Letting Go of a Broken Heart

[LaRue]

A few months ago, my girlfriend left me an ripped my heart out of my chest. It was 5 months a go to be exact. It still hurts today just as bad as it hurt the day it happened. I have tried to manifest her back, to no avail. At this point I am just tired of being in constant pain. It hurts so badly that I've contemplated suicide. I refuse to be this person.

Can I/ How can I use IM to let her go and heal my heart? I've tried affirmations,visualization, ho'oponono, huna mediation. I cannot seem to do it.

[Showtime]

Pick up a pencil next to your computer. Literally do it.

Now let go.

Practice that daily.

[rawxstasy]

I know what you are going through. I was obssessed/infatuated with a guy for five years!!

What I started doing was go into the present moment whenever I started thinking about him. I had to do this alot as I was using him to avoid thinking and feeling things that I didn't want to deal with. It took awhile, I would do that and then see him somewhere and be back where I started, but eventually it stopped. It was the biggest relief. I still think about him, since it's only been two days since I've "let go". But I don't care about him, don't need him.

[Showtime]

Originally Posted by rawxstasy

I know what you are going through. I was obssessed/infatuated with a guy for five years!!

Wow... I couldn't do that for 5 years.

OP what you need to do is reflect. I mean, did you need that person to be happy (you didn't) do you need them to be happy now (you don't)?

You don't miss the person, you miss the feeling you had around the person. You have access to that feeling any time you want.

[SethWilliams]

Originally Posted by rawxstasy

I know what you are going through. I was obssessed/infatuated with a guy for five years!!

What I started doing was go into the present moment whenever I started thinking about him. I had to do this alot as I was using him to avoid thinking and feeling things that I didn't want to deal with. It took awhile, I would do that and then see him somewhere and be back where I started, but eventually it stopped. It was the biggest relief. I still think about him, since it's only been two days since I've "let go". But I don't care about him, don't need him.

Amazingly, Ive been there. Well, it was 4 years for me.

To OP: Showtime is right, you miss the feeling you felt when you was with them. But you can have that feeling back without them. They just showed you what you can feel, but you dont specifically need them to feel it, if that makes sense.

[Showtime]

OP maybe you wanna go through a bunch of Abraham videos on YouTube?

They're awesome because Esther allows all their audio to be posted on YouTube and they have videos on pretty much every subject you could ever possibly imagine (and everyone here knows I'm an eternal spewer of Abe videos, lol.)

YouTube - Abraham - Problem solving and past relationships

I mean was that person perfect in every single way? Like every single way? If it was like most relationships it probably had its +s and -s, and now you get to intend a whole new relationship that is perfect. You'll find that the happier you get the less you think about that, then you'll get to the point where it's like "what the hell was I thinking getting that upset about something like that??" I promise you, there's light at the end of this tunnel.

[LaRue]

@ showtime. How do I access that feeling without having it based upon how I felt w/ her? with her is the only time I've ever felt these things

[Showtime]

I mean.. I can't really offer a quick fix. Actually I can and say "just feel good, be happy, chill out about everything," but I realize that making a snap like that is rare, because many people have negative beliefs that prevent them from doing so.

What I kinda want you to realize is that, the specific girl is not what you're missing. What you're missing is the positive emotion that you associated with her. Now you're making the judgement "She's gone, now the positive emotion is gone." It's also not the specific emotion that she 'caused' that you're seeking... you're seeking positive emotion in general.

Think about it: "I was happy with her," "I can be happy with another girl," or "I can just be happy in general." It's all the same goal with different means, and by saying "I can only be happy with this one situation" you're really limiting yourself.

Love isn't really limited to one person. It's just a meaning and emotion you placed upon her. You can feel love no matter what.

I would just suggest finding some beliefs you hold about life in general and releasing them. This book: Morty Lefkoe - Recreate Your Life - Absolute must read is probably one of the best belief altering methods I've found to date, and you'll probably be able to let go of that stuff 1, 2, 3.

I understand that it might be painful and dark right now, but there's always light, as much as your brain is covering it up right now. what happened happened, the question is: do you want to hold on to that for another 5, 10, 20 years, or just clean it all up pretty quickly. Affirmations, visualization, etc only go so far, because they don't really dig deep enough. I like Lefkoe because his method really gets in there and allows you to pull stuff out by the roots.

[Matthew Cluff]

Originally Posted by LaRue

Can I/ How can I use IM to let her go and heal my heart? I've tried affirmations,visualization, ho'oponono, huna mediation. I cannot seem to do it.

Try developing a mindset that everything just "is." Nothing has any negative connotation; nothing as a good connotation. The way we view things as good or bad only deals with our perception.

There's something called the Law of Polarity, and it decrees that for something really bad, there's something that's just equally as good. Draw a line on a piece of paper, with two arrows at the end, and you put a line in the middle that says "is" and then on the left arrow, put "bad" and on the right arrow put "good. "

Now draw a point anywhere on that line. From the Law of Polarity, we understand that there's something just equally as opposite. If you give an instance a -7, there's something about that experience that's a +7. The two cancel out, and in the end, "everything just is."

That aside, you must realize that you do not have control over other people's lives; you only have control over your own. Trying all that you can to manifest her back will not work. She's a separate entity and she will make choices for herself that directly influence her life. Instead of trying to manifest "her" back into your life, I suggest trying to manifest "a person" with her characteristics back into your life. Now, in the end, it may be her, it may not be, but if you attract *someone* with specific characteristics, then the universal forces will, in time, bring such a person to you. Ensure that you raise your level of awareness at the same so that you'll notice when such a person comes your way.

Hope this helps!

To Your Success,
Matthew Cluff

[LaRue]

So after 2 mnths of no contact, this ex has contacted me to see how I was. I was just feeling better about this and she came back and turned me upside down. Is this just the universe testing my desire to let go?

[candis]

Originally Posted by LaRue

So after 2 mnths of no contact, this ex has contacted me to see how I was. I was just feeling better about this and she came back and turned me upside down. Is this just the universe testing my desire to let go?

Yes. Just remember If you go back, she'll do the same thing to you again. I don't know, I guess it's just human nature for people to toy with your feelings when you show that you care. If I were you, I would turn the tables on her, this will ease your pain.

[Betrade]

There is no quick fix and no LOA solution.

if you loved this girl you're grieving a loss and that takes time.

Stay busy, do what's fun for you 9even though you probably won't actually HAVE fun for a while) and one day at some future time you'll notice that you got through a day without thinking about her.

it's a process and you have to let it play out. I wouldn't advise hooking up with anyone else on the rebound either; at least, not for a while. it may just make you feel worse.

Besides, women can pick up on a broken heart and if you talk about too much you'll just turn them off.

Either way; good luck. You WILL LIVE and it WILL eventually get better even though you may not believe it right now.

Just don't do anything crazy and if you ever feel that you might, get immediate help. Talk to someone..

[Betrade]

Originally Posted by LaRue

So after 2 mnths of no contact, this ex has contacted me to see how I was. I was just feeling better about this and she came back and turned me upside down. Is this just the universe testing my desire to let go?

Nope. It's HER doing it. Don't blame yourself or the universe for what she's doing.

[ikeism727]

Originally Posted by LaRue

A few months ago, my girlfriend left me an ripped my heart out of my chest. It was 5 months a go to be exact. It still hurts today just as bad as it hurt the day it happened. I have tried to manifest her back, to no avail. At this point I am just tired of being in constant pain. It hurts so badly that I've contemplated suicide. I refuse to be this person.

Can I/ How can I use IM to let her go and heal my heart? I've tried affirmations,visualization, ho'oponono, huna mediation. I cannot seem to do it.

The only LOA lesson to glean from this is that the more you're desperate for someone/something, the more it will elude you. By being so needy and desperate over this person you're actually pushing her further away. You're putting out that you "lack" her and you're getting more of it in return.

I have a few friends who when they were able to let go of the person they were infatuated over and moved on the girl actually came back.

As what others said here, you have to product the feeling that you had when you were with her on your own, without her. When you get the hang of it, you'll not only attract someone else but you actually may even get this one girl back (but you can't be attached to this outcome).

Remember the phrase, "The hungry don't get fed."