs and messages, or this is just a harsh but necessary step in us eventually getting together, even though I cant see it. He was planning to leave all along the whole time I knew him and it was his destiny, yet I still got all those messages about us getting together. I don’t think I got my act together too late because if you are meant to be nothing can stop it from happening. You can always make a chance come around again. It does feel like it was all meant to happen and the timing of it was in response to my energy, but its not what I was expecting.
I know it means that there could be someone better but that scenario doesn’t fit with all the messages I got. Or can someone stop being a vibrational match? It seemed quite clear from that one message about my vibrations putting me on the path to a relationship with him (only back in July) that he is a match.
Nothing is really making sense at the moment.

[rawxstasy]

I have been in a similar situation with a guy that I am attracted to. I know he is/was attracted to me although he is in a relationship.

The weird stuff that happened with this guy I am interested in - we've come across each other in random places in three different areas of the country. I even got a job through synchronicity in the town where he works and I had no idea he lived there, until we started seeing each randomly in a town 1200 miles from where we both originally met. Really freaky stuff. But everytime we came across each other I ignored him/pretended I didn't see him due to my own fears. I missed many opportunities.

I didn't let that upset me. What I did was work on myself - be present in the moment etc.

Eventually I have been able to let him go - just recently actually. I don't know if this is part of what I've intended in the past. I know that in order to manifest you have let go and even though I"ve tried before I wasn't able to let go until now.

Now I am at the point where I don't care whether I am with this guy or not. I think that's when manifestation is possible. But I'm not hoping for anything. The universe will bring a soul mate into my life when the time is right.

I think you are way too invested in this. You are trying too hard.

I hope this helps some.

[inverse Paranoid]

When you make your intention about achieving something, your attention to that something not yet being achieved keeps it from coming into being. When you make your intention about feeling how you want to feel, your attention to feeling that way makes you a match for drawing in the cooperative components for how you want to feel.

Think about it this way. The same energy that attracts a piece of metal to a magnet is the energy that keeps it there once they're united. The magnet simply continues to be a magnet and the metal naturally continues to be drawn to it.

So the same energy that attracts a new relationship into your life is the energy that will maintain it. And the reverse is true as well. The same energy that would maintain the relationship of your dreams is the same energy that will attract it.

If you were in the relationship of your dreams, and confident that it's here to stay, then every time you thought about your relationship or your lover you'd be happy. All kinds of yummy thoughts would naturally bubble to the surface of your mind. It would be effortless and absolutely joyous.

Now imagine you're in the exact same relationship, but you're constantly worried about losing him. Half the time you're noticing all the yummy things you can appreciate about this dream relationship, but the other half is spent analyzing everything that you're doing and trying to make sure you don't mess things up.

Which approach is more likely to maintain the relationship of your dreams?

In both scenarios you're in the exact same situation, but your focus is creating two vastly different experiences.

In the first scenario you're focused purely on what you desire and appreciate. It's like you're telling yourself "Oooo, I desire this. And I already have it!"

In the second scenario you're keeping score—taking note of all the you love and appreciate, while guarding against and fretting over anything that might bring this relationship to a premature end. It's like telling yourself, "Mmmm, I love this. Uh oh, what happens if I lose him?" And with that sort of focus, you'll eventually be focused on "Uh oh, what happens if I lose him?" long enough to attract actual evidence that suggests you might lose him. And then your focus on that will strengthen that possibility in your vibration until eventually you'll lose him. Then you'll be apart and miss each other and get back together. Then (unless your focus changes) it will repeat itself and you'll separate again, only this time for longer because the prospect of getting back together is being tainted with the potential pain of breaking up again. In short, you'll be offering an "on again, off again" vibration and attracting an "on again, off again" relationship.

And is this not what you've been experiencing in your quest to manifest this relationship? You do some visualizing and feel great, then you notice that he's getting closer and start worrying about all the things that could go wrong, so he grows distant again. You find yourself feeling inordinately good on holiday and manifest some positive evidence, but then you start worrying and so the synchonicities cease. Then you find a way to feel good again and he grows closer—thought not as close as before. You start noticing small things that seem to be working in your favor then he resigns and you start to doubt whether it's ever going to work out with him.

The pattern that I'm seeing develop is that when you focus purely on feeling good, he draws closer to you. But then you notice him drawing closer and start worrying about whether or not he's right for you and your vibration pushes him away. Then you start feeling good again while on holiday and release resistance to your worry that he might not be right to you. Synchonicities arise from that that help you feel better about him being right for you, but then you start worrying about attracting him and it pushes him away. Then you find a way to feel good again and he draws closer, but as he draws closer you start comparing it to all the other times he started to draw closer and how that didn't work and so this time you focus even more on "his barriers" and the other obstacles in your way.

Summation: The more you focus on pure joy, the closer you get to what you want. The more you focus on how close you are to what you want, the more the absence of what you want dominates your vibration and thus pushes it away.

Solution: Focus purely on feeling good.

When you can be happy with or without the relationship you're desiring, then you'll know you're a vibrational match for it. But do it for the joy of feeling good. That way your attention will be on focusing in a way that allows you to feel good (something you can control) and you will find it much easier to continue feeling good. And from a place of feeling good you can't help but manifest a life that reflects all of the yumminess you so easily feel.



PS: Sometimes I wander when first tuning into someone else's situation and trying to articulate what I feel would help the most. So feel free to ask for clarification and fill me in on any added details you think would be helpful to share.

[Malika]

The answer is Yes! because vibrational patterns are constantly changing due to the frequencies we emit as a result of ever-changing emotional and thinking emanations. Yearning and being attached to a specific desire such a wanting to be with a specific person can actually work against the desire manifesting. Do some soul searching, if this relationship is meant to be then why hasn't it manifested? It maybe you need to check in on your beliefs around relationships and check to see if there is any outmoded and sabotaging patterns you need to clear that are hindering a relationship manifesting, nothing we desire can manifest if we have deep conflicting beliefs to our desire in the recesses of our mind. You need to release this person, set him free, that's not to say you won't be a relationship with him, maybe you will end up with this person, maybe you won't, if you desire to be in a loving relationship with the man of your dreams then focus on that, BUT!!! don't put a name or face to this person, just send out the intentions to the Universe of your desire and let the Universe take care of bringing your perfect match to you, I agree with idea of simply sending out the feelings of Feeling totally fulfilled, long-lasting happiness, overflowing with joy, being abundant in all areas of life etc, I wish you the best possible outcome.
Malika